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See The World In Vibrant Color

Wednesday, September 14th, 2016

Others might see things as black and white but she chose to see the world in vibrant color. – Queenisms™

Others might see things as black and white but she chose to see the world in vibrant color. – Queenisms

When we were younger, we both lived in New York City while we were building our careers.  There seemed to be an unwritten rule that you could only wear black or white – not even navy blue – just black or black and white.  It made it easy to get dressed in the morning but it made for a boring life.  As we got older we not only began adding color to our wardrobes but we began to see all the shades of gray, white and rainbow hues that made living life such a fun adventure.  Are you a black and white kind of gal or do you live in vibrant color?

Express Yourself In New and Surprising Ways

Tuesday, August 23rd, 2016

She longed to express herself in new and surprising ways. And, so she did. - Queenisms™

She longed to express herself in new and surprising ways. And, so she did. – Queenisms™

Sometimes we get in a rut with our lives and sometimes we just feel that way!  We’ve found that a great way to move out of that feeling of being stuck is to make a change in the small things we do daily.  Simple things like changing to a new kind of soap so we get a different scent when we wash our hands or take a shower; or a new flavored lip balm or lipstick color or if you always wear blue change to green!  This is a simple trick we use to bring a breath of fresh air into our lives.  Give it a try and let us know how it works for you!

The Gift of Help

Monday, August 24th, 2015

She was always available to help others. Now it was time for her to discover how to let others help her. It was a gift that went both ways. - Queenisms™

She was always available to help others. Now it was time for her to discover how to let others help her. It was a gift that went both ways. – Queenisms™

Are you as comfortable receiving as you are giving? So many of us would bend over backwards for other people and yet, when the time comes that we could use help, it never occurs to us to ask for it. Is it that we’re afraid to be perceived as weak? Or is it because we don’t trust that the help would be there if we asked and we’re trying to protect ourselves from disappointment? We suspect for many, it is the later. Yet when we don’t allow others to be of service, to help us when we need it, we’re keeping intimate friendship at arms length. Having the courage to be vulnerable and ask for help can open up our hearts to a new level of relationship with friends. Now there may be times when we ask and we are disappointed. But we suspect there will be more times when the kindness of our inner circle will humble us and enrich our lives beyond imagination. Allowing ourselves to be vulnerable enough to ask for help is an act of courage and of trust.

When She Set Her Mind to Something

Tuesday, August 18th, 2015

When she set her mind to something, there was no stopping her. Period. - Queenisms™

When she set her mind to something, there was no stopping her. Period. – Queenisms™

You are stronger, wiser, braver and more capable than you know. When you set out to do something purposefully, you are more likely to succeed than when you say “well, I’ll try.” Need to get dinner ready when you’re feeling poorly? You do it. Need to get a sick child the care they need? You do it. You do what is necessary and important without fail. So following your dreams, making your heart’s desire into reality is no different. If it is truly important to you, most of the time you can make it happen. What is important to you? Let’s share and inspire one another. Our goal? Launch our new 2016 calendar and book this fall with gusto and continue to reach new people with our daily messages. Let’s try this. Every time you catch yourself thinking or saying “I’ll try,” stop and rephrase to “This is important to me. I will do this.” We’d love to hear your experience.

Be transformed

Monday, August 17th, 2015

She was learning to offer herself the same unconditional love she showered on others. And she felt transformed. - Queenisms™

She was learning to offer herself the same unconditional love she showered on others. And she felt transformed. – Queenisms™

We have the capacity for great, deep love. Many of us experience this kind of unconditional love for our children and/or our pets. We don’t judge them. We just love them. Can we not do the same for ourselves? Let’s dig deep this week and practice giving ourselves pure, unconditional love and support in our actions and in our words – to and for ourselves. When we do what’s right for us, we do what’s right for everyone around us because we fill up our own well and are able to be a source of strength for others. Loving yourself is not selfish. It’s selfless.

Daydreaming is for Queens

Friday, August 14th, 2015

Other people called it daydreaming. She called it essential planning time for her next big idea. - Queenisms™

Other people called it daydreaming. She called it essential planning time for her next big idea. – Queenisms™

We think daydreaming is important. We think letting your mind wander can reveal the variety of choices, paths or options available to you every day. We believe there is always a new choice to make, a new adventure ahead and those big ideas need quiet reflection in order to come into full blossom. Won’t you give yourself the gift of a little time to daydream today? And please, oh please, don’t tell us you don’t have time. You do. When we’re rushed, we take two minutes (the length of 4 television commercials) to sit quietly and let our minds wander. Most of the time, before we get out of bed in the morning or when we’ve just gotten into bed at night. You can do this. Let your mind wander. Daydreaming is for Queens.

A Bump in the Road

Thursday, August 13th, 2015

She hit a bump in the road so big she had to make a detour. That unexpected turn started her on her next big adventure. Now every bump in the road just makes her smile. - Queenisms™

She hit a bump in the road so big she had to make a detour. That unexpected turn started her on her next big adventure. Now every bump in the road just makes her smile. – Queenisms™

Sometimes those bumps in the road are just dips and sometimes they can swallow the whole car. But each unexpected detour leads us to places and people we couldn’t have imagined before that bump. Sometimes those unexpected changes help us walk away from situations or people who are not supportive in our lives. Sometimes they help us see how valuable our inner circle really is. Sometimes they reveal an unseen option and sometimes they simply surprise and delight us as we find our own inner courage and strength. Have you ever hit a bump in the road only to find a hidden treasure because of your detour? Let’s inspire and encourage one another so those still looking for the smooth road after the big bump will know the road gets wider.

Healing Power of Encouragement

Wednesday, August 12th, 2015

She believed in the healing power of an encouraging word, lovingly given and graciously received. - Queenisms™

She believed in the healing power of an encouraging word, lovingly given and graciously received. – Queenisms™

We might just be blowing smoke OR we could be onto something. It will cost you nothing to try our little experiment. Set your mind to encouraging those around you this week. It can be as simple as telling someone you’re so glad they were able to meet you for coffee or as deeply supportive as calling an old friend to tell them how much their friendship has meant to you over the years. Thank people. That is a form of encouragement because it reinforces behavior worthy of thanks. Praise people for their efforts. Remind people how much you love something about them. Be purposeful in finding something to encourage in those you meet this week. And, don’t forget yourself. There is healing power in encouraging yourself, too.

You are Dazzling

Tuesday, August 11th, 2015

She surrounded herself with dazzling friends and together they lit up the world. - Queenisms™

She surrounded herself with dazzling friends and together they lit up the world. – Queenisms™

The company we keep has an impact on our view of our world. Those dazzling friends we love give us the support to shine as well. Choose your friends wisely. And when the sparkle momentarily goes out for one of them, be there to remind them that the spark comes from within and no outward force can permanently dull their shine. You are, we are, dazzling.

Born to Stand Out

Sunday, August 9th, 2015

When she was younger she'd longed to fit in. Then she realized she was born to stand out. So she did. - Queenisms™

When she was younger she’d longed to fit in. Then she realized she was born to stand out. So she did. – Queenisms™

You know who you are. You wanted those skinny jeans but they didn’t quit fit. You had to have a shag hair cut but your curly hair wouldn’t behave. You love to mix patterns and colors but you made yourself wear black. You laugh too loud, burn too brightly and you never blend in. We applaud you, Queens. Everyone is meant to stand out. Can you imagine how dull this world would be if we were all the same. You were born to stand out.