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Seeking Calm | The Battle for You

by Cindy Ratzlaff

As a tightly wound, genetic worrier (I can provide references from several generations), I’ve been searching for a way to calm and center myself for a long, long time.  I’ve tried lots of things but I have a great deal of difficulty quieting my mind.  As I fall asleep at night and as I wake up in the morning, I’m always running mental lists.

But, in addition to being a perennial worrier, I’m also an optimist.  So I’m trying again and I’m giving myself two five minute periods each day to stop and clear my mind. This is just the act of quieting my mental lists so I can refresh.  This is kind of like cleaning off your desk top so you can work without distractions. It’s like pushing my own personal “reset” button.  I take a deep breath in through my nose, hold it for a second and then release it through my mouth.  Then I imagine that in taking in my second deep breath, I’m breathing in all the support and love from all the amazing, brave, strong women in the Queen of Your Own Life community.  And, I feel calm and relaxed again.

Dropping those mental lists, even for 10 minutes each day, helps me stay on task, do more during the day and end my day happier, calmer and feeling more hopeful.

Is there something you do each day to refresh, nourish and calm your anxieties or worries?  Let’s share with one another.  Our wish is that every woman have her own personal toolkit of strategies that help her claim the happiness and joy that we all deserve, so don’t hold back.  Please leave a comment and share your wisdom.

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8 Responses to “Seeking Calm | The Battle for You”

  1. Diane says:

    I take a 20 minute walk with my co workers every day. It helps me to clear my mind and energizes me to finish my work day.

  2. It’s always such a relief to hear other women admit that they worry about things. Thank you Cindy. My strategy to clear my mind and connect to things greater than work/achieving goals is to stop mid-day and meditate for 5-7 minutes. My goal is “most days” not every day so I don’t set myself up to fail.
    Michelle Segar

  3. Anne says:

    I take a few minutes and look at my vision board. I imagine that I’m living that life right now. It reminds me that this too will pass and better days are ahead.

  4. cindy says:

    Thank you Anne. I have little post it notes all over my desk to remind myself of my end game goals. I like the vision board idea.

  5. cindy says:

    It’s so true, isn’t it Michelle. It helps to know that other women are feeling and thinking the same kinds of things we are. I’m so antsy that it’s hard for me to meditate, but I can commit to taking two deep breaths and for me, that’s a short meditation that helps.

  6. We are so similar!!! My goodness. Recently I have just been playing online games because then I have to concentrate on the game or the time runs out, and thus my worry and lists go out the window for the period of time I am playing. Distraction. Walking helps too, pop in my ear buds, turn the music up and go.

  7. Heather says:

    I suggest looking into the work of Byron Katie. She has a fabulous cognitive approach to questioning your own thoughts, which are, of course, the source of all happiness, unhappiness, etc.

  8. cindy says:

    Great suggestion Queen Heather. We’ll check it out.

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