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Queen of Your Own Life

Ask Yourself, What Do I Want?

Queenisms are original jolts of inspiration and vinatge images put together by authors Kathy Kinney and Cindy Ratzlaff. All rights reserved but pinning is encouraged.

She gave herself the gift of a moment of reflection to ask herself one simple question. “What do I want?” Just the act of asking made her feel more buoyant. ~ Queenisms™

It’s sadly a rarity when we pause and give ourselves a moment of reflection. When we do, we don’t often ponder questions such as “am I happy,” “what do I want,” or “is what I’m doing now contributing to the life I could be living?” We want to let you know that happiness is the natural state of being. It’s your birthright. You were not born to be miserable. You have great potential to spread goodness in the world simply by making small daily choices to embrace happiness or reject unhappiness.

If a child puts their hand near an open flame, we leap toward them to say “keep away from the fire. You’ll get burned.” But somehow we tend to forget that lesson ourselves and we put ourselves into that flame again and again. If life is burning you, step away from the flame. It’s that easy and that hard, all at the same time. The hard part is that we often mourn the loss of people, places or things we hoped would be different. But we are not responsible for making them different. We are only responsible for our reactions to them. If they burn us, step away.

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3 Responses to “Ask Yourself, What Do I Want?”

  1. pam alexander says:

    Your queenisms and passages are truly saving me. i see myself in almost all of them. i am leaving a physically, emotionally and verbally relationship after 19 years. Thank you.

  2. Terri says:

    This is so perfect. Especially the part about ‘mourning the loss of people… we hoped would be different. “That’s it exactly. So wise and so encouraging. Thank you!!

  3. cindy says:

    Sometimes if we allow ourselves to fee the loss, we can move on. Kind of like a wake for what we thought the relationship could be but wasn’t.

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