Queen of Your Own Life by Kathy Kinney and Cindy Ratzlaff

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Get Out Of Your Own Way

Friday, June 23rd, 2017

One day it occurred to her that the only way she could fail at life was if she let her fear get in the way of doing what she needed to be happy. So she made the decision to get out of her own way. - Queenisms™

One day it occurred to her that the only way she could fail at life was if she let her fear get in the way of doing what she needed to be happy. So she made the decision to get out of her own way. – Queenisms™

It would be so much easier to blame our inability to change on everything but ourselves but truthfully, we are the problem.  When you sort through all of the puzzle pieces of why we aren’t happy it’s always because we’re afraid – afraid to fail, afraid to succeed, afraid to live and afraid to die.  Making the decision to get out of our own way and risk the adventure that is life is the most rewarding and smartest choice we can make.

Make Positive Changes Now

Tuesday, June 20th, 2017

She didn't have to wait for New Year's Eve to make positive changes in her life. Every moment of every hour of every day was the perfect time to finally claim her power and become the Queen of her own life. - Queenisms™

She didn’t have to wait for New Year’s Eve to make positive changes in her life. Every moment of every hour of every day was the perfect time to finally claim her power and become the Queen of her own life. – Queenisms™

We always used to put so much power into our New Year’s Eve resolutions only to find them long gone by the middle of February, and us with another excuse to beat ourselves up.  Why not take a tiny step through the fear of change right now!  It’s your life and you have the power to make a positive change any moment of any day. What’s stopping you?

Be Your Own Brilliant Self

Monday, June 19th, 2017

She wanted everyone to like her, which caused her great anxiety. She decided to no longer pretend to be more or less than she really was. She would be her own brilliant self and that would be way more than enough. - Queenisms™

She wanted everyone to like her, which caused her great anxiety. She decided to no longer pretend to be more or less than she really was. She would be her own brilliant self and that would be way more than enough. – Queenisms™

How much time do you spend trying to be something more or less than you really are?  We work so hard to impress others and then diminish ourselves when our intelligence or power might threaten someone else.  There is such a delightful and relaxing freedom in just being ourselves.  If people don’t like you for yourself then they were never your friends to begin with.  Being our brilliant self is so way more than enough.

Life Is Short So Just Do It!

Saturday, June 17th, 2017

If she'd known then what she knew now she'd have worn the dangling earrings her friends all said were just a little flashy.

If she’d known then what she knew now she’d have worn the dangling earrings her friends all said were just a little flashy.

If we only knew then what we know now, how different it all would have been.  It’s an oldie but a goody and our only response it:  Life is short. Wear the earrings! Laugh more. Be you!  Don’t you agree?

Every Day A Brand New Adventure

Friday, June 16th, 2017

She reminded herself that every day was the beginning of a brand new adventure. It was her choice to make. - Queenisms™

She reminded herself that every day was the beginning of a brand new adventure. It was her choice to make. – Queenisms™

The one thing in life we have control over is how we are going to react to each new day.  We have many choices such as cower in fear under the covers or we can wake up each morning full of resentment and carry that with us out into the world.  A wise and positive choice is to believe that each day is a new adventure and that you are the woman who is bold and brave enough to live it.  Which do you prefer – fear, resentment or adventure?  It’s your choice.

Stop Wasting Your Time

Wednesday, June 14th, 2017

One day she realized she was wasting her time defining her experiences as good or bad. It was all just life and she was brave, strong and creative enough to handle anything. - Queenisms™

One day she realized she was wasting her time defining her experiences as good or bad. It was all just life and she was brave, strong and creative enough to handle anything. – Queenisms™

Labeling life experiences as good or bad certainly seems like a good idea but does it really work.  How many times have gotten something that you thought was going to be wonderful only to have it turn out not so good?  The other side of that is all of the supposed bad things that have happened and ended up leading to a miraculously good outcome.  We finally realized it was time to let go of the labeling and stick to the facts – we are all brave, strong and creative enough to handle anything.

Help Yourself First

Wednesday, June 7th, 2017

Healing others came naturally to her. But, she decided it was time to focus some of her mighty healing power on herself. She knew you can't really help anyone else until you help yourself. - Queenisms™

Healing others came naturally to her. But, she decided it was time to focus some of her mighty healing power on herself. She knew you can’t really help anyone else until you help yourself. – Queenisms™

When we are on a flight we always marvel when we  hear the flight attendant remind us that to put on our own oxygen mask before we try to help someone else with theirs.  Helping yourself first is good advice not just for air travel but for all of life.  Learning to put ourselves first and letting go of the feeling of being selfish takes a lot of practice but aren’t you worth it?

Be Who You Promised Yourself To Be

Monday, June 5th, 2017

She decided to start setting strong boundaries because being honest and courageous was the kind of woman she had promised herself to be. - Queenisms™

She decided to start setting strong boundaries because being honest and courageous was the kind of woman she had promised herself to be. – Queenisms™

Have you grown up to be all that you hoped and promised yourself to be when you were little?  We promised ourselves that we would be brave and honest but life can be scary and sometimes we were saying yes when we really wanted to say no. We had problems setting boundaries because we were afraid that people wouldn’t like us. We decided we didn’t want to let those little girls down and began protecting ourselves by setting strong boundaries.  It was uncomfortable in the beginning but it became so much easier to set a boundary.  It takes courage but there is a freedom in living an honest life and it is a promise fulfilled.

Give Yourself A Second Chance

Friday, June 2nd, 2017

Everybody deserves a second chance. So she gave herself one. - Queenisms™

Everybody deserves a second chance. So she gave herself one. – Queenisms™

Some where along the journey we got the wrong impression that we should know everything and always make the correct choice.  The truth is we spend every moment of our lives learning from the choices that we make – and that’s the way it’s supposed to be!  There are no right or wrong choices, there are just opportunities to learn and to become stronger and more resilient.  It’s time to stop judging ourselves for choices we have made and instead pat ourselves on the back for learning and surviving. There is no limit on second chances.  You can give yourself as many as you need.

Small Positive Choices Every Day

Thursday, June 1st, 2017

She began to realize that happiness could be achieved by making a series of small positive choices every day. Queenisms™

She began to realize that happiness could be achieved by making a series of small positive choices every day. Queenisms™

How to create a happy life for ourselves is a frequent topic for us.  Now that we understand that happiness is an inside job and that we’re in charge how do we begin?  It’s all about the small choices and practicing them every day.  A good place to start is with how we speak to and about ourselves.  If you’ve ever made a mistake and called yourself stupid, an idiot or worse this would be a good time to practice changing that habit.  Try speaking to yourself as you would someone you love very much – with kindness and respect.  What do you have to lose?