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Setting Boundaries | Royal Reminders

by Kathy Kinney

She was tired of saying yes to everybody then beating herself up for not having the courage to say, “No.”  It didn’t make her selfish to say, “No, I’m sorry I don’t have the time to help you, maybe another time.”  She realized people would respect her more if she learned to set a strong boundary – including herself.  So she decided practice and become really good at it because she was worth it.  – Queenisms™

Have you ever said yes when you meant no? We certainly have. And the feeling it produced was horrible. We start to resent the asker instead of owning our own role in the whole mess. Saying no when we can’t, don’t want to or don’t choose to do something is a service to our friends, families and those who ask. We’re being honest. If we say yes, when we mean no, we’re being dishonest.

Sometimes saying no to one thing is saying yes to another. Be honest, Queens. Teach those around you to respect your word so that when you say yes, they know you’ll show up with joy in your heart, not resentment.

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2 Responses to “Setting Boundaries | Royal Reminders”

  1. Julie says:

    Thank you for this today! I’ve decided that I have to cut off contact with my abusive elderly mother. She’s in Assisted Living and taken care of every day. She wants me to visit (I’m the ONLY family member who still has contact) and it’s a miserable visit every time. I will help with her needs but have no desire to see or visit with her. No means NO and enough is more than enough.

  2. cindy says:

    These care taking decisions are so hard Queen Julie. The care taker needs care too and we’re here to support you.

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