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Cherish Yourself

Protect and Cherish Yourself is an original Queenisms by Kathy Kinney and Cindy Ratzlaff. All rights reserved. http://QueenofYourOwnLife.com

She realized that no one could hurt her feelings unless she let them. So she decided that she wasn’t going to let them. She was learning to protect and cherish herself. – Queenisms™

There is a phenomenon whereby the happier, healthier and more joyful you become, the more you attract people who somehow can’t bear to see anyone doing “better than them.” It’s nonsense, of course, but it still hurts. But lashing out or pouting about it doesn’t change things. The very best thing, we’ve found, is to simply not accept the hurtful remarks or actions as valid. We find that when we encounter someone with ill will toward us, it helps to say this to ourselves; “How very much emotional pain this person must be in to try to hurt me with their actions and words. I will put distance between us because I protect and cherish myself. I will also keep a kind thought for them in hopes that they recover their senses. But I am not responsible for their transformation from hateful to loving. My job is to save me from their current actions and words.”

How about you? Is there something you like to say to yourself to keep yourself from being dragged in the muck by people in pain?

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2 Responses to “Cherish Yourself”

  1. Nancy says:

    Hmmm. I don’t really say anything specific. I go more to feeling what my body is telling me. Recently, I found myself in somewhat of a shocked state about a comment made to me from someone who is very close to me.

    Instead of lashing back out, which is essentially engaging with his energy, I stopped the conversation and took a whole day to observe what I was feeling. I didn’t let myself get attached to his comments.

    After a day, we sat together and had a conversation about his comments toward me. Turned out, I sat calmly, asking questions that helped him explore his actions and feelings. I already knew his comments weren’t directed at me personally. He simply forgot to look in the mirror and see who these comments were really about. All is good.

  2. cindy says:

    Wow, Nancy, that’s a wonderful outcome for something that could have derailed you both. Bravo on your clear-headed action and for listening to your body.

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