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Know Who Has Your Back

Saturday, May 13th, 2017

She knew who had her back. And, the knowledge was priceless. - Queenisms™

She knew who had her back. And, the knowledge was priceless. – Queenisms™

We all have family and friends that we love but there are only a few people in our lives who really have our back.  We’re talking about the person who loves you unconditionally – no matter what and is there to support you come thick or thin.  Having one or more people like that in your life is a priceless gift.  The only catch is in order to have someone like that in our lives we have to offer that gift in return.  The world is full of brilliant woman who willing and able to be a good friend.  If you don’t have one, isn’t it time to begin the adventure of looking for one?

Gratitude For Friends

Friday, April 7th, 2017

She was grateful for the trusted friends she had in her life. She decided to find a way to let them know how much she cared. - Queenisms™

She was grateful for the trusted friends she had in her life. She decided to find a way to let them know how much she cared. – Queenisms™

We have all had family and friends who can make us feel bad about ourselves or who have betrayed us.  All we have to do is let go of them and their problems and move on to find new, and this is the important word, trusted friends.  A trusted friend is one who has no agenda for your friendship – they love you unconditionally whether you are at the top or the bottom of life.  All they want is for you to be happy.  We all deserve good friends like this and they are out there.  All we have to do is be open to letting them come into our lives.

Happy New Year!

Sunday, January 1st, 2017

Then come the wild weather.  Come sleet or come snow.  We will stand by each other However it blow. Poet Simon Dach (29 July 1605 – 15 April 1659)  Happy New Year from Queen of Your Own Life!

Then come the wild weather.
Come sleet or come snow.
We will stand by each other
However it blow.
Poet Simon Dach (29 July 1605 – 15 April 1659)

Happy New Year from Queen of Your Own Life!

We believe it’s more fun to be on the adventure of life together than to be alone.  Our lives are so much better because you are in them.  Here’s to 2017 – another year of  peace, love, friendship and support for all of us.  Love, Cindy and Kathy

Someone To Watch Your Back

Tuesday, October 4th, 2016

It was good to have someone you trust to watch your back. – Queenisms™

It was good to have someone you trust to watch your back. – Queenisms

We’ve had lots of friends through the years.  There have been some who have betrayed us, some who have wanted things from us and then there are the friends who are agenda free.  Agenda free means a friend who loves you no matter what – if you gain weight, lose weight, drink too much, get really successful or fail in a huge and spectacular way.  A trusted, agenda free friend is someone to cherish and hold dear.  If you have one it’s a good time to let them know how grateful you are that they are in your life.  If you don’t have one please don’t give up looking because there is one or two or even more, out there waiting to meet you. It’s never too late to find a good friend.  Don’t you agree?

Sometimes You Just Need A Good Friend

Saturday, September 10th, 2016

Sometimes a gal just needed a good friend to listen . . . and, kittens. – Queenisms™

Sometimes a gal just needed a good friend to listen . . . and, kittens. – Queenisms™

We decided that having a trusted agenda free friend or two is the best gift we could give ourselves.  Everybody needs someone to watch them live who, when asked, “How am I doing?” will offer an answer that can be trusted – whether you like the answer or not!  If you have some trusted friends, cherish them and let them know how much you value them.  If you need a few new friends, don’t be afraid to look for them because it’s easier than you think.  We are all looking for the same thing – someone to be a good friend to so they can be a good friend to us.  Do you have a good and trusted friend?  Or some kittens? We’d love to hear about it

Where the Heck Are We Going?

Sunday, February 28th, 2016

Most of the time they had no idea where the heck they were going. But they didn't give a fig because getting there together was such a wild joy ride. - Queenisms™

Most of the time they had no idea where the heck they were going. But they didn’t give a fig because getting there together was such a wild joy ride. – Queenisms™

Life is a bumpy wild ride. Sometimes we fling our hands over our heads and scream in delight and sometimes we’re barely able to hang on, shaking in fear. But when we have someone to take that ride with us, it’s nearly always a lot more fun. If you have such a friend, hug her, write her a letter, give her a call or get in touch in some way and tell her how much she means to you. If you don’t have such a friend, look to your left and your right and notice who else might be looking around, alone and in need of your friendship. Be such a friend to them and give yourself the gift of friendship in return. It’s a wild joy ride, made better with friends. Life is a bumpy ride and we often find ourselves off the beaten path without a map to our next destination. That kind of trip is best taken with a good friend.

The Restorative Power of Fun

Tuesday, December 8th, 2015

She believed in the restorative power of fun. So she kept a couple of good laughs up her sleeve, and she wasn't afraid to use them. - Queenisms™

She believed in the restorative power of fun. So she kept a couple of good laughs up her sleeve, and she wasn’t afraid to use them. – Queenisms™

Photo credit: Kathleen Crook’s mother, Marie.

We love the impish look on this photo from Kathleen Crook. Although we don’t know for sure, we think her Mom, Marie, probably had a great sense of humor. Humor is something we believe holds a lot of power in life. It has the ability to help us through stressful times and times of trouble. It has the ability to bond us to others and uplift us on even the most average day. Humor, we think, is something that comes naturally to human’s and we have to work pretty hard to squash it out of our lives. So folks, let’s stop trying so hard to find the negative and the hurtful and the damaging things in everyone and everything around us and look for the silly, sweet and funny stuff we can celebrate together. Let’s just try.

Friending Yourself

Tuesday, November 17th, 2015

She decided to treat herself the way she would treat someone she loved. That simple decision took her breath away. - Queenisms™

She decided to treat herself the way she would treat someone she loved. That simple decision took her breath away. – Queenisms™

We think of “friending” as something we do on Facebook and it amuses us that the noun “friend” can now be used as a verb. But that’s neither here nor there. What the Queens most want to say today is this. You are worthy of your own friendship. When you treat yourself with kindness and respect, you amplify the qualities that are most desirable to other as they look for friends. In addition, you model to the world at large exactly how you believe you should be treated. In other words, love yourself enough to expect good behavior from those around you, toward you and toward the world. If you find yourself in a situation where this is not the case, do everything in your power to speak up or move on. Won’t you “Friend” yourself today?

Listening Without Judgment

Sunday, November 15th, 2015

When there was nothing more to say, and no easy answer to the problem, she was grateful for someone to listen - with love and without judgment. - Queenisms™

When there was nothing more to say, and no easy answer to the problem, she was grateful for someone to listen – with love and without judgment. – Queenisms™

There are times when a problem does not have or does not need an immediate solution. And there are times when we just need to process an experience without advice. The gift of listening, and offering only what is asked – a safe place to speak – is a beautiful thing. Is this a gift you’re able to give?

Friendship and Tea

Tuesday, November 3rd, 2015

She believed there were very few things that couldn't be made better with a good cup of tea and a tiny sandwich. Especially when shared with a friend. - Queenisms™  Special thanks to Susan Neff for allowing us to reimage her cousin, Bernice Neff Keene.

She believed there were very few things that couldn’t be made better with a good cup of tea and a tiny sandwich. Especially when shared with a friend. – Queenisms™

Tea and sympathy, tea and laughter, tea and a good ‘catch up.’ There’s something very healing about the ritual of a cup of tea with a friend. For some that might be coffee or even a big glass of wine, but whatever the ritual, why not reach out to a friend this week and nurture that connection with an in-person get together over something. Life’s road is long. Sometimes it’s smooth and sometimes it’s bumpy. It’s all made better with a good friend – and a tiny sandwich or two.

Special thanks to Susan Neff for allowing us to reimage her cousin, Bernice Neff Keene.