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Letting Go Of Negativity

Wednesday, July 5th, 2017

She decided she would let other people's negativity pass right through her, straight into the ground where it would turn to dust and blow away. - Queenisms™

She decided she would let other people’s negativity pass right through her, straight into the ground where it would turn to dust and blow away. – Queenisms™

When we are surrounded by people, places and things that are negative we don’t always feel how it affects us.  Of course the best defense is to avoid these things but it’s not always that easy.  We like to use our imagination to heal us and make our lives a bit more fun especially when in the middle of a negative overload.  We simply imagine that only positive feelings stay in our bodies and all  negativity just passes right through us down into the core of the earth where it is burned away by molten lava.  A strong imagination is a great tool for healing and laughter.

Stop Wasting Your Time

Wednesday, June 14th, 2017

One day she realized she was wasting her time defining her experiences as good or bad. It was all just life and she was brave, strong and creative enough to handle anything. - Queenisms™

One day she realized she was wasting her time defining her experiences as good or bad. It was all just life and she was brave, strong and creative enough to handle anything. – Queenisms™

Labeling life experiences as good or bad certainly seems like a good idea but does it really work.  How many times have gotten something that you thought was going to be wonderful only to have it turn out not so good?  The other side of that is all of the supposed bad things that have happened and ended up leading to a miraculously good outcome.  We finally realized it was time to let go of the labeling and stick to the facts – we are all brave, strong and creative enough to handle anything.

What Can You Do Today To Be Happy?

Tuesday, June 6th, 2017

She had lived her whole life trying to get approval from everyone else. She decided to stop and finally ask herself, "What can I do today to make you happy?" - Queenisms™

She had lived her whole life trying to get approval from everyone else. She decided to stop and finally ask herself, “What can I do today to make you happy?” – Queenisms™

Approval is an important motivator but what about working hard to win our own approval.  How much simpler life would be if, instead of trying to make others like us or making choices to win their approval, we only kept the focus on us.  Here’s a little exercise to practice finding happiness and creating the life that you would like to lead.  Look at yourself in the mirror, make eye contact and ask yourself, “What can I do today to make you happy?” What was your answer?

Be Who You Promised Yourself To Be

Monday, June 5th, 2017

She decided to start setting strong boundaries because being honest and courageous was the kind of woman she had promised herself to be. - Queenisms™

She decided to start setting strong boundaries because being honest and courageous was the kind of woman she had promised herself to be. – Queenisms™

Have you grown up to be all that you hoped and promised yourself to be when you were little?  We promised ourselves that we would be brave and honest but life can be scary and sometimes we were saying yes when we really wanted to say no. We had problems setting boundaries because we were afraid that people wouldn’t like us. We decided we didn’t want to let those little girls down and began protecting ourselves by setting strong boundaries.  It was uncomfortable in the beginning but it became so much easier to set a boundary.  It takes courage but there is a freedom in living an honest life and it is a promise fulfilled.

Give Yourself A Second Chance

Friday, June 2nd, 2017

Everybody deserves a second chance. So she gave herself one. - Queenisms™

Everybody deserves a second chance. So she gave herself one. – Queenisms™

Some where along the journey we got the wrong impression that we should know everything and always make the correct choice.  The truth is we spend every moment of our lives learning from the choices that we make – and that’s the way it’s supposed to be!  There are no right or wrong choices, there are just opportunities to learn and to become stronger and more resilient.  It’s time to stop judging ourselves for choices we have made and instead pat ourselves on the back for learning and surviving. There is no limit on second chances.  You can give yourself as many as you need.

Life – Nothing You Can’t Handle

Tuesday, May 30th, 2017

Life could be rough but it wasn't anything she couldn't handle. All she needed to do was keep her hat on tight, sit tall in the saddle and she'd be just fine. - Queenism™

Life could be rough but it wasn’t anything she couldn’t handle. All she needed to do was keep her hat on tight, sit tall in the saddle and she’d be just fine. – Queenism™

In life sometimes things are going to go smoothly and sometimes things are going to be tough.  That’s a guarantee and you have no control over any part of it except for how you decide to handle it all.  On a daily basis you get to decide whether to weep, wail and give up or sit up straight, hang on to your hat and keep your sense of humor in tact.  What will your choice be?

Determination to Get What You Want

Wednesday, March 15th, 2017

She wasn't where she wanted to be but she was sure on her way. She had determination. And, she liked that about herself. - Queenisms™

She wasn’t where she wanted to be but she was sure on her way. She had determination. And, she liked that about herself. – Queenisms™

There’s nothing wrong with immediate gratification but, in the end, it is progress and not perfection that will get us to where we want to go.  After all, it’s more about how we make the journey than what the destination is.  Keeping determination, kindness and love in balance is a life long struggle but will ultimately lead us on an adventure that we can be proud of.  Don’t you think there’s a lot to be said for holding your head high as you lead an honorable life.

Claim Your Power

Wednesday, January 11th, 2017

She'd bought and paid for the crown many times over, through hard work and her life experiences. She decided it was time to put it on and claim her power. - Queenisms™

She’d bought and paid for the crown many times over, through hard work and her life experiences. She decided it was time to put it on and claim her power. – Queenisms™

We’ve both had many jobs in our lives but the longest job we’ve had is working to keep balance in our lives.  We’ve slogged through good times and bad with one goal in mind – to get through it all with our heads held high, humor in tact and the knowledge that we’d done the best we could.  We didn’t just crown ourselves the Queen of Our Own Lives one day, we worked at it and continue to work at being a loving and kind woman every day.  We earned that crown many times over and we know you have as well.

Pat Yourself On The Back

Friday, December 9th, 2016

Sometimes she needed to stop and take a quick moment to pat herself on the back. If she didn't do it, who would? - Queenisms™

Sometimes she needed to stop and take a quick moment to pat herself on the back. If she didn’t do it, who would? – Queenisms™

It always seems so easy to cave in and listen to the negative voices that say we’re not good enough!  We found it was just as simple to change this bad habit and, instead, give ourselves a kind word or two during the day.  We realized it sounds a bit corny but just give it a try.  Sometimes we like to look in the mirror and make eye contact and say, “Doing a good job today, Missy!”  Sometimes we just, literally, pat ourselves on the back and say, “Well done!”  Give it a try for a few days and let us know what you think.

Whose Opinion Matters?

Wednesday, November 23rd, 2016

Sometimes she let herself be bothered by other people's unkind deeds or words. She promised to remember that the only opinion that mattered was her own. - Queenisms™

Sometimes she let herself be bothered by other people’s unkind deeds or words. She promised to remember that the only opinion that mattered was her own. – Queenisms™

We’ve both allowed ourselves to feel like victims of judgmental looks and words from strangers, family and friends.  We finally made the choice to not take the world so personally.  When we realized that no one could hurt our feelings unless we let them – we decided not to let them.  Ok, we know it’s harder than it sounds but not impossible.  It requires a bit of practice and an occasional phone call to a trusted and supportive friend but the freedom of letting go of other’s nastiness is so worth it.  Truly, the only opinion of you that should matter is your own.