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Emotional Landmines Ahead

Deflect Hurt Holiday Feelings

She didn’t want to waste any of the holiday season this year with having hurt feelings. So when she realized that no one could hurt her feelings unless she let them – she decided not to let them. What a relief to not take life so personally. – Queenisms™


Deflect hurt holiday feelings and defuse these emotional landmines by reminding yourself that everyone brings a lot of baggage to the holiday table. We can feel left out, judged, slighted, mocked or worse. So remember that sometimes the perpetrators of painful moments are themselves hurt and wounded. Better yet, try this nifty phrase that helps us get through a judgmental moment:

“That’s interesting that you feel that way. Thank you for sharing.”

With this one phrase, you acknowledge but do not take in the comment or action. You simply deflect. What else could we do when we feel hurt? Let’s make a list of resources to help one another.

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