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Hold the Mirror for Your Friends

She held a mirror so her friend could see the funny, smart, kind, courageous, and loving woman she truly was. And her friend did the same for her. - Queenisms™

She held a mirror so her friend could see the funny, smart, kind, courageous, and loving woman she truly was. And her friend did the same for her. – Queenisms™

Frequently we say “to have such a friend, be such a friend.” And people always say to us “I am but no one is that kind of friend to me.” Which really means “how, do I do this?” Our answer is simple. Stop thinking about what you’ll get in return and simply show up, be yourself and value your own friendship.

OK, we lied. Doing all that isn’t simple. It’s easy to slip into adding your own agenda to your “advice” to your friend. It’s easy to try to solve their problems rather than listen to them and ask our friend to tell us what they truly want – and then just listen. And finally, it’s easier to keep giving in a one sided relationship than to admit we’ve invested time and energy into a friendship that isn’t really a friendship. So this week we asking you to practice listening to your friend without giving advice, practice asking them to tell you what their heart is telling them and finally, practice asking yourself if they do the same for you. If they do, give them a hug, tell them how much their friendship means to you and celebrate.

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2 Responses to “Hold the Mirror for Your Friends”

  1. Denise Nawrot says:

    This is a tough one…I’ll need to practice listening more and asking that question…I don’t think some of them would reciprocate…

  2. Lisa says:

    I’ve had a lot of practice with this in my lifetime. And it took me that lifetime to find that kind of a friend, but it was well worth the effort and time.

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