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Queen of Your Own Life

Joyfully Alone with You

She decided it was better to enjoy the solitude than to spend time with someone who didn't see how extraordinary she was. - Queenisms™

She decided it was better to enjoy the solitude than to spend time with someone who didn’t see how extraordinary she was. – Queenisms™

When we understand that we are worthy of our own affection and support, we are able to clearly see how spending time with people who do not value us is a waste of our time. When we stand in our own value, we attract others who understand their own value. We may have to walk away from some of those who do not choose to see their own, and our, value in order to make room for more rewarding and meaningful relationships. That is the work – the daily practice – of happiness. That work will reap beautiful rewards. Are you practicing happiness daily?

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5 Responses to “Joyfully Alone with You”

  1. Kelly Sander says:

    I’m 54 and very much alone for a year and a half. I’ve had to reinvent myself, find new friends. My husband left me for a 36 yr old. Yes, my self esteem is in the toilet.. my old friends are couples who don’t have a place for me.. I’m old enough to know right from wrong. I’m very lonely being alone.. I’ve had to make new friends which isn’t hard to do at my age infiltrating their groups of friends so spend very much of my free time alone.. what do you suggest.. I’m not happy, haven’t been happy in a very long time..

  2. Christy says:

    It sounds like your identity and happiness was very much connected to your husband. It’s time to find out who you really are and want to be. Have you ever had a passion for anything, e.g. cooking,. playing bridge, art, music, golfing, attending concerts and plays, learning more about computers, volunteering, taking classes, etc.?

    Step out of your comfort zone, and decide to become more than who you are now. Becoming more will put you around people who are becoming more and have similar interest. Believe me, it’s never too late to discover who you really are. Being alone doesn’t have to be the same thing as being lonely. Trust me, there are plenty of married woman who feel lonely.

    Everyday make a decision to be happy. You are in control of how happy you are.

    Try and imagine who you can be in another year and make a plan. Plans evolve but can’t happen without taking the first step. Good luck and let us all know how you are doing.

  3. Sally says:

    Kelly – you sound so very sad. A good way to meet others is through similar interests. Identify what things you enjoy (museums, gardening, whatever) and then you can find activities based around that. One good place to find those activities is MeetUp. You are in control of what you decide to do but it is a place where people start groups based on their interests.

    You are going through a lot and you probably need more support than you can get from just friends. Personally, I would suggest getting some counseling or joining a support group. It’s nice to have a place where you can talk about your problems openly and be supported and sometimes friends are too close to the situation to give you what you need.

  4. Barbara says:

    As hokey as it may sound, I have signed up for a few meet up groups…this has helped me. My situation is not to entirely unlike yours. Hang in there…it really does get better.❤️

  5. Kelly Sander says:

    I’ve never heard of meetup.. just checked it out.. didn’t know if my town had it but it does.. so I will see if I can attend some events. Thank you!

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