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Wisdom from the Queendom

We spent a wonderful two weeks in December reading back on all the amazing comments and emails we’ve received from women, just like you, who read Queen of Your Own Life posts on Facebook, Twitter, Pinterest or here on the blog. Your wisdom and courage inspires us every day and we thought we’d share a few selected quotes from this community to help set us on a positive path for 2014. Happy New Year, Queens. Keep those comments coming. You inspire us as much as we hope to inspire you. The hardest thing about putting this post together was choosing your amazing quotes. There were, and we’re not kidding, thousands more equally wonderful bits of joyful wisdom. Thank you for every comment, share, like and piece of feedback and thank you in advance for continuing to help us spread the message that happiness is a practice.

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34 Responses to “Wisdom from the Queendom”

  1. Cat says:

    Thank you for the inspirations—always there when I need them!! Have a HAPPY NEW YEAR!!! :). <3

  2. Most of the quotes are very confident and sarcastic,like they were made just about me, didn’t you know

  3. The Awakening….
    A time comes in your life when you finally get it…
    ….when a midst of all your fears and insanity, you stop dead in your tracks and somewhere the VOICE inside your head/Soul/ your heart cries out ENOUGH!
    Enough fighting and crying and blaming and struggling to hold on. Then like a child quieting down from a tantrum, you blink back your tears and begin to look at the world through new eyes.
    This is YOUR awakening.
    You realize it’s time to stop hoping and waiting for something to change.
    You realize that in the real world there aren’t always fairy tale endings, and that any guarantee of
    “happily ever after” must begin with you…and in the process of a sense of new serenity is born of acceptance.
    You awaken to the fact that you are not prefect and not everyone will always love, appreciate or approve of what you are or how you think.. Especially your family. And that is OK !
    They are entitled to their opinion.
    You learn to love and champion yourself….
    And in the process a sense of new found confidence is born of self-approval.
    You stop blaming and complaining of what others have done to you. And the only thing you can count on is the unexpected. People don’t always say what they mean or mean what they say. And not everyone will always be there for you and everything isn’t always about you.
    So you learn to stand on your own two feet and take care of yourself.
    You stop judging others and pointing fingers and you begin to accept people as the are and overlook their short comings and human frailties and in the process a sense of peace and contentment
    is born of forgiveness.
    You begin to open up to new worlds and different points of view.. You begin reassessing and redefining who you are and what you stand for. You learn the difference between wanting and needing and you begin to discard the doctrines and values you’ve outgrown, or should never have bought to begin with.
    You learn the that principals such as honesty and integrity are not outdated, but the mortar of the foundation that holds us together. You learn that you don’t know everything, not your job to save the world, and you can’t teach pigs to sing!
    The only cross to bear is the one you have choose to carry, and that martyrs get burned at the stake.
    Then …..you learn about love…its two sided not one…..you look at relationships as they are,
    not how you want them to be.
    You also stop putting your feelings aside and learn to say NO. How you feel is important.
    You learn that you get in life what you deserve, and much of life is a truth self-filling prophecy. You learn that anything worth achieving is worth working for and wishing for something to happen is different then working toward making it happen…
    More importantly you realize no one can do it alone and asking for help is OK !
    You learn the only thing to fear is fear itself. You learn to step right into and through your fears because you know that whatever happens, you can handle it . And to give fear away for the right to live your life and not squander it. You learn life isn’t always fair, you don’t always get what you want or what you think you deserve and that sometimes bad things happen to good people.
    And sometimes letting go instead of holding on is freedom of and for yourself and those you love.
    And you learn not to take it personally. You learn that no one is punishing you and everything isn’t always someone’s fault. Its just life happening. You learn to admit when you are wrong to build bridges instead of breaking them down.
    You learn that negative feelings such as anger, envy, resentment must be understood and redirected or they will suffocate the life out of you.
    You learn to be thankful and to take comfort in many of the simple things we take for granted, that millions around the world can only dream of, food, clean running water, a warm soft bed, a long hot shower, a job.
    THEN …YOU BEGIN TO TAKE RESPONSIBILITY FOR YOURSELF BY YOURSELF AND YOU MAKE YOURSELF A PROMISE TO NEVER BETRAY YOURSELF AND TO NEVER SETTLE FOR LESS THAN YOUR HEARTS DESIRE. YOU MAKE IT A POINT TO KEEP SMILING TO KEEP TRUSTING AND TO STAY OPEN TO EVERY WONDERFUL POSSIBILITY. AND EVERYDAY BECOME JUST A LITTLE BETTER PERSON THAN THE DAY BEFORE. JUST A LITTLE KINDER, JUST A LITTLE MORE PATIENT, JUST A LITTLE MORE FRIENDLY…JUST LISTEN A LITTLE BETTER.
    BREATHE IN SLOWLY AND OUT SLOWLY, HANG A WIND CHIME AND HERE THE WIND BLOW.. LOVE YOURSELF DAILY, ALL IS WELL.
    WE ARE ALL THE SAME “ HUMAN BEINGS”……………

