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The Slap of Words

A word could sting just as much as a slap. She decided to let no one speak ill towards her - not even herself. - Queenisms™

A word could sting just as much as a slap. She decided to let no one speak ill towards her – not even herself. – Queenisms™

We would never let anyone speak to us the way we sometimes speak to ourselves. Abusive language from anyone is unacceptable and leaves a mark, unseen by felt. Don’t you think it’s time to step in an stop the abuse? Try this. It works for us. Every time we catch ourselves saying something hurtful to ourselves such as “I’m so stupid, or I’m so fat, or I’m not smart enough,” we stop and say this out loud. “That is not true. I’m not stupid (fill in the blank on your own self-talk here).” Then we rephrase with something more supportive. “I may have made a mistake, or I may not be at that weight I want to be,” or whatever the issue. Then we say “However, I am worthy of my own support and I will not hurt myself with words today. I will find at least one positive thing to say to myself right now.” And, then we do. Why is it that saying something positive to ourselves is so much harder than saying negative things? Let’s practice together. Can you tell us one positive thing about you right now?

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One Response to “The Slap of Words”

  1. So difficult to find a positive thing about myself. Had to sit for awhile and really think. First came up with “I have a nice smile and dimples” then thought “I try hard to be a good friend to others.” and now “I think more positive things than negative things in general.”
    So after thinking for awhile I found three things. It is very difficult to find positive things to say about ourselves. I will try to think every day of one positive thing about myself.
    Thanks for the reminder.

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