Queen of Your Own Life by Kathy Kinney and Cindy Ratzlaff

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We’re Going On Vacation!

Monday, July 17th, 2017

Laughter Is the Best Medicine

You won’t be seeing our newsletter again until mid August because we are going on a much deserved working vacation!  We are getting together for our annual retreat and to talk over ideas for a new book we’d like to write.  We will be working hard but we will also be enjoying every single moment of it.  We hope you’re having a wonderful summer and we’ll see you when we get back!

You Are Worthy of Happiness

Monday, July 17th, 2017

The fact is there's not a limited amount of happiness in the world. And all she had to do to have some in her life was to understand that she was just as worthy as every one else. - Queenisms™

The fact is there’s not a limited amount of happiness in the world. And all she had to do to have some in her life was to understand that she was just as worthy as every one else. – Queenisms™

Sometimes we’ll glance over at someone else’s life and feel like they have something we don’t have.  Other people’s lives always look better from the outside but they have trials and tribulations just like we do.  We are all working towards learning to be strong and courageous women and being happy and the by product of that is happiness.  We are all born worthy of being happy.  Isn’t time to accept that gift and enjoy it?

Don’t Let Them Hurt Your Feelings

Monday, July 10th, 2017

She looked at herself in the mirror and said, "My time is valuable and I'm not going to waste it having hurt feelings. No one can hurt my feelings unless I let them and I've decided I'm not going to let them." - Queenisms™

She looked at herself in the mirror and said, “My time is valuable and I’m not going to waste it having hurt feelings. No one can hurt my feelings unless I let them and I’ve decided I’m not going to let them.” – Queenisms™

Is making the decision to not get your feelings hurt really all it takes?  Yes, it is that simple but it does take practice.  Other people will try and shake your confidence because they are afraid, angry, jealous  – fill in the blank!  You have the choice to not allow their negativity to damage you.  Two things that we find work are to avoid the kind of people that try to make us feel bad about ourselves and use an affirmation like, “Negativity be gone! They only opinion of me that matters is my own!”  Feels a bit silly but oh, does it work!

 

Go Big Or Go Home

Friday, July 7th, 2017

She woke up thinking "Go big or go home." And she just wasn't in the mood to go home. - Queenisms™

She woke up thinking “Go big or go home.” And she just wasn’t in the mood to go home. – Queenisms™

We believe that it’s true that everything we want is right on the other side of fear.  How many times have you let your fear of failure or ridicule keep you from doing something you really wanted to do.  It’s possible to make positive changes by just taking one tiny step through our fears every day.  The days add up and using the affirmation “Go big or go home,” is a good way to help yourself move forward.  Isn’t it time to get out of your own way and start heading towards the life you want?

Letting Go Of Negativity

Wednesday, July 5th, 2017

She decided she would let other people's negativity pass right through her, straight into the ground where it would turn to dust and blow away. - Queenisms™

She decided she would let other people’s negativity pass right through her, straight into the ground where it would turn to dust and blow away. – Queenisms™

When we are surrounded by people, places and things that are negative we don’t always feel how it affects us.  Of course the best defense is to avoid these things but it’s not always that easy.  We like to use our imagination to heal us and make our lives a bit more fun especially when in the middle of a negative overload.  We simply imagine that only positive feelings stay in our bodies and all  negativity just passes right through us down into the core of the earth where it is burned away by molten lava.  A strong imagination is a great tool for healing and laughter.

Learning to Live in the Now

Monday, July 3rd, 2017

More than anything she was tired of being afraid. So she decided to let go of the past, not worry about the future and have the courage to live only in the now. - Queenisms™

More than anything she was tired of being afraid. So she decided to let go of the past, not worry about the future and have the courage to live only in the now. – Queenisms™

When the pain of where we’re at becomes to much, that’s when we finally make the change.  It seems some of us can handle a lot of pain but there is always a bottom and when we get sick and tired of being sick and tired we will start to take the small steps to make a change.  Letting go of the mistakes of the past and fear of the future are important steps to begin to enjoy the now. Aren’t you worth it?

 

Take Good Care Of Yourself

Friday, June 30th, 2017

She knew she felt better about herself when she looked good. So she decided to take better care of herself because if she didn't who would? - Queenisms™

She knew she felt better about herself when she looked good. So she decided to take better care of herself because if she didn’t who would? – Queenisms™

It’s so easy to care for others and often so hard to care for ourselves – but if we don’t do it, who will?  It’s one of those interesting cycles of life – if you work at taking care of yourself you feel better and if you feel better you look better.  We are all worth the time it takes to build our health and our bodies so why not take the steps to start doing it right now?

Brand New Day

Wednesday, June 28th, 2017

Fresh new day. Brand new chance. She took a deep breath and stepped out into the world. - Queenisms™

Fresh new day. Brand new chance. She took a deep breath and stepped out into the world. – Queenisms™

There’s a wonderful poem by Ralph Waldo Emerson that says, “Write it on your heart that every day is the best day in the year.”  We wake up every day with the ability to let go of the mistakes of yesterday and move into a clean new day.  We can renew our dreams and gather the courage necessary to walk through our fears and continue to create the life we want to live.  Every day is a fresh new day and a brand new chance.  Why not take a deep breath and step out into the world.

A Day To Do What You Want

Sunday, June 25th, 2017

When that list of "should" starts rolling around in your head, take a step back and ask yourself "what do I really want to do?" - Queenisms™

When that list of “should” starts rolling around in your head, take a step back and ask yourself “what do I really want to do?” – Queenisms™

Sometimes it’s important to let go of the idea of what you need to get done and just take some time to enjoy yourself – especially when the weather is nice!  If we don’t give ourselves the gift of some time to just enjoy life, who will?  If your life looks like a long hallway filled with things you need to get done maybe it’s time to just leave the dust bunnies under your bed alone and go do what you want to do.

Get Out Of Your Own Way

Friday, June 23rd, 2017

One day it occurred to her that the only way she could fail at life was if she let her fear get in the way of doing what she needed to be happy. So she made the decision to get out of her own way. - Queenisms™

One day it occurred to her that the only way she could fail at life was if she let her fear get in the way of doing what she needed to be happy. So she made the decision to get out of her own way. – Queenisms™

It would be so much easier to blame our inability to change on everything but ourselves but truthfully, we are the problem.  When you sort through all of the puzzle pieces of why we aren’t happy it’s always because we’re afraid – afraid to fail, afraid to succeed, afraid to live and afraid to die.  Making the decision to get out of our own way and risk the adventure that is life is the most rewarding and smartest choice we can make.