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Queen of Your Own Life

Nobody’s Fool

Kathy Kinney and Cindy Ratzlaff create trademarked inspirational quotes and digital art at http://QueenofYourOwnLife.comShe knew how to forgive and yet she knew how to set a strong boundary. She was nobody’s fool and everyone respected her. ~ Queenisms™

Forgiveness is an important concept in claiming happiness. When we harbor ill feelings, we harm ourselves far more than we harm anyone else. Letting go of hurt, pain, anger or disappointment allows us to move forward in our own lives. But it does not mean we must forget. There’s a popular saying. “Fool me once, shame on you. Fool me twice, shame on me.” If someone has demonstrated they cannot be trusted and we are not safe with them, we can forgive but move on. If someone has no desire to modify their behavior, we can forgive and move on. If someone is not capable of a supportive, loving relationship, we can forgive and move on. And if someone is simply in the beginning of their learning curve about being a loving, kind, caring and supportive person, we can forgive and linger, giving more than we get as we hold out a hand to help them up.

The balancing act of discerning whether to stay or to go in any relationship is tricky. Do you have a way of deciding how long to hold out the life preserver in a relationship?

Photo: Cindy Ratzlaff’s beautiful mom, Patricia Ratzlaff.

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2 Responses to “Nobody’s Fool”

  1. Susan says:

    This is a tough one. I have been out of a relationship for a year now, and I know I gave him way to many chances to be present in the relationship. It caused me a great deal of pain, especially the being alone, even though I felt I was alone most of the time in the relationship. I think that everyone has to decide this one for herself, but I would say make sure that you making yourself a priority. If he doesn’t see you that way, does not honor and respect your boundaries, then it is time to go.

  2. cindy says:

    And, we would add, Queen Susan, that it’s important to forgive ourselves. Often we get stuck in the regret of a relationship that has ended and we’re sad that we put everyone else first. But we cannot go back and change that. So a new boundary might be “I forgive myself for becoming lost in a relationship and I promise myself I will be an equal priority in any new relationships.”

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