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Archive for 2014

Life isn’t something to be Resolved

Wednesday, December 31st, 2014

There would be no more New Year's resolutions for her. She had come to realize that life wasn't something you could ever just resolve. Instead she chose to believe that life was a breathtaking adventure and she had the courage to live it to the fullest. - Queenisms™

There would be no more New Year’s resolutions for her. She had come to realize that life wasn’t something you could ever just resolve. Instead she chose to believe that life was a breathtaking adventure and she had the courage to live it to the fullest. – Queenisms™

Life isn’t something to be resolved. Life is a breathtaking adventure and sometimes we need to slog through the mud to get to the mountain top. Wear boots and have fun. Happy New Year Queens.

Throw in the Towel

Tuesday, December 30th, 2014

She threw in the towel and gave up the illusion that she had any control, whatsoever, over what other people thought of her. And the peace and quiet inside her head was delicious. - Queenisms™  Queenisms are jolts of inspiration, through original quotes for women and vintage images by authors Kathy Kinney and Cindy Ratzlaff. For more original inspirational quotes for women, visit http://QueenofYourOwnLife.com

She threw in the towel and gave up the illusion that she had any control, whatsoever, over what other people thought of her. And the peace and quiet inside her head was delicious. – Queenisms™

We let the notion of what other people might be thinking take up an awful lot of space in our heads, and in our hearts. And, the truth is that we have no control over “people, places or things,” as they say in 12 Step groups. The only thing we have control over is our own reactions to the events of our lives. So fretting, fearing or feeling hurt by what others might be thinking is just throwing away our own peace of mind. If we are living our lives the best we can, listening to our own inner guidance, setting strong boundaries on our time and resources, sharing our light with the world and otherwise trying to live a life of joy, then all the opinions in the world just cannot stand between us and joy.

Take a Flying Leap

Monday, December 29th, 2014

She looked in the mirror and said to herself, "I'm tired of being afraid of my own power and beauty. Today I'm going to take the leap and be myself. It's time to fly!" - Queenisms™ All rights reserved. Cindy Ratzlaff and Kathy Kinney blog and write books about claiming happiness in midlife at http://QueenofYourOwnLife.com. All of their affirmations and digital art are original, trademarked and copyright protected.

She looked in the mirror and said to herself, “I’m tired of being afraid of my own power and beauty. Today I’m going to take the leap and be myself. It’s time to fly!” – Queenisms™

Yes, it’s true. We’re telling you, dear Queens, to take a flying leap. We can’t wait to see you fly. You aren’t hiding your beauty and power, by the way. You’re simply squandering it if you don’t dare to try whatever it is you’re longing to try. Others see you for who you are; beautiful, bright, loving, funny, kind or whatever it is that represents your gifts. The only one in the dark about the real you, is you. Come out into the light and dare to shine for them and for yourself.

The Gift of An Abundance of Hope

Sunday, December 28th, 2014

This holiday season she had given herself the best gift of all - an abundance of hope for a better life. She knew in order to keep it she had to pass it on. So she began to share it with everyone around her and the world became a much brighter place. - Queenisms™ Queenisms are jolts of inspiration, through original quotes for women and vintage images by authors Kathy Kinney and Cindy Ratzlaff. For more original inspirational quotes for women, visit http://QueenofYourOwnLife.com

This holiday season she had given herself the best gift of all – an abundance of hope for a better life. She knew in order to keep it she had to pass it on. So she began to share it with everyone around her and the world became a much brighter place. – Queenisms™

Hope is one of those things that needs oxygen, like a flame. The more you take it out, blow on it, let the flames become visible, the more it grows. Why not invite everyone you know to sit around your burning fire of hope and share stories, ideas, encouragement and support. Create your own circle of support intentionally and nurture one another throughout the year. Hope means you believe in the possibility that what is in your heart could come true. We believe in hope and we believe in you.

What if Everyone Said What They Meant?

