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Hope | Back to Me Month

by Kathy Kinney

“When the world says, ‘Give up,’

Hope whispers, “Try it one more time.” – Anonymous

Hope.  Look in the mirror and say to yourself, “No matter what is happening now the facts are there will always be something more.  Don’t worry and don’t lose hope. I am there for you.” 

I had lunch with an old friend today that I hadn’t seen in a few years.  When we worked together he had been in a really difficult marriage and life had been painful and hard.  Now, after a tough divorce and many life changes he told me that he was the happiest he had ever been.  He had met a woman who had also made the passage through a painful marriage and they were building a strong relationship based on respect, support, communication and unconditional love.  He told me that it was the relationship they both had dreamed of but thought they would never have.  They both believed their relationship was a miracle and that they would never have been ready for it, or each other, if they hadn’t gone through the pain and difficulties of the past.  I thought to myself, “Bingo.”

It’s been my experience as well that life, at it’s most difficult, is the best teacher I could ever have.   On the other side of my pain has always been a time of great healing and bright miracles.  I didn’t know when I was younger that everything has a beginning, a middle and an end – good and bad.  I do know it now, and it is knowledge I cherish.  It helps me to maintain my sense of humor and to keep alive the hope that this too shall pass because better things are already coming.  So sayeth the Queen.

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4 Responses to “Hope | Back to Me Month”

  1. Lynda says:

    Hi Kathy<3 I have the Legend of the Thornbirds, Calligraphied and Framed on my wall, and my eyes are drawn to it everyday! I've capitalized the last phrase; The Best things in Life are bought at the cost of great pain…Or so sys the legend!

    The legend of the Thornbird

    A mysterious bird who sings just once in life, the sweetest song ever to be heard. In fierce pursuit of the thorn tree, the Thornbird leaves its nest and does not rest until it has fulfilled its final quest. Silent its entire life until the final hour, its voice begins to float through the air and the whole world stops to listen to the music from the tree. And God looks down and smiles upon the beautiful melody. More lovely than the Nightingale, more melodious than the Lark, the very first song it sings comes flowing from its heart before dying among the thorns. What kind of bird would save so sweet a song until the end of its life? Its months of utter silence and then one single ballad to transcend toward the heavens. Who is this peculiar creature, who would so beguile and mystify us with its exotic, bewildering and transforming song?

    My version is a little different wording than this but the Gist is the same! 🙂
    Looking forward to joining you Queens, in Oct. to see what's on the agenda.;-)
    I absolutely Love what I'm seeing thus far!:-)

  2. Barbara Neary says:

    When I was in the hospital last spring and feeling sorry for myself, I got a phone call from a dear friend I had not talked to in 35 years, It sure made me cheer up that here were still people like her in the world.

  3. Judy says:

    Hi Kathy,

    Hope is what I am searching for in my life right now. This quote and your story could not have come at a better time for me.


  4. Barbara says:

    Dear Kathy,
    I’m going through a divorce- after 26 years of marriage and 3 kids. The past few months have been the most difficult time in my life. Your words give me comfort and strength. Thank you.

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