When she moved from “let me do it for you,” to “let me love you while you learn to do it yourself,” everything changed. – Queenisms™
Before you say this is easier said than done, let us say it for you. We want to love and protect and nurture our family and friends. These instincts come from a place of love but there comes a time when many of us cross over the line from helping to enabling learned helplessness. And, in the process we deplete ourselves, blur the boundaries that form a healthy relationship and lose ourselves in the process. If any of this sounds familiar, you are not alone. Been there, done that. But we’re here to tell you it is possible to do things differently. It will, however take practice. We start by admitting to ourselves those circumstances in which our desire to smooth the path for others may possibly be holding both them and us back from experiencing the joy of “doing it yourself.” When we do everything for everyone, no one wins. We’d love to hear your experiences here, Queens. When we share our stories, we share our strength.