Saturday, December 27th, 2014

It occurred to her what a brilliant world it would be if everyone just said what they meant and meant what they said. She decided it was time to stop being part of the problem and instead be part of the solution. - Queenisms™

It occurred to her what a brilliant world it would be if everyone just said what they meant and meant what they said. She decided it was time to stop being part of the problem and instead be part of the solution. – Queenisms™

We think honesty is one of the most desirable traits in both ourselves and our friends. We look for that when determining if an investment in time is indicated as we meet new people. We believe that without honesty, a real friendship is simply not possible. And so, we work hard to be rigorously honest ourselves. Honesty is not an excuse for rudeness or unkind behavior, however. When we’re honest, it must be with love or at the very least, without agenda. But no matter what, we will always be grateful for people who say what they mean, clearly, kindly and quickly.

Keep Your Promise to Yourself

Friday, December 26th, 2014

She had promised to take care of herself and to never let herself down. She was the Queen of her own life and she worked hard to keep that promise. - Queenisms™

She had promised to take care of herself and to never let herself down. She was the Queen of her own life and she worked hard to keep that promise. – Queenisms™

How many times have you chosen the needs of others before the needs of yourself? Now that’s fine when we’re caring for loved ones who cannot care for themselves, like children and the elderly. But when it comes to putting the needs of casual acquaintances above your own needs, something’s got to give. Promise yourself that you’ll always have your own back.

Merry Christmas 2014

Thursday, December 25th, 2014

 When she woke up she took a moment to organize her priorities. She decided that today, as with all days, her number one priority would be to give and receive love. It was what she, and the world, needed. - Queenisms™ Merry Christmas to all!

When she woke up she took a moment to organize her priorities. She decided that today, as with all days, her number one priority would be to give and receive love. It was what she, and the world, needed. – Queenisms™ Merry Christmas to all!

You Are Meant to Feel Joy

Wednesday, December 24th, 2014

Life was meant to be enjoyed. She promised herself to relax and do just that. - Queenisms™

Life was meant to be enjoyed. She promised herself to relax and do just that. – Queenisms™

Too often we get into the habit of thinking life is to be endured or survived. And, honestly, sometimes it seems that way. But we believe life was meant to be enjoyed. You deserve to have a life filled with joy. But no one is going to knock on your door and hand deliver joy. You have to create your own joy through the small, daily choices you make. The people, places and things in which you invest your time are some of the choices you’ll make that create joy or allow joy to flourish in your life. Do an inventory and ask yourself, “does this bring me joy?”

The Grass is not always Greener on the Other Side

Tuesday, December 23rd, 2014

The grass was not greener on the other side. She knew because she'd looked. Turned out happiness was a practice, not a place. So she made the choice to practice every day. - Queenisms™  an original, trademarked digital art piece and writing by authors Kathy Kinney and Cindy Ratzlaff. http://QueenofYourOwnLife.com

The grass was not greener on the other side. She knew because she’d looked. Turned out happiness was a practice, not a place. So she made the choice to practice every day. – Queenisms™

It’s easy to fall into thinking that someone else has a happier life than we do. Maybe they’re thinner, richer, smarter, more creative, luckier or have a high achieving family. If happiness were something that could be guaranteed by all those things, the tabloid magazines would have to fold. We believe happiness is something that must be practiced using the tools of gratitude, positive self talk and boundary setting. Daily habits of happiness grow into a lifetime of joy. Really.

Surround Yourself with Support

Monday, December 22nd, 2014

As the Queen of her own life, surrounding herself with positive, supportive people was the best gift she could give herself. She decided it was a good day to show appreciation to the people around her who made life a bit brighter. - Queenisms™

As the Queen of her own life, surrounding herself with positive, supportive people was the best gift she could give herself. She decided it was a good day to show appreciation to the people around her who made life a bit brighter. – Queenisms™

You are so wise to surround yourself with people who uplift you rather than tear you down. And, if you’re not, there is no better time than now to rectify that. When we do find friends who are our cheerleaders, honest mirrors and partners in joy, these friendships must be nurtured. They are crucial for our lifelong well-being and one of the most lovely gifts we can give to ourselves. Why not take a moment today to tell someone how much they mean to you?