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Haven | Naming and Claiming Our Royalty

by Kathy Kinney

Haven.  Look in the mirror and repeat after us, “I will make sure my home is a safe haven for me.  I deserve to live in a place that offers comfort as well as a refuge where I can heal and renew my spirit.  I will make the time to give myself this gift.”

Yesterday I returned from a long weekend working in Las Vegas.  As I walked in the door of my home it felt so calm and peaceful that I was overwhelmed with gratitude.  And, the person I have to thank for this haven is me.

I created a sanctuary for myself where I feel safe and nurtured.  My home isn’t decorated with expensive antiques or paintings by the masters.  I have throw pillows from Target and old framed prints I bought at rummage sales when I was ten years old.  I simply took the  time to move those pillows and prints around until they pleased me and for that I’m grateful.  And, because tidy makes me feel serene, I carve bits of time out of my often hectic schedule to keep my things organized.

Now, that said I have no control over my partner.  In fact he has a thing about saving cardboard boxes and receipts for all eternity in case something breaks and needs to be returned.  What I do is claim a few areas in the house that are just mine and I give myself the gift of keeping them neat.  I’m talking about 5 minutes a day.  It’s a little thing but tidy makes me soooo happy.  I deserve a peaceful refuge and the truth is no one is going to give it to me, but me.   My time is valuable and I give it to everybody else all day long.   Surely I’m worthy of a small bit of my own time to make my home a haven?

Is there something you do to give yourself a feeling of calm? Do you have a haven?

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One Response to “Haven | Naming and Claiming Our Royalty”

  1. cheryl says:

    I remember seeing your home on a show years ago and thought “she likes the same things I do”. I try very hard also and feel very good about my home but my husband has different decorating ideas since he is retired and we have some major conflicts. So sometimes the house is not as peaceful as I would like it to be. then I go for a walk.

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