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All rights reserved. Cindy Ratzlaff and Kathy Kinney blog and write books about claiming happiness in midlife at http://QueenofYourOwnLife.com. All of their affirmations and digital art are original, trademarked and copyright protected.

She’d said yes to everyone for so long she almost forgot what it was like to say yes to herself. Then she realized that every morning she had a second chance. ~ Queenisms™

When we first realize we’ve been saying no to ourselves by saying yes, all the time, to everyone else, we can feel sad or even a little ashamed of neglecting ourselves. As Cher says to Nicolas Cage in Moonstruck, “Snap Out of It.” Creating a life where we say yes to ourselves more often than no means changing our habits and our attitudes. For example, if we want to right size our weight for health reasons, our first thought might be “I have to say no to sugar.” But what if we adjust that lens and think “I have to say yes to feeling good in my body.”  Saying no to some of the requests for our time also means saying yes to creating the time to focus on something important to us. No time to read, write, knit, garden, play or whatever lights you up inside? We humbly suggest there is plenty of time but you’ve given it to someone else by saying yes to every request. Of course, sometimes we must say yes when we want to say no. A loved one is hurt or sick and needs our care, a friend needs support, a pipe bursts and we need to wait for the plumber…life often requires a yes when we long to keep our yeses to ourselves. BUT, there are many discretionary yeses we’re giving out that could easily be reined in.

Whenever there is a request for your time, ask yourself these three questions. Am I willing to do this? Do I want to do this? Am I able to do this? If the answer to all is yes, go ahead and give your yes with love. If the answer to any of these is no, practice releasing the asker to find someone else by simply declining. We like to say “I’m sorry. That won’t be possible. Thank you for asking me though, maybe next time.” Happiness is a practice. Practice saying yes to yourself this week, Queens.

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