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Time To Just Be Yourself

Monday, April 24th, 2017

She decided to just be herself and let the chips fall where they may. Wise Queens do things like that. - Queenisms™

She decided to just be herself and let the chips fall where they may. Wise Queens do things like that. – Queenisms™

The message is so loud and strong that we are not okay the way we are but that doesn’t make it true.  Letting go of pretenses and just being yourself is the perfect way to find out who are really your true and trusted friends.  It’s also a great way to open your life to let in people who love and enjoy you for who you really are.  Showing up every day and being yourself is like taking a breath of  pure, clean air.  It will make you fell deliciously free.

Being Patient With Yourself

Friday, April 21st, 2017

She decided she would practice being patient with family, friends, pets and especially herself. - Queenisms™

She decided she would practice being patient with family, friends, pets and especially herself. – Queenisms™

We are more impatient with ourselves than we are with anyone else in our lives.  We would never let anyone else speak to us the way we speak to ourselves.  Everyday life can be so frustrating with the need to rush around and accomplish such a huge amount of work, it’s no wonder we often find ourselves impatient with everyone around us.  That’s why it’s so important to, at least once a day, stop, take a breath and relax.  Perfection can be fatal to fun, friendship and love.  It’s better to get less done and instead treat all the people in our lives with love – especially ourselves.

Walk Away From Negativity

Tuesday, April 18th, 2017

It was her choice. She could let negativity kick her in the pants or she could walk away. She put on her shoes, opened the door and said, "Buh-bye now." - Queenisms™

It was her choice. She could let negativity kick her in the pants or she could walk away. She put on her shoes, opened the door and said, “Buh-bye now.” – Queenisms™

Negativity is like a magnet, it pulls people, places and things into our lives that we don’t need.  Letting go of our own negativity and the people in our lives who bring their own drama with them is a choice and we get to make it every day. It requires a bit of practice to see our lives with gratitude for what we have instead of anger and resentment for what we don’t have.  This simple practice will ultimately open the door for all things positive to walk right in.

Being Who You Truly Are

Friday, April 14th, 2017

She chose to live her day as a powerful, intelligent woman who had the ability to navigate the day with grace and humor because that's who she truly was. - Queenisms™

She chose to live her day as a powerful, intelligent woman who had the ability to navigate the day with grace and humor because that’s who she truly was. – Queenisms™

If you gathered 100 women in a room and asked them what they thought of themselves, you would be surprised that 99.99% of them had low self-esteem and the other micro percent were just not admitting it.  We are so much more than the foolish things we have come to believe about ourselves.  We all have the ability to choose how to live each day and so why not choose to live it with your sense of humor in tact and continuously nurturing the understanding that you are perfect just the way your are.

There’s Always Something More

Saturday, April 1st, 2017

You don't have to be twenty-one to have your whole life ahead of you. There is always something more. - Queenisms™

You don’t have to be twenty-one to have your whole life ahead of you. There is always something more. – Queenisms™

You can make choices to start a new life right now.  You don’t have to be young or fresh out of school – you can make the choice and start taking the steps towards fulfilling a dream you’ve always had. If you’re feeling trapped or stuck the chances are that the only thing in your way is you.  Say out loud what you want and start taking the small steps necessary to make it happen. It doesn’t matter if you’re 18 or 108 – there is always something more.

Letting Go Of Old Anger

Friday, March 31st, 2017

She had a lot of anger about things that had happened to her in the past. She made the decision to let it go. That's how a victim becomes a survivor. - Queenisms™

She had a lot of anger about things that had happened to her in the past. She made the decision to let it go. That’s how a victim becomes a survivor. – Queenisms™

We all have things from our past that make us angry and, if we need it, we should never be afraid to ask for professional help.  In the end, whether you choose to get help or not, you have to make the decision to let go of the past.  If you don’t it will always get in the way of your future and do you really want to waste your precious time that way.  You are the only one who can make the choice between victim and survivor. Why wait any longer?

An Important Discovery

Monday, March 27th, 2017

She thought, "Who cares if they like me or not. I love me." She had made the most important discovery of all. - Queenisms™

She thought, “Who cares if they like me or not. I love me.” She had made the most important discovery of all. – Queenisms™

Realizing that it doesn’t matter who likes you as long as you love yourself is the key to the freedom of being yourself.  All of the hours we spend trying to change the way we look, act or talk would be free to do something else with. Also, the advantage to being confident in yourself is that nothing is more attractive than someone being their authentic self.  It seems like a really good time to show up with your power and self-appreciation in tact.  If not now, when?

Being the Queen of Balance

Monday, March 20th, 2017

Sometimes she zigged and sometimes she zagged but she always showed up and gave it her best shot. That made her the Queen of balance. - Queenisms™

Sometimes she zigged and sometimes she zagged but she always showed up and gave it her best shot. That made her the Queen of balance. – Queenisms™

Perfection is one of those afflictions that is often fatal where fun and good self esteem are concerned.  We think they should give you a nice shiny medal just for showing up and doing the best you can because, honestly, you can’t do any more than that!  Life has a huge learning curve so if sometimes you zig and then sometimes you zag don’t beat yourself up.  Life has a way of balancing itself and so you already are the Queen of balance.

 

Celebrate Your Life

Friday, March 17th, 2017

She decided to celebrate life all day long. - Queenisms™

She decided to celebrate life all day long. – Queenisms™

Have you ever really celebrated the gift of being alive? We mean actually let go of your cares and worries – real and imagined – and just spent the whole day allowing yourself to feel joyful about breathing air and being part of the world?  We know what you’re thinking – the world is a mess, the mortgage or rent is due and you work with a  major jerk.   Newsflash – the world and your life will never be perfect but that doesn’t mean you can’t allow yourself the gift of joy.  Start small by celebrating life for an hour and build up to a whole day.  You deserve it.

 

Give Yourself a Time Out

Thursday, March 16th, 2017

People were plucking her last nerve so she decided to give herself a time out. It was delightful. - Queenisms™

People were plucking her last nerve so she decided to give herself a time out. It was delightful. – Queenisms™

We love the idea of giving yourself a time out!  We’ve all had that moment where we are beyond overwhelmed and one more thing happens then – twang – the last nerve is plucked!  Option one: total melt down leaving verbal damage and damaged relationships in your wake.  Option two: take a time out, just excuse yourself and walk away, walk around the block, sit in your car in the driveway with the spa channel on or lie on your bed face down screaming into your pillow.  What a perfectly delightful chance to use your power of choice.