She decided it was time to only speak to and about herself in a positive way. She was going to treat herself the way someone you love very much should be treated. – Queenisms™
We believe you are basically a kind person. We think it’s highly unlikely you would intentionally hurt someone with your words. We also believe you do so on a daily basis. Who do you hurt? Yourself, of course. If you’re anything like us, you find yourself saying “I’m such a slob,” or “I’m so stupid,” or some variation on those everyday utterances that make up our self-talk. Foolishly, we think they are harmless offhand comments that mean nothing. But they mean a great deal. They seep into our subconscious and become a real self esteem issue. The good news is we can train ourselves to speak kindly to ourselves through our “stop, drop and reframe exercise.” Any time you catch yourself saying something negative to yourself, stop. Drop it immediately and reframe the statement in a positive way. Here’s an example. We catch ourselves saying “I’m so fat.” We stop. Consciously say to ourselves, “I’m going to drop this abusive language now.” Then we reframe like this. “I am not my weight. I am a person worthy of health, love and joy. I am worthy of my own support, love and affection, right now, as I am, no matter what.” Promise us that you will give this a try. You are worth the effort to change hurtful self-talk into supportive self-talk.