This holiday season she could often be heard exclaiming, “Ho, Ho, No!” Nothing felt as good as setting a gentle but firm holiday boundary. – Queenisms™
The word no is not selfish. No is self-preservation sometimes. Sure we all must do things we don’t want to do on occasion. But if we’re constantly fulfilling the requests of everyone but ourselves, we’re not saints, we’re doormats. When we’re doormats, we begin to harbor resentment toward those who ask. They don’t deserve our wrath. They asked, it was our job to respond honestly, we didn’t and now we’re angry at them. Makes no sense, right? When we are honest in our responses about what we can do, what we’re willing to do and what we’re able to do, we’re setting strong boundaries, being truthful and ultimately building friendships and families based on mutual respect. Now, tell us what you think?