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Queen of Your Own Life

She Was Utterly Herself

Cindy Ratzlaff and Kathy Kinney blog and write books about claiming happiness in midlife at http://QueenofYourOwnLife.com. Alll of their affirmations and digital art are original.

She chose not to fret about the constraints of other people’s perceptions and expectations. She was, at once, both fierce and fabulous, cantankerous and congenial, and spirited and serene. She was utterly herself and it pleased her immensely. ~ Queenisms™

When we get our undies in a knot about what other people think of us, we can spin and spin trying to figure out how to behave, what to think, where to go, and how to live in the world. Of course we want to fit in. We should live as good neighbors, be kind to one another, obey laws meant to protect our well being an so on. But in the matters of our hearts, dreams, goals and choices that define who we are, let us not be square pegs in square holes. Let us be messily ourselves, with many different hues. Let us explore the very depths of what it means to be truly us, shall we? It is possible to love the ballet and also love camping. It is possible to be a great mom and also love to travel, alone. It is possible to be a generous person with your time but also carve out sacred alone time. It is possible to say yes often and no on occasion. We want you to be openly, wildly, joyfully exactly who you are.

There is room inside of every woman for what might seem like conflicting personalities. When we embrace those, we no longer struggle to cover one up and push another one forward. Be who you are and spend less time hiding who you think you should not be.

Can you think of something about yourself that seems like two opposites in the same woman? We can, about ourselves. For example, Cindy is very outgoing and speaks on stages to big crowds. But she has major moments of self-doubt just before she goes on. But she goes on anyway and always delivers. But she loves those moments when she gets to go back to her hotel room and relax, alone, So she’s both shy and outgoing. There is room inside her for both women. How about you?

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5 Responses to “She Was Utterly Herself”

  1. Sheri says:

    I’m rather like Cindy, I think. I present a solid, secure persona, but struggle with moments of self doubt when I’m required to be the “front person.” I enjoy a good gathering but relax in solitude. Thanks for your lovely reminders each day about how glorious we are, each of us. It reminds me to acknowledge and celebrate what I might just take for granted in passing!

  2. cindy says:

    Queen Sheri, We think that when we share our true stories with one another, we’ll find we have more in common than we imagined. So often that public persona we present can lead others to believe we don’t have our own struggles. What you and I have discovered is that by taking care of yourselves with a little solitude at the end of a public event, you’re recharging and ready to be of service again the next day. Bravo!

  3. edna says:

    Very well said and this should be considered a good read monthly to remind us we are not crazy!

  4. Andie Steele says:

    “Do I contradict myself? Very well then I contradict myself, (I am large, I contain multitudes.)” Walt Whitman, Song of Myself

  5. cindy says:

    So very true, Queen Andie.

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