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Let it Go

Kathy Kinney and Cindy Ratzlaff are the inspirational authors of Queenisns: 101 Jolts of Inspiration and Queen of Your Own Life, both trademarks of their company, Two Belles LLC. All rights reserved so please share but don’t copy and paste as your own. Pinning is encouraged.

Negativity will come into our lives. We’re human. But when we hold onto it, it festers and infects us with fear. Allow yourself to be a passageway for negativity to flow in, be acknowledged and quickly move on. We sometimes even speak to the negativity. For example:

“This seems to be a particularly harsh criticism that I was not expecting. I’ve examined my actions but I don’t see a reason for this attack.  I find it interesting and it’s possible the person attacking me is frightened, jealous, hurt or something else. In any event, no good comes from me holding onto this hurtful feeling. I release it and wish them well. I step past this moment and open my heart to the next, more positive experience.”

Might sound a little hokey or new-age speak, but let us tell you, it works IF you really let it go. If you have trouble, keep trying new ways to banish the negativity.

  • Put it in a shopping bag and throw it in the trash.
  • Write it on a piece of paper and burn it.
  • Pretend to put it in a bubble and blow it away.
  • Bury it in the garden.
  • Drown it in the bathtub.

How would you release negativity?

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4 Responses to “Let it Go”

  1. Patricia Stiff says:

    I recognize the hurtful or negative feelings of or about self. I say to myself or sometimes out loud ” I release the hurtful thoughts or feelings and allow them to evolve into something beautiful to benefit the Earth” Release is the biggest thing for me. I believe that holding onto negativity creates a type of emotional cancer and I’ve “been there done that” and survived the cancer. Now to clean up the emotional self! Thank you Queens for all the good that you send out into the world.

    Sincerely,
    Patricia Stiff

  2. Michelle says:

    I’ve been struggling with this all week. I keep repeating Not my circus Not my monkeys, but it’s not working. Burning it doesn’t work, letting it fly away in the wind also doesn’t work…I mean they are good in theory but the thoughts and negativity are still there. I’m barraged with it daily from my husband’s ex. I purposely don’t have anything to do with her, trying to avoid all this but she keeps sending him email after email and such hateful voicemails, trying to use me as a tool between him and his daughter. I’m so tired of being used and accused. He stands up for me but to no avail. And quite frankly I am afraid that some day she may finally succeed if I can’t let it go or if I don’t confront her…which also scares me because it would make an awful scene in front of the daughter, whom I wouldn’t hurt for the world. I’m tired of being thrown under the bus, I’m mad about it and it’s eating me alive. Not my circus Not my monkeys, etc.

  3. cindy says:

    We understand, Queen Michelle, how explosive those toxic relationships can be. When we are drawn into the drama of someone who is out of control with rage and pain, we never win. Nobody wins, really. But sometimes we are exhausted by dancing to keep those bullets from hitting our feet. Give this woman no more room in your head. Focus your attention on the lovely family you’re creating. Separate, as best you can, your husband’s daughter from her mother. Treat her with love and respect at all times and eventually, she’ll come to see that her interactions with you and her dad are joyful, stress free and safe. You may not get immediate gratification but it will come. Talk with your husband about setting a boundary with the ex about the voice mails and emails. If they are threatening or false accusations and the threat is escalating, you and your husband may need to set that boundary through a lawyer and have further communications about their daughter through an intermediary. We’re not counselors or lawyers, so our best advice is to seek professional advice. But our Queenly advice is to hold your head high, treat your husband, yourself and your step daughter as the precious individuals they are and don’t let the hurt and fear from someone outside your home penetrate the front door.

  4. cindy says:

    Beautifully said Queen Patricia.

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