Queen of Your Own Life by Kathy Kinney and Cindy Ratzlaff

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Queen of Your Own Life

Take Back Your Power

Queenisms are original jolts of inspiration using vintage images and original quotes from Kathy Kinney and Cindy Ratzlaff. All rights reserved.

Everyone had always relied on her because she was so capable and she had allowed it. She decided to begin setting gentle but firm boundaries. At first it was uncomfortable saying “no”, but soon she realized that in taking back her power she was also returning power to everyone around her. ~ Queenism™


If you’ve spent years being the fixer of all things and the problem solver for everyone, you might have developed a fondness for that position. You might like being the one everyone turns to, most of the time. But if you find yourself overwhelmed, under supported and ready to run away from home, we’ve got news for you. This is a problem that can be solved with just one word. That word is no. That word is not followed by “because. . .” The word is a sentence unto itself. It can be proceeded by the words, “I’m sorry but my answer is…”.

If you’re like us and so many other women, the word no comes with a lot of baggage and fear; fear of not being liked, fear of disappointing people, fear of not being everyone’s hero, fear of being alone, fear of being alone with yourself and so many other fears.  But when you get to the point where you just want a little sanity, the only person who can make that happen is you. Be prepared for those you’ve taught to rely on you to push back the first time they hear no. Say it with love but be firm.

The upside to being able to say no is that when you do say yes, you’ll truly mean it. It will be a choice, made with love, and not an action done because you didn’t know how to say no. Remember, when you say yes to everyone, at all times, you are really saying no to yourself.

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