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Life Is Short So Just Do It!

Saturday, June 17th, 2017

If she'd known then what she knew now she'd have worn the dangling earrings her friends all said were just a little flashy.

If she’d known then what she knew now she’d have worn the dangling earrings her friends all said were just a little flashy.

If we only knew then what we know now, how different it all would have been.  It’s an oldie but a goody and our only response it:  Life is short. Wear the earrings! Laugh more. Be you!  Don’t you agree?

Live Life Your Way

Monday, June 12th, 2017

Her realization that there was no right way or wrong way to live life set her free. She tossed out her out-dated rule book and finally began to live. - Queenisms™

Her realization that there was no right way or wrong way to live life set her free. She tossed out her out-dated rule book and finally began to live. – Queenisms™

We have all grown up with lot’s of rules – don’t run with scissors or you’ll fall and poke your eye out, don’t lean your chair back too far or you’ll fall and hit your head, etc!  There are a lot of good rules that have kept us safe but the idea that there is a rule book to follow that tells us the right or wrong way to live life is not true.  It’s time to toss out the old rule book and celebrate the life you are living.  It’s never too late to start the adventure.

Never Let Yourself Down

Friday, June 9th, 2017

She had promised to take care of herself and to never let herself down. She was the Queen of her own life and she worked hard to keep that promise. - Queenisms™

She had promised to take care of herself and to never let herself down. She was the Queen of her own life and she worked hard to keep that promise. – Queenisms™

We all want someone to rely on, someone who will help take care of us and watch our backs.  How about giving that job to ourselves? It doesn’t mean you can’t have family or friends who do the same but the peace and confidence of knowing that you’ve promised yourself that you will take care of yourself is a great gift.  We know it sounds a bit silly but as the Queen of your own life you can make a promise like that with yourself and work hard to keep it.

What Can You Do Today To Be Happy?

Tuesday, June 6th, 2017

She had lived her whole life trying to get approval from everyone else. She decided to stop and finally ask herself, "What can I do today to make you happy?" - Queenisms™

She had lived her whole life trying to get approval from everyone else. She decided to stop and finally ask herself, “What can I do today to make you happy?” – Queenisms™

Approval is an important motivator but what about working hard to win our own approval.  How much simpler life would be if, instead of trying to make others like us or making choices to win their approval, we only kept the focus on us.  Here’s a little exercise to practice finding happiness and creating the life that you would like to lead.  Look at yourself in the mirror, make eye contact and ask yourself, “What can I do today to make you happy?” What was your answer?

Small Positive Choices Every Day

Thursday, June 1st, 2017

She began to realize that happiness could be achieved by making a series of small positive choices every day. Queenisms™

She began to realize that happiness could be achieved by making a series of small positive choices every day. Queenisms™

How to create a happy life for ourselves is a frequent topic for us.  Now that we understand that happiness is an inside job and that we’re in charge how do we begin?  It’s all about the small choices and practicing them every day.  A good place to start is with how we speak to and about ourselves.  If you’ve ever made a mistake and called yourself stupid, an idiot or worse this would be a good time to practice changing that habit.  Try speaking to yourself as you would someone you love very much – with kindness and respect.  What do you have to lose?

Life – Nothing You Can’t Handle

Tuesday, May 30th, 2017

Life could be rough but it wasn't anything she couldn't handle. All she needed to do was keep her hat on tight, sit tall in the saddle and she'd be just fine. - Queenism™

Life could be rough but it wasn’t anything she couldn’t handle. All she needed to do was keep her hat on tight, sit tall in the saddle and she’d be just fine. – Queenism™

In life sometimes things are going to go smoothly and sometimes things are going to be tough.  That’s a guarantee and you have no control over any part of it except for how you decide to handle it all.  On a daily basis you get to decide whether to weep, wail and give up or sit up straight, hang on to your hat and keep your sense of humor in tact.  What will your choice be?

A Small Thing to Change Your Life

Friday, May 26th, 2017

She decided to start a gratitude list and add one new item to it daily. Such a small thing to do that could change her whole life. - Queenisms™

She decided to start a gratitude list and add one new item to it daily. Such a small thing to do that could change her whole life. – Queenisms

When we decided that we wanted to live our lives in a positive way we made the choice to start keeping a gratitude list for the things that were good in our lives.  It took practice and we had to start slow.  For instance,  in the morning when we woke up – we were grateful that we woke up!  Relying on our humor made the practice fun – when we brushed our teeth -we were grateful for teeth and we were grateful for socks and a drawer to keep them in!  You get the idea.  Humor and gratitude go hand in hand and can be very healing.

Stop Waiting for Perfection

Monday, May 22nd, 2017

She decided to stop waiting until everything, including herself, was perfect. So she took a deep breath, let go of her fear of being judged and simply began to live. It felt delicious. - Queenisms™

She decided to stop waiting until everything, including herself, was perfect. So she took a deep breath, let go of her fear of being judged and simply began to live. It felt delicious. – Queenisms™

There is a bit of faulty thinking out there that when everything in our life is perfect – then we’ll be happy.  You know – when we lose some weight, have a better job or win the lottery – then everything will be grand. Sadly, that’s just  a myth because happiness is an inside job and nothing can make you happy except yourself.  Letting go of the fear of being judged and finally settling into loving yourself just the way you are is the best feeling in the world.

Don’t Forget You’re Amazing

Friday, May 19th, 2017

Somewhere along the way she had simply forgotten how amazing she was. She vowed to never forget again. - Queenisms™

Somewhere along the way she had simply forgotten how amazing she was. She vowed to never forget again. – Queenisms™

When was the first time you doubted that you were anything but amazing?  Wouldn’t it be great if you could go back into the past and erase that moment or, for many of us, moments?  Of course it’s not possible to time travel – yet – but the faulty thinking that keeps us thinking we’re not okay the way we are can be shifted.  Positive affirmations, as corny as they may seem, are a simple way to change the ending of the old stories we’ve been telling ourselves for years.  Why not try telling yourself, “I am amazing and worthy of all good things in life.”  What can it hurt?

Speak Kindly To Yourself

Wednesday, May 17th, 2017

She made a deal with herself. She wouldn't allow anyone to say cruel and unkind things to her anymore and she would stop talking to herself that way as well. - Queenisms™

She made a deal with herself. She wouldn’t allow anyone to say cruel and unkind things to her anymore and she would stop talking to herself that way as well. – Queenisms™

Nobody is as cruel to us as we are to ourselves.  How many times have you called yourself stupid or an idiot for some simple mistake.  We would never let anyone else get away with talking to us that way but still, we speak that way to ourselves.  It’s simply a bad habit we’ve fallen into through the years and is not the truth.  It requires a little vigilance at first to stop talking to ourselves that way but it is so worth it.