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Rewarding Ourselves with Admiration | The Battle for You

by Kathy Kinney

I have always believed the old adage that it’s never too late to have a happy childhood.  It’s been my goal since I hit the age of awareness to learn to nurture and care for myself.  I’ve actually gotten pretty good at it.   If I watch a scary movie right before bedtime and I want to sleep with a light on, then I give myself permission to do just that.  If I have a particularly long hard day of work, I will reward myself by coming home, putting my pajamas on and watching back-to-back episodes of House Hunters International.  These rewards are fun and make me feel like I’m taking care of myself.  The nurturing behavior that I engage in that is not so nurturing is I like to reward myself with food.  And, I like to do it a lot.

I hate taking my vitamins.  I find it hard to slow down in the morning and take the short minute to swallow a few capsules and tablets that will improve my health.  So lately I’ve been in the habit of rewarding myself with a tablespoon of almond butter.  The problem is that once the jar is open I always think how much more rewarded I will feel with two tablespoons and sometimes three.  The truth is that in the case of almond butter I doubt if 23 tablespoons would even be enough to make me feel rewarded or nurtured.  I am confessing to you that I am an almond butter junkie.

Today when I woke up I decided I wanted to take my vitamins and reward myself with something better.  By the time I had swallowed the last capsule I was already thinking longingly of my jar of almond butter.  Then I took a deep breath and made a cup of fragrant herbal tea.  As I stood at the counter sipping it I thought to myself, “You’re really doing a good job of living your life.” I felt like crying and laughing.  In that instant my whole body relaxed.  That tiny dose of self-praise was so much more nurturing than a hundred spoonfuls of almond butter.  I think I might be on to something here.  So for today I will continue to practice rewarding myself with admiration.  Besides, it’s a lot less expensive than almond butter.

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3 Responses to “Rewarding Ourselves with Admiration | The Battle for You”

  1. Divaeva says:

    UGH – today I have home inspections on my potential new Diva compound… if all goes well I close on June 29th… I pretty much know I am doing fairly well at living my life – in my mind anyway! My nerves are getting the best of me though – I too feel like crying! Hopefully by the end of the day I will be laughing at myself for being so nervous! Time to let these butterflies in my belly free to fly and make my life even more beautiful! Thanks for you encouragement! Although in the end – I plan on rewarding myself with a dirty martini with a blue cheese stuffed olive! <3

  2. cindy says:

    You are doing great Queen Eva. We’re raising our glass to you today.

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