  4. lori thuestad says:

    LOVE LOVE LOVE
    These would make a terrific wall Calendar.

  5. Sandy says:

    Love, love these!! What a great idea!

  6. Ann Nichols says:

    I love the feeling of empowerment that overcomes me when I recognize the truth with good humor, and wish for all to see it exactly as I do. But alas, no one else is standing in my spot . Still some are willing to meet me in the middle, and I am grateful for then.

  7. Karen says:

    To be yourself in a world that is constantly trying to make you something else is your greatest accomplishment.

  8. Elizabeth says:

    You must take care of and love the person that you are, before you can truly love another.

  9. Dave says:

    I just want to say thanks to my Facebook friends. Your wisdom and inspiration has truly guided my way in a truly positive light. Hats off to ya. Your words are what the world needs. I need to go now. I will contact you sometime. Apparently im going to go to jail. For what I do not know. But the power that wants me there will surely figure out something I did. Cause I didn’t do anything. Peace and Thanks.

  10. Linda Gray says:

    Love the August quote from Queen Paula. My plan for this year is to shine like I mean it! Getting off to a slow start, but I will do it! The world definitely needs a little more light!

  11. Dawn says:

    these are all wonderful! thanx,

  12. Shari Wofford says:

    Absolutely love your FB page, captures me and speaks to all of me. thanks

  13. Joanne Vicente says:

    Look deep within and discover your true self, then live it OUT LOUD!!!

  14. Catherine Ann says:

    “What makes the Wine into Blood-If it is not Torture and Pain.
    What makes the Blood into Wine-If it is not the Beating of One’s Heart which is placed on the Excelsior of Bliss!”

    Catherine Ann (Poet)

  15. Em says:

    Thank you! You uplift me and I adore you.

  16. Two beautiful ladies that make me laugh, cry. Think , and feel proud.
    Thank you for making me feel good about being me. May this new year
    Bless everyone that reads your page.

  17. Cindi says:

    You can’t go back and make a new past my friend, but start today and make a brand new end.

  18. Loved these, & always enjoy reading your quotes on FB. Thanks for being here for us.
    Donna

  19. Maria says:

    Absolutely love these quotes, every single one. I noticed though that there are 2 for the month of May and none for June. Nevertheless quite inspiring! <3

  20. Madelyn McKiel says:

    I absolutely love the wisdom and the comments . I look forward to seeing and to reading every post that comes my way.I think too that it is a brilliant idea to honor the ~ Queens~of this world.So I thank you for all the wisdom and the fantastic ideas that come from you.
    Many Blessing to you in 2014 and do hope you continue sending out such heartfelt inspirations.

