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Spring Cleaning Checklist for Happiness

Tuesday, March 24th, 2015

Here's your spring cleaning list from Queen of Your Own Life.

Spring is the perfect time to readjust our attitudes, take stock of our lives and do a little spring cleaning. Here’s what’s on our list this year. What’s on your spring cleaning list, Queens?

Surprise! You’re Enough

Tuesday, March 24th, 2015

She'd spent her whole life trying to lose weight, gain confidence or stay ahead of the competition. Imagine her surprise when she realized she was good enough - just the way she was! - Queenisms™

She’d spent her whole life trying to lose weight, gain confidence or stay ahead of the competition. Imagine her surprise when she realized she was good enough – just the way she was! – Queenisms™

We have to admit that we write these daily Queenisms for ourselves and we’re just pleased as punch when they speak to you as well. We still have moments of regret when we realize how long it took us to figure out we were enough – just the way we are. But that regret is now just a tiny moment and then we’re able to get on with it and enjoy who we are, who we’ve become and to see the possibilities of who we may be in the future. (more…)

Queen of Balance

Monday, March 23rd, 2015

Life came at her everyday but she remained upright. She was the Queen of balance. - Queenisms™

Life came at her everyday but she remained upright. She was the Queen of balance. – Queenisms™

Admit it. Sometimes life feels like a high wire act and frankly we’re not always dressed for that. We tiptoe around challenges, we carefully navigate the narrow path that takes us from where we are to where we want to go, we try not to look down and get too scared of the fall. But let’s just pause for a moment and look at the evidence of your brilliant balancing act. (more…)

Be Mischievous

Sunday, March 22nd, 2015

She was feeling mischievous. So she let her goofy side out to play. - Queenisms™

She was feeling mischievous. So she let her goofy side out to play. – Queenisms™

There is something about being playful, and mischievous, that brings a smile to our faces. We’d like to encourage you all to tap into your inner imp and do something silly, wonderful, playful, sassy and just play mischievous today. Impish, sassy, goofy, silly or mischievous? You decide but please don’t shut down your playful self. What will you do? We could use a chuckle, so please share.

Stop Playing it Safe

Saturday, March 21st, 2015

She'd always played it safe. But now she was ready to fly. It was a big, bold dream and she was worth it. - Queenisms™

She’d always played it safe. But now she was ready to fly. It was a big, bold dream and she was worth it. – Queenisms™

Let us state, right up front, that we always want you to be safe. If you are ever in a situation that doesn’t feel safe. Trust your gut. What we’re saying here is there’s a certain fib we tell ourselves about being safe. That fib, we think, is about hiding our lights under a bushel so to speak. That fib is about playing small, not playing safe. Here’s what we mean. (more…)

The Quest for Happiness

Friday, March 20th, 2015

She was on a quest for her own happiness. What a grand adventure! - Queenisms™

She was on a quest for her own happiness. What a grand adventure! – Queenisms™

Where would you go if you were planning a grand adventure? Would you go to unexpected and surprising locations? Would you meet interesting and unusual people? Would you try new things? Welcome to your life. You’ve been on a grand adventure all this time and may not have seen it that way but nonetheless, you’ve been a very good traveler. We think every life is a quest for happiness. And, we think that you’ve probably had moments of joy (and sorrow) but taken as a whole, we suspect there has been more joy than not. Let’s focus on the happy parts right now. The quest for happiness is a lifelong adventure. Where has your grand adventure taken you?  If you were putting together a scrapbook of your “travels,” what would you include?

Done Being a Fraud

Thursday, March 19th, 2015

She was done spending her life as a fraud. So she looked at herself in the mirror and said, "Hello world I'm here and you better get used to me!" - Queenisms™

She was done spending her life as a fraud. So she looked at herself in the mirror and said, “Hello world I’m here and you better get used to me!” – Queenisms™

The truth is that we’re mostly in control of how people see us. When we hide our talents, doubt our abilities, don’t value our opinions, we’re really telling others not to trust us either. Stop being a fraud. Start letting your real self show in everything you do. Dare to be the brilliant, capable, competent, wonderful woman you are. And anyone who doesn’t like it can just “get over it.”

The Power of a Kind Word

Wednesday, March 18th, 2015

She drew a deep breath, let it out slowly, and reminded herself that everyone was scared - not just her. So she vowed to say one kind thing to everyone she met today. - Queenisms™

She drew a deep breath, let it out slowly, and reminded herself that everyone was scared – not just her. So she vowed to say one kind thing to everyone she met today. – Queenisms™

Turning our attention away from our own fears and focusing on uplifting others is a happiness strategy. Notice we didn’t say “doing everything for others.” We said “uplifting others.” We’re all afraid at one time or another. We’re afraid of being alone, unseen, not heard, devalued or foolish. Why not decide to be a soft spot in someone’s day today? Here’s how: (more…)

Happiness is an Action Word

Tuesday, March 17th, 2015

Queen of Your Own Life turns 5!

We cannot believe it was FIVE years ago when we published our first book, Queen of Your Own Life: The Grown Ups Guide to Claiming Happiness and Getting the Life You Deserve. We naively thought we had a story to tell and it would be fun to tell it. Little did we realize we’d strike a nerve and find ourselves marching in the happiness movement, issuing a rallying call daily and speaking all over the country to help other women find their own paths to happiness. Along the way we taught ourselves Photoshop, Cindy was able to conquer her anxiety about public speaking and we dared to hold fast to the idea that we wanted our next books to be visual and in color. We endured rejection, disappointment, and fear, and were rewarded with community, love, support and laughter. And, there’s more to come.

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How to Be Lucky

Tuesday, March 17th, 2015

People said she was lucky. She knew it was simply that she was the kind of woman who could walk through her fear one tiny step at a time. - Queenisms™

People said she was lucky. She knew it was simply that she was the kind of woman who could walk through her fear one tiny step at a time. – Queenisms™

Happy St. Patrick’s Day Queens. We hear people say, all the time, “Oh she’s so lucky.” But what we know for sure (to borrow a phrase from Oprah herself) is that luck rarely has anything to do with happiness or success. (more…)