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Open Your Arms to Change

Cindy Ratzlaff and Kathy Kinney blog and write books about claiming happiness in midlife at http://QueenofYourOwnLife.com. All of their affirmations and digital art are original.

In the past, the idea of change had left her hiding in bed under the covers. Then she realized that change was not something to be afraid of but rather something that would bring her closer to becoming the woman she was born to be. She decided to open her arms wide to let life in. – Queenisms™

Here’s a little secret. Change happens whether we give our permission or not. We are not the same people today that we were last year. 365 days of life happened and we were changed by it, and we are still here. So why is change so frightening? We will often accept stress and grief and pain rather than make a change because we cannot guarantee ourselves that the change will make us feel better. We are fearful and so we’d rather accept what we know versus walk into the unknown.

If you put your hand in a fire, you don’t think “that hurts but what will it feel like if I pull it out?” You instinctively pull your hand away. And, it does still hurt. But it gets better. If we stay with people, places and situations that hurt us, because we don’t know what will happen next, we are keeping ourselves in the fire. You deserve to be loved and cherished. You deserve to be with people who value you. You deserve to be safe and happy. Sometimes change is required to make that happen. Sometimes the change is physical and sometimes the change is emotional. When we decide that the words and actions of others will no longer dictate how we feel about ourselves, we open up a door to the unknown. That unknown might just be the real you. Change happens, whether we give our permission or not. The fear of change can cement us in place and keep us from exploring the possibility that life can get better. What would change look like for you?

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6 Responses to “Open Your Arms to Change”

  1. Deborah says:

    Never thought of change from this view point. Good one.

  2. Liz B says:

    I’m all about change. I’ve been changing over the last two and one half years. I’m just about ready to make another change…and this perfectly-timed post has given me the courage and permission to stand up for myself. My life will be changed once again. Thank you Queen Mothers!

  3. Anne says:

    I’m going through a lot of change in my life, and you’ve made me think about what’s holding me back on my journey.

  4. cindy says:

    Then our work here, has been worthwhile, Queen Anne!

  5. cindy says:

    Queen Liz, we are all Queens indeed.

  6. cindy says:

    Sometimes just a shift in focus can help us see a new path or a clearer one, Queen Deborah.

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