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Feeling Worthy | The Battle for You

by Kathy Kinney

After my trip to the gym the other day I had so much energy circulating in my body that I couldn’t sleep that night.  As I lay in bed, wide awake, I thought if Cindy told me that she wanted to get healthier, move more, eat less I would immediately ask how could I help.  I would do anything to help her – get up early to walk with her, driver her to the gym or even offer to do a healthy grocery-shopping excursion.  If I am willing to do that for my best friend why is it so difficult to do it for myself?

If any friend asked me for help I would be there.  Even as I type this I can feel a surge of strength at the idea of helping someone accomplish a goal.  Oddly enough when I think of helping myself I don’t feel the same rush of passion.  Aren’t I a friend to me?  Don’t I deserve my own help?

Obviously, I show up for myself in many ways everyday.  Still sometimes the language I need to motivate myself escapes me.  Years ago to quit smoking I would hold my own hand and repeat over and over, “I love you please don’t smoke.”  It worked cause I haven’t wanted or thought about a cigarette in decades.  Maybe a declaration of self-love or two on occasion would help me to achieve my goals now.  After all, aren’t I worthy of the same support I would give my best friend?

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2 Responses to “Feeling Worthy | The Battle for You”

  1. Diane says:

    Kathy-this is so absolutely true. I am on the journey of learning to love and take care of myself just as I would a friend. This last year has been a journey for me as my marriage of 30 years ended. I knew I had 2 choices-one-melt into a puddle or two-take the second half of my life and make it extraordinary. I have chosen two. The journey has taught me that I need to take care of myself first. I deserve to be nurtured and loved. So I have made a vow to be true to myself and my feelings, not to apologize for how I feel or how I choose to take care of myself. I continue to support my friends as this has been part of my healing process. Life is a circle and at the center of the circle is ME! If I don’t take care of me how will I be there for others-if not now, when? Happy Friday, my fellow queens. Your book and daily messages have been a lifeline for me in the midst of my stormy journey. Thank you for your positive encouragement. You are making a difference in this world. God Bless you both!

  2. WOW! Both your blog, and the one Cindy wrote today relate to the one that I wrote myself today. Seems we are on the same wave length! Still searching for the answer to that why…hoping to find answer sooner than later.

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