Queen of Your Own Life by Kathy Kinney and Cindy Ratzlaff

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Archive for 2017

Time To Just Be Yourself

Monday, April 24th, 2017

She decided to just be herself and let the chips fall where they may. Wise Queens do things like that. - Queenisms™

She decided to just be herself and let the chips fall where they may. Wise Queens do things like that. – Queenisms™

The message is so loud and strong that we are not okay the way we are but that doesn’t make it true.  Letting go of pretenses and just being yourself is the perfect way to find out who are really your true and trusted friends.  It’s also a great way to open your life to let in people who love and enjoy you for who you really are.  Showing up every day and being yourself is like taking a breath of  pure, clean air.  It will make you fell deliciously free.

Being Patient With Yourself

Friday, April 21st, 2017

She decided she would practice being patient with family, friends, pets and especially herself. - Queenisms™

She decided she would practice being patient with family, friends, pets and especially herself. – Queenisms™

We are more impatient with ourselves than we are with anyone else in our lives.  We would never let anyone else speak to us the way we speak to ourselves.  Everyday life can be so frustrating with the need to rush around and accomplish such a huge amount of work, it’s no wonder we often find ourselves impatient with everyone around us.  That’s why it’s so important to, at least once a day, stop, take a breath and relax.  Perfection can be fatal to fun, friendship and love.  It’s better to get less done and instead treat all the people in our lives with love – especially ourselves.

Hello To Your Future

Thursday, April 20th, 2017

She decided to take a vacation from "would've, should've, could've." It was so wonderful, she never went back. - Queenisms™

She decided to take a vacation from “would’ve, should’ve, could’ve.” It was so wonderful, she never went back. – Queenisms™

Living a life full of regrets for things we “would’ve, should’ve, could’ve” done is not fun or productive.  Letting go of past choices and moving on does require a bit of practice but the results are so worth it – you are worth it!  All the choices we have made and the experiences that we’ve had because of them, have made us the women we are right now.  And, what we have learned and the courage we have gained makes it possible for us to keep moving forward to make better and more positive choices today and in the future.

Everything Will Be All Right

Wednesday, April 19th, 2017

She needed a reminder so she wrote herself a note and kept it on her mirror. It said, "Everything will be all right no matter what." - Queenisms™

She needed a reminder so she wrote herself a note and kept it on her mirror. It said, “Everything will be all right no matter what.” – Queenisms™

Nobody really wants change or  to face the many catastrophe’s that life throws in our path but they’re going to happen anyway.  We have all faced a great number of these ordeals already and survived them.  Understanding that we will be all right no matter what is a give born of experience.  Hanging on to our sense of humor and with full belief in our resilience, there is nothing we can’t face and survive.  We are all so much braver and stronger than we even know.

Walk Away From Negativity

Tuesday, April 18th, 2017

It was her choice. She could let negativity kick her in the pants or she could walk away. She put on her shoes, opened the door and said, "Buh-bye now." - Queenisms™

It was her choice. She could let negativity kick her in the pants or she could walk away. She put on her shoes, opened the door and said, “Buh-bye now.” – Queenisms™

Negativity is like a magnet, it pulls people, places and things into our lives that we don’t need.  Letting go of our own negativity and the people in our lives who bring their own drama with them is a choice and we get to make it every day. It requires a bit of practice to see our lives with gratitude for what we have instead of anger and resentment for what we don’t have.  This simple practice will ultimately open the door for all things positive to walk right in.

Never Too Late To Be Happy

Monday, April 17th, 2017

She reminded herself that it was never too late to have a happy childhood. So that's exactly what she gave herself. - Queenisms™

She reminded herself that it was never too late to have a happy childhood. So that’s exactly what she gave herself. – Queenisms™

Most childhoods fall between getting a pony for your birthday and living just inside the gates of hell.  Whether you thrived or suffered as a child you have the power right now to treat yourself with all of the love and respect you want and need.  We’re not saying go out and buy yourself the pony but we are talking about giving yourself the gift of unconditional love.  When was the last time you looked in the mirror and asked yourself, “What can I do today to make you happy?”  It’s a powerful experience and you are so worth it.

Being Who You Truly Are

Friday, April 14th, 2017

She chose to live her day as a powerful, intelligent woman who had the ability to navigate the day with grace and humor because that's who she truly was. - Queenisms™

She chose to live her day as a powerful, intelligent woman who had the ability to navigate the day with grace and humor because that’s who she truly was. – Queenisms™

If you gathered 100 women in a room and asked them what they thought of themselves, you would be surprised that 99.99% of them had low self-esteem and the other micro percent were just not admitting it.  We are so much more than the foolish things we have come to believe about ourselves.  We all have the ability to choose how to live each day and so why not choose to live it with your sense of humor in tact and continuously nurturing the understanding that you are perfect just the way your are.

Perfection Takes the Fun Out of Life

Thursday, April 13th, 2017

Oh jeepers, she thought. Nobody is perfect and life's a lot more fun because we're not. - Queenisms™

Oh jeepers, she thought. Nobody is perfect and life’s a lot more fun because we’re not. – Queenisms™

We all have that idea in our head of what the perfect woman would do – how she would look, dress, cook and keep her home.  That woman doesn’t exist anywhere on the planet.  We love Martha Stewart but she did flick our perfection button for a while.  We guarantee that Martha does not live the perfect life that she has portrayed on TV and neither do we.  Trying to make everything perfect takes the fun out of right now.  If you’re serving someone a cake that you made, they’re not judging the way the cake looks, they feel special that you spent your valuable time making it for them.  Save your free time for love and friendship and leave the perfectionism to television shows.

Let Yourself Shine

Wednesday, April 12th, 2017

Her energy was powerful enough to light up, if not the whole world, at least a ten block radius. She decided to let it shine. - Queenisms™

Her energy was powerful enough to light up, if not the whole world, at least a ten block radius. She decided to let it shine. – Queenisms™

One day we realized we were tired of denying our power and our beauty.  We had listened to other peoples opinions of us and compared ourselves to images we saw in the media and found ourselves lacking.  We were still telling ourselves these same old faulty stories that we had been muttering to ourselves for years.  It was time to stop.  We are all so much more powerful, resilient and beautiful than we give ourselves credit for.  We all have the power to light up our corner of the world if not more!  Why wait?  Let yourself shine now.

 

Let Go of Negativity

Tuesday, April 11th, 2017

She decided to stop hanging on to negativity and instead let it just pass right through her. She had finally realized that it was her choice. Life didn't have to be so hard. - Queenisms™

She decided to stop hanging on to negativity and instead let it just pass right through her. She had finally realized that it was her choice. Life didn’t have to be so hard. – Queenisms™

We all have a friend, family member even co-worker who never has anything good to say and is always surrounded by a cloud of negativity.  You feel like you need to take a shower or at least a few breaths of fresh air after you spend time with them.  The two choices to deal with this are gently let these people go out of your life or imagine letting their negativity travel right through you never stopping until it hits the earths core.  Why not use your imagination to help heal your life.  It’s your choice, life doesn’t have to be so hard.