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Share | The Battle for You

by Cindy Ratzlaff

I went to a wonderful business dinner last night with a group of highly accomplished, intelligent women who were wonderful company.  We talked about our business, the changes we’ve seen in the last decade, the challenges ahead and new social media platforms.

As the meal ended and we were winding down, it happened.  Women, becoming comfortable with one another, shared their stories.  They shared about loved ones who faced lifelong health challenges.  They shared about the struggle to meet those challenges.  They shared about their fears and hopes for those they loved and for themselves.  I love this about women.  When they feel safe and they sense permission, they are so willing to share.

Why do I love this so much?  I love it because when we share our stories we show everyone that we are more alike than we are different.  Everyone has a story.  Everyone is walking on glass.  Everyone has suffered a hurt, a joy, a loss.

Even when you feel you’re on a journey alone, you are not.  Turn your head to the left or the right and you’ll see a woman who is going through something similar.  If you have the courage to tell her your story, you’ll give her permission to tell you hers and you’ll discover a fellow traveler.

Make that your goal.  Share your story with someone.  We welcome you to share your story here.  We are, after all, on this journey together, Queens.

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4 Responses to “Share | The Battle for You”

  1. Heather O. says:

    I am so thankful that you wrote this. I think it is so important to find others that you are able to confide in. I am going through a very nasty divorce. After fifteen years of emotional abuse, made to feel like a burden, finding my husband had a girlfriend, and had lied more than being truthful, I called it quits. Unfortunately, I found my family greeting me with judgment instead of compassion and empathy (they don’t believe in divorce and are absolutely in LOVE with him). I thank GOD I was able to reach out to my friends in my time of need. If I had shut down and taken my family’s short comings personally, it would have put me in a deep depression. Now, I feel stronger and am moving on with my own life. I hope other women learn that they can open up to friends when family is not available. Thank you!!!

  2. Mary says:

    It’s a scary thing, this sharing of stories. There is often that nagging feeling of fear of rejection. As I connect with more & more kindred spirits, I find the fear dissipating. Once I got into my 50’s, it finally dawned on me that not everyone is going to love me, and even those that do, are going to have days when they are annoyed by my behavior. It’s okay. My story, and indeed, all our stories could fill books. Perhaps we’ll do that someday. Today I’ll just say this: reclaiming the courage that I had as a small girl has allowed me to take the risk of connecting with folks from all walks of life. No fame, no fortune, no status symbol or dropped name can compare with the true affection I’ve shared with some of the folks I’ve met the past couple of years. This is just as true for my immediate environment as it is in my online environment. We are meant to be connected with like -and unlike!- minds. I guess that’s one of the reasons I like the leveled playing field of social networks. We can be who we are, really, without regard to the roles we play in society. It makes me want to dance a jig!

  3. cindy says:

    Queen Mary, that was so beautifully said and that is the first time I’ve ever heard someone describe social media in a way that speaks to my heart like this. Thank you so much.

  4. cindy says:

    Queen Heather, We’re sorry to hear about the difficult parts of your journey and we’re so happy to hear about the good parts. I especially love that you are able to see your family as they are and continue to reach out to others until you got the support you needed and deserve from your friends. But most of all we’re so happy that you’re on a new path that is opening up new opportunities for joy. Bravo.

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