Queen of Your Own Life by Kathy Kinney and Cindy Ratzlaff

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Supportive Language

It didn't matter what any one else said about her. She knew who she was and only spoke to herself in loving and supportive language. - Queenisms™

It didn’t matter what any one else said about her. She knew who she was and only spoke to herself in loving and supportive language. – Queenisms™

There’s a great old saying that we’ll probably be paraphrasing here but in essence it says “It’s not my business what other people think of me,” which goes hand in hand with “I can’t control what others say about me. I can only control how I respond.”

Now we’re not naive enough to expect everyone to stop caring about what others think. In fact, that caring helps us conform to certain societal norms. We don’t drive recklessly, we obey the laws, we write thank you notes, all because we care about others and ourselves. But when caring what others think begins to dominate our thoughts and cause us to be afraid to step into our own power, that’s a problem.

Here’s the truth as we see it. We have absolutely, positively no control over the actions of others. We have even less control over their thoughts about us. All we can do is be the kind of person we’d like to spend with and promise ourselves that we’ll let people who don’t think well of us, pass on through our lives to find their people. There really is a crowd for everyone. We don’t have to have everyone in our crowd.

If there is someone or many someones in your life who do not think or speak kindly of you, it might just be time to do a little housekeeping. We like to think of it as making room for our new friends.

And, in the same post, we’d like to say if there are people in your life who uplift you, speak kindly to you, have no other agenda than your happiness, you are blessed. Put down your computer right now and pick up the phone and tell them. Don’t assume they know. Just simply say “I’m grateful to have you in my life.”

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