  21. Conni says:

    Thank you for this page I’ve just discovered. How wonderful.l was especially touched by what Lori-Ann Wells had to say. I’ve always had a difficult time with the love yourself first concept. I had heard time and time again that you couldnt love anyone else if you didnt love yourself…. I thought, “I DO love everyone”…. just not crazy about me. So how does that work?
    But I have been developing a much better opinion of myself these past few years, mostly as a result of what others have taught me about me. Somehow, from their overflowing of affection and kind words, I’m beginning to understand that I AM lovable.
    So, how do I become a Queen? 😉

  22. Jonell says:

    MY FAVORITE:

    You have never really lived
    until you have done something
    for someone who can
    NEVER repay you!

  23. Joan says:

    I so enjoy your positive affirmations every day. Thanks so much….keep them coming!! July’s was especially pertinent to me, and the comment from Lori Ann Wells was awesome!

  24. Jean O'Connell says:

    I just discovered your FB page! What an uplifting and inspirational way to start the new year. It started with “my feet are hot and I can’t sleep”…. I thought: me too! I am home now. I loved August Queenism on Shine. I am beginning the new year shining! Thank you so much!

  25. bernice says:

    Please keep ’em coming. Y’all are a sparkling, nostalgic, twelve candle, start to my day. You’re worthy of those crowns sistas.

  26. Laura says:

    Thank you for sharing the wisdom ladies!! Truly inspirational!!

  27. BDX Queen says:

    In a day and time when life is so overwhelming, it’s important to stop, take a deep breath and just be thankful for not just the blessings in life but the opportunities too!

  28. Valarie E. Crothers says:

    Thank you to all the ladies for sharing your stories, I have struggled with self acceptance for most of my life & I realized maybe a year or two ago that I couldn’t accept me because I was hiding the real me deep, deep inside of my self & when I first became aware of so many things in my life that make me who I am, I remember feeling so lost & confused,defeated,broken. For a long time I did not know who I was & when self awareness hit me I felt it was impossible for me to embrace the real woman that God made me to be, I remember feeling very awkward but eventually all I wanted in my life was to become real & I knew I could not accept myself before because I was trying to accept someone that was not me,! I knew I needed to first see myself for who I really am & at first it was so awkward & then little by little I have been able to be & see me as a real woman that I am not ashamed of or trying to hide that part of me. It has been a huge process with so much growth & change & never did I think I would get this far.. Today I can say I do love myself as a Lady & not just a woman & I am actually very excited at all of the changes yet to come to be a better person. I know I need to be patient & sometimes I get stuck for a bit but I know I love myself now & I enjoy doing “Girly” things & I know what is inside is most important but I never imagined me being so excited about getting my nails done & getting my hair done, having self confidence & being positive. I love it & I just want to keep changing & dealing with things as I become aware of them & I LOVE myself, after spending most of my life trying to destroy myself it is such a beautiful blessing to feel good about myself, love myself & be ME. Never thought I’d be able to say this but from my toes to the top of my head I am proud of myself.. & I’m so thankful for each & every person who has & who continues to help me with advice & just the time some spend with me, having someone to talk to & feeling connected to other ladies is important for me & I believe it is very healthy. V Crothers

  29. Tammy Wlodarek says:

    I absolutely LOVE the queenism’s you share each day on Facebook. It led me here, to your website. I am thrilled to find you.
    I can’t wait to see and hear the Queenism’s for this year. Keep up the great work.
    God bless you.

  30. cindy says:

    Thank you Queen Tammy. Here’s to a great year for us all.

  31. cindy says:

    Being proud of yourself is the most beautiful thing, Queen Valarie. We’re here to cheer for you as you continue your amazing journey!

  32. Sally J Vittorio says:

    I never thought of myself as a Queen, but since I have been reading the uplifting and inspirational messages from your readers every day,
    I say Yes!! I am Queen of my own Life! Sending Blessings to all the Queens out there..

  33. cindy says:

    Queen Sally, we’re so grateful that these messages are a comfort and inspiration to you. And we’re most importantly, glad to meet you!

  34. Peggy Gorman says:

    Love love them all!! Whenever I need to be uplifted all I have to do read your posts They remind me how strong I am . Thank you Queens!!!

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