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Queen of Your Own Life

Defeating the Big Fat Lie

She had been taught that nice girls don't toot their own horn. But her grace, humor and intelligence made her shine so brightly that she didn't have to toot anything. - Queenisms™

She decided to forgive herself for never believing she was enough. It had been a big, fat lie. – Queenisms™

Next time you think to yourself, “I’m not good enough,” we want you to stop and say out loud, “Liar, liar, pants on fire.” Sounds silly, we know. But here’s the truth. Words matter. When we tell ourselves untruths, it affects us physically and emotionally. We’re engaging in a form of abuse, and we’re doing it to ourselves. Rescue yourself from the hands of this abuser and distance yourself from this kind of emotional manipulations. Then forgive yourself for ever having believed it in the first place.

How? With practice, patience and humor. Not as easy as it sounds, you say? You’re right. It’s not easy. Neither is any skill worth having. Did you ride a bike first time up? Did you sit down at a piano and play a concerto perfectly? Did you learn to walk but simply standing up? Do you beat yourself up because you didn’t speak at birth? No, because you know these life skills took practice. So does happiness and believing in yourself. Self-esteem is a practiced habit and anything to the contrary is a big, fat lie.

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One Response to “Defeating the Big Fat Lie”

  1. Michelle says:

    This has been the story of my life. Thank you for putting it into words and dragging it into the light.

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