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Posts Tagged ‘banishing negative self talk’

Beautiful No Matter How Old

Monday, April 3rd, 2017

Beauty is beauty no matter what the age or how many wrinkles. - Queenisms™

Beauty is beauty no matter what the age or how many wrinkles. – Queenisms™

It might be old and corny but it’s still the truth – beauty comes from the inside.  Advertising wants us to believe that we can only be beautiful if we’re young, slim and have gorgeous hair but it’s simply not true.  There is such an achingly powerful beauty that shines through the eyes and face of a woman who has kept her sense of humor, and no matter how many times she’s been hurt, can still give and receive love.  When you are beautiful on the inside you are always gorgeous on the outside.

Don’t Forget You’re Awesome

Thursday, March 23rd, 2017

She forgave herself for that one brief moment when she forgot she was awesome, and vowed not to let that happen again. - Queenisms™

She forgave herself for that one brief moment when she forgot she was awesome, and vowed not to let that happen again. – Queenisms™

Why is it so easy for us to forget that we are unique and brilliant just the way we are?  Well, for one thing we are bombarded by images in film, TV and magazines that are offered as beautiful and perfect.  If you ever have the chance to meet a super model you will understand how much smoke and mirrors go into those images.  Also, forgetting how amazing we are is just an old habit we have fallen into.  It’s easily changed by choosing to refer to ourselves in positive language. So, for today, when you speak to yourself don’t forget you are talking to a vibrant and awesome woman.

 

Being the Queen of Balance

Monday, March 20th, 2017

Sometimes she zigged and sometimes she zagged but she always showed up and gave it her best shot. That made her the Queen of balance. - Queenisms™

Sometimes she zigged and sometimes she zagged but she always showed up and gave it her best shot. That made her the Queen of balance. – Queenisms™

Perfection is one of those afflictions that is often fatal where fun and good self esteem are concerned.  We think they should give you a nice shiny medal just for showing up and doing the best you can because, honestly, you can’t do any more than that!  Life has a huge learning curve so if sometimes you zig and then sometimes you zag don’t beat yourself up.  Life has a way of balancing itself and so you already are the Queen of balance.

 

Making Yourself Happy

Monday, March 6th, 2017

She decided that today was a good day to practice loving herself. so she looked in the mirror, made eye contact and said, "What can I do today to make you happy?" - Queenisms™

She decided that today was a good day to practice loving herself. so she looked in the mirror, made eye contact and said, “What can I do today to make you happy?” – Queenisms™

Most of the time we look in the mirror and bolt out the door but have you ever looked in the mirror and actually made eye contact with yourself?  We know it sounds a bit corny but it can be very revealing.  We spend a lot of time waiting for the right elements to fall into place before we can be happy but true happiness is an inside job and only a question away.  Why not ask yourself, “What can I do today to make you happy?”  We’d love to know what the answer was.

Adding Positivity To Life

Saturday, March 4th, 2017

She decided right then and there to banish the words "would've, should've, could've." And by golly, that left a whole lot of room for "did, chose and can." - Queenisms™

She decided right then and there to banish the words “would’ve, should’ve, could’ve.” And by golly, that left a whole lot of room for “did, chose and can.” – Queenisms™

How many times have you tormented yourself with thoughts of, ” I should’ve..” or “If only I would’ve..” or ” I could’ve…?”  Letting go of those three useless phrases will give you so much more free time to enjoy your life.  Understanding that you are doing the best you can, is an important way to stop beating yourself up.  Letting go of the past and getting out of your own way leaves you a lot of room to find happiness.

See Your Own Light

Thursday, November 17th, 2016

Her friends saw her as loving, generous and a bright light in the world. It was time for her to see that as well. - Queenisms™

Her friends saw her as loving, generous and a bright light in the world. It was time for her to see that as well. – Queenisms™

When we realized that our opinions of ourselves were not only lower, but a great deal lower,  than what friends and total strangers thought of us we were flabbergasted!  When someone would tell us how much they admired us or liked us, we thought they just didn’t know us well enough to see how awful we were.  The truth is they did know us and love us – the problem was ours.  Not liking or loving ourselves was yet another bad habit we had to let go.  Look around you – we are all more alike than we realize and we are all lovable and perfect just the way we are.  Believe us and believe your friends!

You Are So Courageous

Monday, November 7th, 2016

If they knew how brave and strong she really was, they would all hang their heads in awe. She was the courageous Queen Of Her Own Life. - Queenisms™

If they knew how brave and strong she really was, they would all hang their heads in awe. She was the courageous Queen Of Her Own Life. – Queenisms™

When we stop and take a moment to look back over everything in our lives that we have been through (In our book we call it a Windy Mountain Moment!) we can’t help but be proud.  We have survived so much and are still here – laughing, loving and creating even better lives for ourselves.  If we were all standing on that Windy Mountain looking back on each other’s lives there would be a lot of mouths hanging open with awe.  Congratulations on being the courageous Queen of your own life!

 

Listen To Your Queen Voice

Wednesday, October 26th, 2016

When everything was quiet she would listen for her Queen voice. And what she heard was, "Yes, you can do this!" – Queenisms™

When everything was quiet she would listen for her Queen voice. And what she heard was, “Yes, you can do this!” – Queenisms

We used to have a cavalcade of academy award winning negative voices we would hear when we least expected or needed them.  You know that voice that says you’re too stupid, or too fat or not pretty enough.  We made the choice to banish those negative voices by saying, “If you don’t have anything good to say then don’t say anything at all!”  It takes a bit of practice but it works well!  In the sweet quiet left after those negative voices are gone is the voice of truth that whispers, “Yes, you can do this!”  Can you tell which voice is your Queen voice?

You’re Not Selfish

Wednesday, October 5th, 2016

Doing something nice for herself every day didn't make her selfish or take anything away from anyone else. It just made her wise. – Queenisms™

Doing something nice for herself every day didn’t make her selfish or take anything away from anyone else. It just made her wise. – Queenisms

As women, we think taking care of others is in our DNA!  In the past we would put everyone first and care for them until all life had drained from us.  The truth is that if you don’t take care of yourself you’ll be of no use to anyone else – it doesn’t make you selfish it’s just smart!  We made the choice to put ourselves on the top of our lists.  We spend some time every day taking care of our mental and physical health, doing something relaxing or fun!  Remember the flight attendants advice to put on your own oxygen mask BEFORE you help someone else.  Where are you on your list of priorities?

You Talking To You

Tuesday, September 20th, 2016

The Person who spoke most cruelly to her was her. She decided she would start speaking kindly to herself replacing any negative words with positive ones. She would choose language that supported, nurtured, motivated and, as often as she could, make her smile. That's how you treat someone you love. - Queenisms™

The person who spoke most cruelly to her was her.  She decided she would start speaking kindly to herself replacing any negative words with positive ones.  She would choose language that supported, nurtured, motivated and, as often as she could, make her smile.  That’s how you treat someone you love. – Queenisms™

We’ve called ourselves terrible names – names we wouldn’t even think of calling a stranger.  We’ve said things to ourselves that we would never let anyone else say to us.  Language matters and so do the words we use in describing ourselves to others and to ourselves.  It took a little practice to catch the negative words and change them to positive but we have made the choice to treat ourselves the way we would treat someone we love very much.  Eye opening?