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Put Pep in Your Step

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People wondered at the way she could make everyone around her smile. Her secret was, she was quick to laugh, slow to criticize and frankly, making people smile put pep in her step. ~ Queenisms™

Here’s a simple question. Which makes you feel better – being cross with someone or making someone smile? If we go about our business each day with an attitude of adding something gentle to the world rather than battling every person, place or thing we come across, we’re creating a gentler world for ourselves – let alone for others. Now, there is nothing wrong with raging against injustice and wrongs. In fact, it’s our duty as citizens of this world to be angry about wrongs and hold one another accountable for living in a way that uplifts and supports us all. BUT, general curmudgeonly behavior serves no one. Here’s a simple test we swear will prove to you, once and for all, that attitude can alter your world.

Make a commitment, for one full day, to stop yourself, mid sentence, any time you find yourself complaining or speaking sarcastically to yourself or to others. Then rephrase in a positive uplifting way. For example, “Well, that took you a long time. I asked you to do that weeks ago,” becomes “Thank you for doing that thing I asked you to do. It means a lot to me that you finished it.” Someone bumping you absentmindedly in a store gets a “Oops, are you ok?” (and a smile) rather than a “Hey, watch it?” and a scowl.

Give both loved ones and strangers your most compassionate smile – just for one day. Then tell us how your day went. We think you’ll say it was a wonderful day. Why? Because we believe you are amazing women (and men), capable of creating the kind of lives you’d most like to have. We don’t just contribute to the energy around us. Sometimes we create it. So let’s intentionally create something wonderful.

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2 Responses to “Put Pep in Your Step”

  1. Kat says:

    My Mom and I have always been at odds with each other. Many times I have had to tell myself, “let it go”! Mom recently became very sick and I helped her get back on her feet physically. Now that she is almost back to normal she has started her usual litany of things I do wrong. Putting pep in my step is going to be hard with her being so negative all the time. However, I’m willing to take the better road and be the one to change my attitude. I’ve always been a happy person, seeing the glass as half full, so for one day I’m going to put on my smiley face and work on this commitment.
    Thank you and have a wonderful day!

  2. cindy says:

    Caring for sick people can deplete the caregiver, especially if the person you’re caring for has a habit of nitpicking. Would it be possible to change the dynamic by simply, and without emotion, saying this: “Mom, can we sit down at the kitchen table for a moment? I have something really important to tell you and I want your full attention. I’m making some changes in my life and I want your support. I’m going to speak to myself in a positive way, every day, and I’m asking everyone in my life to do the same. I want to put more positive energy into everything I do. I want my relationships, including ours, to be something that uplifts and supports both of us. I want to look forward to seeing you and sharing my day with you and I want you to feel the same way. I know we butt heads often. This is just a bad habit we’ve fallen into and habits can be changed. I was so glad to help you while you were ill. And, now that you’re well, I want to celebrate that every time we’re together by consciously saying kind, and not critical things to one another. Can we try this? I love you very much.”

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