It can be exhausting trying to monitor the thoughts and actions of everyone around us. We’ve got a checklist in our heads of how they should act, when they should help, how they should know when to back off and what they should think. But, of course, the truth is we have no control – WHATSOEVER – over anything they think, do or say. If you’ve raised children, you’ll be aware of the moment you realized they had independent thoughts and later on, realized they were making choices without us. This is the natural way of things in parenting and it’s a good reminder that people are independent of one another even as we crave community with one another. When we lash ourselves to someone we want to change or control, we’re conversely putting our own needs and desires aside to focus on the person we want to change. This, in our humble opinion, is not a good use of our time and will lead to a feeling of having failed. Focusing on ourselves, our passions, our joys and our hopes will give us a far better outcome and a little clarity on the futility of playing on a playground filled with bullies or naysayers when there’s another lovely playground right around the corner. Play more, Queens, with people who enjoy your company.
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