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Never Too Late To Be Happy

Monday, April 17th, 2017

She reminded herself that it was never too late to have a happy childhood. So that's exactly what she gave herself. - Queenisms™

She reminded herself that it was never too late to have a happy childhood. So that’s exactly what she gave herself. – Queenisms™

Most childhoods fall between getting a pony for your birthday and living just inside the gates of hell.  Whether you thrived or suffered as a child you have the power right now to treat yourself with all of the love and respect you want and need.  We’re not saying go out and buy yourself the pony but we are talking about giving yourself the gift of unconditional love.  When was the last time you looked in the mirror and asked yourself, “What can I do today to make you happy?”  It’s a powerful experience and you are so worth it.

Perfection Takes the Fun Out of Life

Thursday, April 13th, 2017

Oh jeepers, she thought. Nobody is perfect and life's a lot more fun because we're not. - Queenisms™

Oh jeepers, she thought. Nobody is perfect and life’s a lot more fun because we’re not. – Queenisms™

We all have that idea in our head of what the perfect woman would do – how she would look, dress, cook and keep her home.  That woman doesn’t exist anywhere on the planet.  We love Martha Stewart but she did flick our perfection button for a while.  We guarantee that Martha does not live the perfect life that she has portrayed on TV and neither do we.  Trying to make everything perfect takes the fun out of right now.  If you’re serving someone a cake that you made, they’re not judging the way the cake looks, they feel special that you spent your valuable time making it for them.  Save your free time for love and friendship and leave the perfectionism to television shows.

Gratitude For Friends

Friday, April 7th, 2017

She was grateful for the trusted friends she had in her life. She decided to find a way to let them know how much she cared. - Queenisms™

She was grateful for the trusted friends she had in her life. She decided to find a way to let them know how much she cared. – Queenisms™

We have all had family and friends who can make us feel bad about ourselves or who have betrayed us.  All we have to do is let go of them and their problems and move on to find new, and this is the important word, trusted friends.  A trusted friend is one who has no agenda for your friendship – they love you unconditionally whether you are at the top or the bottom of life.  All they want is for you to be happy.  We all deserve good friends like this and they are out there.  All we have to do is be open to letting them come into our lives.

Fearless In Life

Wednesday, April 5th, 2017

She decided that today she was going to be fearless in her friendships, her love and her life. So she gave herself a gold star or two. - Queenisms™

She decided that today she was going to be fearless in her friendships, her love and her life. So she gave herself a gold star or two. – Queenisms™

Most of us carry around a number of scars from failing at love, life and career.  And learning from those experiences certainly adds to our growing stash of common sense but do we let those old wounds get in the way of living our lives to the fullest.  Letting go of old fears and showing up every day willing to give and receive love, friendship and joy is what makes life an adventure worth living.  It takes a little practice to not take life so personally and to let go of fear but it is so worth it.

You Are Unique

Tuesday, April 4th, 2017

One day she realized there was no one in the entire world exactly like her - she was unique. She decided to start enjoying the beautiful, valuable, brilliant woman she was. - Queenisms™

One day she realized there was no one in the entire world exactly like her – she was unique. She decided to start enjoying the beautiful, valuable, brilliant woman she was. – Queenisms™

It seems the media would have us think that we need to all look alike, act alike and be alike.  What a boring world it would be if that were true.  It is our individuality that makes us beautiful and interesting no matter what our age.  We are each unique, there is no one else exactly like us – even identical twins are different and individuals.  We are all rare and unique and it’s time to celebrate how extraordinary we each are.

Beautiful No Matter How Old

Monday, April 3rd, 2017

Beauty is beauty no matter what the age or how many wrinkles. - Queenisms™

Beauty is beauty no matter what the age or how many wrinkles. – Queenisms™

It might be old and corny but it’s still the truth – beauty comes from the inside.  Advertising wants us to believe that we can only be beautiful if we’re young, slim and have gorgeous hair but it’s simply not true.  There is such an achingly powerful beauty that shines through the eyes and face of a woman who has kept her sense of humor, and no matter how many times she’s been hurt, can still give and receive love.  When you are beautiful on the inside you are always gorgeous on the outside.

Planning the Big Dreams

Monday, April 3rd, 2017

She decided to spend ten minutes just day dreaming. It didn't hurt anyone and it was the perfect way for her to plan the big dreams. - Queenisms™

She decided to spend ten minutes just day dreaming. It didn’t hurt anyone and it was the perfect way for her to plan the big dreams. – Queenisms™

When we were younger it was okay to lie in the grass and stare up at the clouds and daydream about things we wanted to accomplish or to have in our lives.  Who made the rule that you can’t still do that.  We still need time to recharge and revive and to continue making plans for ourselves.  Making plans and creating dreams for ourselves doesn’t ever end, it’s a life long gift we give to ourselves.  So find a sunny spot and let the day dreaming begin!

Speak Kindly to Yourself

Tuesday, March 28th, 2017

She made the decision to start speaking kindly to herself. That's how you treat someone you love. - Queenisms™

She made the decision to start speaking kindly to herself. That’s how you treat someone you love. – Queenisms™

Why do we speak to ourselves so cruelly? Have you ever made a mistake and thought, “Oh, you’re an idiot!”?  We would never let anyone else talk to us the way we speak to ourselves.  It’s just a bad habit we’ve fallen into and it requires a small amount of listening and practice to stop it.    If you keep speaking to yourself in a negative and criticizing way you will begin to believe the story you are telling yourself.  Why not take the time to change that story to something positive instead.  It isn’t any harder to say, “You are a kind and wonderful woman who deserves the best the world has to offer!”  Why not try it?

Dreams Don’t Expire

Tuesday, March 21st, 2017

There is no expiration date on dreams. So sayeth the Queen. - Queenisms™

There is no expiration date on dreams. So sayeth the Queen. – Queenisms™

Isn’t it comforting to know that it’s never too late to work towards making your dreams come true?  Of course, if you wanted to be a ballerina and you’re eleven years or older you probably missed the boat on that one.  Still there is  a whole world of dance out there for you to bring into your life – swing, cha cha, zumba, even hip hop!  You are never too old to dance.  Following our dreams sometimes involve compromise but it doesn’t make the journey an less sweeter.  Isn’t it time you dusted off one of your dreams and started making it come true?

 

 

Give Yourself a Time Out

Thursday, March 16th, 2017

People were plucking her last nerve so she decided to give herself a time out. It was delightful. - Queenisms™

People were plucking her last nerve so she decided to give herself a time out. It was delightful. – Queenisms™

We love the idea of giving yourself a time out!  We’ve all had that moment where we are beyond overwhelmed and one more thing happens then – twang – the last nerve is plucked!  Option one: total melt down leaving verbal damage and damaged relationships in your wake.  Option two: take a time out, just excuse yourself and walk away, walk around the block, sit in your car in the driveway with the spa channel on or lie on your bed face down screaming into your pillow.  What a perfectly delightful chance to use your power of choice.