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Queen of Your Own Life

Choosing to Forget and Forgive

She decided to get really good at forgetting and forgiving. It was her life and she didn't want to waste a minute of it on a bunch of horse feathers. - Queenisms™

She decided to get really good at forgetting and forgiving. It was her life and she didn’t want to waste a minute of it on a bunch of horse feathers. – Queenisms™

Forgetting and forgiving are life skills that can mean the difference between happiness and sorrow. Holding on to hurt, and or regret, closes us off to experiencing joy in the present. When we are hurt or angry, we feel bound up with the strain of those emotions. We hang onto them like a righteous sword. We put ourselves in a state of anxiousness. We do not resolve, move past or fix anything by holding onto hurt or regret. But when we forgive, we can move toward forgetting. And, we get it. We may never forget some things. But we can get to a place where they don’t occupy such a large chunk of our thoughts. We deserve to make space in our lives for more joy. And, we can choose to forget and forgive.

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2 Responses to “Choosing to Forget and Forgive”

  1. Michelle says:

    Well put. I was recently asked how I could forgive the person that abused me as a child and how I could still allow that person limited access to my life, how I can go on acting “normal” like nothing happened. The offending person asked for forgiveness and changed (toward me and the whole family) It didn’t come easy and it didn’t happen over night. It wasn’t my fault and I have since come to realize what happened to me happened for a reason. That reason came to me 3yrs ago when a friends child asked for help because she was being abused by her step-dad. What happened to me happened so that I could be placed in the path of this child to help her and her mom. Wasting time on “Why Me?” when you should be thinking “Why not me? Why should it happen to anyone else?” Is a waste of time and a waste of life. Forgive, even if it’s not requested, don’t forget it but don’t live in stinkin’ thinkin’.

  2. cindy says:

    Queen Michelle, you are a brave, wise and generous person. And, we’re grateful for you today and every day. No one should have to experience what you experienced. And, we’re glad you were in that child’s path to help shorten the child’s horrible experience.

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