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Clean Your Mental Closet of Negative Self Talk

Cindy Ratzlaff and Kathy Kinney blog and write books about claiming happiness in midlife at http://QueenofYourOwnLife.com. Alll of their affirmations and digital art are original.

Banishing negative self-talk is one of the seven steps to claiming happiness we outline in our book, Queen of Your Own Life. When the negative messages come from within, they’re more powerful and more destructive than anything coming from the outside world. When we talk about cleaning your mental closet, here’s what we mean.  When you hear yourself saying something hurtful to yourself, stop. Physically stop. Now say “wait a minute, that’s not true. I’m not worthless, hopeless, stupid, lazy or insert your self insult here.” Now, and this is key, replace the negative statement with a positive one.  For example, you spill milk and automatically say “I’m so stupid.” Stop and repeat after us. “Wait a minute. That’s not true. I am not stupid. I had an accident. This is not fatal. It is just annoying. I will make a mental note to slow down so I don’t spill again. I’m an intelligent person and making the choice to slow down proves that. Good for me.”

Are you replacing negative self-talk with affirming language? We’d love to hear what you’re saying to yourself. Sharing is caring.

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4 Responses to “Clean Your Mental Closet of Negative Self Talk”

  1. Jana Stanley says:

    Thank you so much, now to practice until it becomes a habit. I’m an habitual self cutter. I do this because I know that the only person I can change is “ME”. I know I’m not that way all the time, because I do defend myself when, say, the ex-husband cuts or cusses me, but then I realize(too late)that he is mental & a liar to boot. I don’t have your book, I may see if the library does and check it out.

  2. carol says:

    I call myself “pretty girl” as often as possible.

  3. cindy says:

    What a great idea, Queen Carol.

  4. cindy says:

    You are doing a great job, Queen Jana. <3

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