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Happiness | Naming and Claiming Our Royalty

by Kathy Kinney

Happiness.  Look in the mirror and repeat after us, “Happiness is good health and a bad memory.  I am making the decision today not to be bothered by other peoples negativity.”

The above quote from the actress Ingrid Bergman came to me yesterday while on my way home from the grocery store.  

As I was driving a woman ran a stop sign and almost broadsided me.  I slammed on my brakes and when I honked my horn at her she rolled down her window and started yelling at me.  I yelled back and the whole thing ended with her pealing away shouting, “you fat #@&%,” as I shot back, “Yah, well same to you ya skinny #@&%!

I burst out laughing immediately.  I don’t think I’ve ever called anyone a skinny #@&% before.  The truth is I was feeling a little stressed when I left my house and the woman that almost hit me was obviously overwhelmed with her life.  As my laughter washed over me I felt my stress drift away.  I was having a bad moment and she was having a bad moment and I decided to let it go and forgive her and myself.   The support I got when I called Cindy helped me find closure and we both had a good laugh about how exciting it is to drive in L.A.  As we hung up she reminded me that 2 out of every 3 people I meet today are getting together with their families this week.  I drove home very carefully.

Thanksgiving is my favorite holiday.  I have made the decision not to let anyone’s negativity, whether stranger or family member, get in the way of my enjoyment during this entire festive season.  A funny image I use is imaging that each morning in the shower I am being coated with a perfect clear coat of Teflon.  That way all day everyone else’s bad attitude, anger and stress just slide right off of me.  I am the Queen of my own life and I choose to live in positivity because I deserve it.

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10 Responses to “Happiness | Naming and Claiming Our Royalty”

  1. Liza Estrada says:

    thank you I so needed to read this right now for I am not ready for the holidays with anyone right now.Going threw a time I would just rather be alone.(I Feel the stress,)going yo make my self a copy and carry it with me during these Holidays..Thank you Queens form the bottom of my heart <3 God bless enjoy your Holiday's

  2. Doretta says:

    I absolutely love this story!! A perfect exampe of we allow others to determine how we feel and how easy it is to turn it around!! LOVE IT!!

  3. Janet Morrissey says:

    Oh, how I needed to hear this today! Thank you so much, Queen Kathy!

  4. pam says:

    Beautifully true!!! Perfect timing as well, as usual Queen Kathy!!!! Thank you!!

  5. Dana James says:

    Dear Queens, to good health, and that of those we love, to every woman living thur a tragedy. May we all come out knowing happiness. Happy Thanksgiving Queens !

  6. Sarah says:

    Love this!!! I work everyday with a very diverse group of people. I find myself laughing through negative situations often. Thank you again for this reminder that all situations are temporary and we should treat them as such. Stay calm and move along!! LOL

  7. cindy says:

    You are, indeed, a wise Queen Sarah! Keep laughing.

  8. cindy says:

    Queen Dana, We couldn’t agree more. We will all, sadly, experience some tragedy in our lives and so let’s all try to have each other’s backs. Hail Queen Dana.

  9. cindy says:

    Queen Liza, We think it’s perfectly acceptable for you to set aside some “me” time where you allow yourself to be alone because it’s a choice. Here’s to a quiet moment just for Liza.

  10. Barbara says:

    Dearest Queens,
    It is the first holiday season since my husband of 26 years walked out. Its been really hard but I held my head up high and celebrated Thanksgiving, remembering all the blessings I do have in my life. Thank you for all of the positive messages and reminding me that I deserve to be happy.

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