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Be Not a Victim of Snarkiness

Kathy Kinney and Cindy Ratzlaff are the authors and artists behind Queenisms, a trademark of Queen of Your Own Life.

She was done being the thin-skinned victim of other people’s snarkiness and unkind words. No one could hurt her feelings unless she let them so she decided she wasn’t going to let them. She was the strong and resilient Queen of her own life. – Queenisms™

We’re not saying you can’t be hurt by the sharp words of unkind people. We’re saying you can choose how you react. You can allow those words to bounce around in your brain and take you to a dark place or you can take away their power. We like to say to ourselves: “Well that hurt. But I know these words to be untrue. I will not give them another moment of power over me.” Then give yourself permission to see that people who spread negative words are often wounded, hurt and suffering themselves.

Are you able to take away the power of hurtful words?

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5 Responses to “Be Not a Victim of Snarkiness”

  1. Teresa Draper says:

    The best way to deflect the pain from hurtful comments is to realize that the comments originated as a response to someone else’s pain. Be thankful that you don’t have to respond in kind or perpetuate the hurt.

    I have decided to walk away from people who need to hurt me until I feel strong enough to try to ease their pain, too.

  2. Joyce says:

    How do you walk when it is your mother making the very unkind, hurtful remarks.

  3. Susan says:

    You don’t need to listen to people who are being mean. I like their quote: “Well, that hurt. But I know these words to be untrue.” I might try saying that to someone. Or I might just ignore them. Even if it is my mom.

  4. cindy says:

    Sometimes those closest to us have the most power to hurt us, Queen Susan…until we say “no more.”

  5. cindy says:

    Try saying this to Mom. “Those kinds of remarks feel very hurtful to me. I know I’ve let them slide in the past but I’m not going to do that going forward. I’m going to tell you, at the moment, when you say something that hurts me and maybe together we can break the habit we’ve fallen into.”

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