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Forgiveness | The Battle for You

by Cindy Ratzlaff

I’ve been struggling with change. Some of the habits that give me comfort, also lead to distress because they aren’t really good for me. And, so I find myself stuck in a circle of shame as I try to eat healthier, over indulge in comfort, and wake up feeling like a failure and filled with shame.  Then, often, I start the whole cycle again.

I need to break the cycle and taking the comfort items out of the equation always seems like the best option but this way of approaching the problem hasn’t worked–ever.  And, so for today, I’m going to try a new approach.  I’m going to forgive myself.

Those negative thoughts that tell me I can’t change or that I’m not worth the effort or that I’ll fail anyway need to be banished and today I’m doing battle with my own Mongol Horde.

If any of this sounds familiar to you, join the battle and repeat after me because words are powerful weapons.  “I forgive you. You’re doing the best you can and sometimes you stumble. Today is a fresh new day and I give you permission to try again. I will not beat you up today over yesterday’s shortcomings. This is a new day.”  So sayeth the Queen.

This is a new day, filled with new possibilities and new opportunities to make different choices.  I would like to wake up to a different emotion than shame and regret.  I wish that for every Queen.

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4 Responses to “Forgiveness | The Battle for You”

  1. Kathy says:

    Wouldn’t it be great if we could all soak in a brimming tub of unconditional self love? I think that’s my new bath time image. What do you think is the scent of unconditional love?

  2. Cheryle Bell says:

    4giving ourselves 7 4giving others! We need 2 refuse 2B offended by anyone,anything,or any circumstanc. If something happens 2 upset us,we need 2 state what we feel from our hearts and THEN work 2 eliminate it and let it go!! By not being offended it is a way of saying-I HAVE CONTROL over how Im going 2 feel and I CHOOSE 2 feel peaceful regardless of what is going on around me.It is our own Ego’s that demand our world and the people in it B as we think they should B! TRUE LOVE IS WITHOUT resentment & readily offers 4giveness! Love & 4giveness can inspire us 2 work 4 what we stand 4, rather than what we are against!!

  3. Shera says:

    Cindy, it’s as if you’ve crawled inside my brain and expressed my frustrations and feelings more clearly than I’ve been able to in ages. Now that some time has passed, have you been successful in breaking the cycle? Any suggestions?

  4. cindy says:

    Shera, it’s a day to day struggle to keep forgiving myself and keep encouraging myself at the same time. It helps me to think about speaking to myself the same way I’d speak to a friend who was suffering from similar feelings. I know I’d be gentle and I’d say “Hey, get up, try again. What else are you going to do? Just sit there and feel hopeless?” So I offer you the same thing. We both woke up this morning and so we have a choice. I’m going to move forward today, in a profoundly imperfect way and tell myself (as though I’m my best friend) “I choose you.” I know it’s hard. So today I’ll tell you, Shera. I choose you and I think you can choose yourself too. It’s a practice. Let’s practice together.

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