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Queen of Your Own Life

Commit | Claim the Crown to Harvest Happiness

by Cindy Ratzlaff

We’re always talking about the fact that you have a choice about how you’re going to view your life and how you’re going to live it.  Recently some people have written to us to say they don’t have a choice.  They’ve been let go from their jobs, they’ve lost a loved one, they’re worried about money and none of these things were their choice.

I agree.  The things that happened to them were not their choice.  The choice that is ours to make is how we respond.  Do we throw ourselves down on the couch and wail (maybe for a bit) or do we get up, acknowledge that something terrible happened and move on?  That’s the point.

Think about it this way.  “If I do nothing, where will I be in six months?”  Probably still on that couch.  Is that what we want for ourselves?  If not, then we need to make a different choice.

We have women in the Queen community who face enormous struggles every day.  They have children who are hurt, husbands who’ve died, homes that have been foreclosed on, daily pain.  But, they get up, adjust their attitude and move forward.

Let’s commit to choice today in their honor..

9 Responses to “Commit | Claim the Crown to Harvest Happiness”

  1. Sharon says:

    Amen. Everyday, it’s a personal choice: will I have a gloriously good, happy, cheerful, positive day today? Such power to have in one’s hands…why would we choose to be powerless?

  2. cindy says:

    Positively and powerfully said, Sharon. Thank you!!

  3. Janet says:

    I think because we are women, our emotions can get in the way. It may “feel” like we have no choice. But our lives are summed up in the series of choices we have made. It’s that 90 / 10 principle. 10% is what happens, 90% is how we respond.
    Accept where you are, then take action!

  4. Darlene says:

    Oh I needed to read this today. Thank you for making me get dressed and out the door.

  5. cindy says:

    Glad to inspire, Queen Darlene 🙂

  6. cindy says:

    So true, Queen Janet. When we accept responsibility for our actions and not for the actions of others, we change the whole dynamic of our lives. We’re responsible for our choices and we do not have any control over the choices of others.

  7. Bonnie says:

    I share with my clients, give yourself 6 to 60 seconds to make everyday choices,like what to chose to eat, what to do for exercise, who to conect with today, how to respond to others … yes, life is all about choices and how we respond to them. I don’t deny that for the big things in our lives, we often need time to grieve, so we can let go and then realize we do have choices, even if it is just to get up the next day and think about our choices! Thanks for a great conversation piece!

  8. Cheryl says:

    Your majesty’s, I so needed to read these words of wisdom and encouragement today, I’m 56 and recently re entered the health care field, starting from the bottem up. AGAIN! most of my co workers are barely out of high school, I’ll say no more lol !Bless their hearts( I’m from the South) Any way my goal is to work, go to school, and renew my nursing license. My kids r raised, so that part is so much easier.I also have fibromyalgia, but have decided to no longer let it rule my life. Thanks so very much for this site I needed ,and still do need a big shot of self esteem for the chapter in my life!

  9. cindy says:

    Cheryl, That’s fantastic. You’re our heroine!

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