Banishing negative self-talk is one of the seven steps to claiming happiness we outline in our book, Queen of Your Own Life. When the negative messages come from within, they’re more powerful and more destructive than anything coming from the outside world. When we talk about cleaning your mental closet, here’s what we mean. When you hear yourself saying something hurtful to yourself, stop. Physically stop. Now say “wait a minute, that’s not true. I’m not worthless, hopeless, stupid, lazy or insert your self insult here.” Now, and this is key, replace the negative statement with a positive one. For example, you spill milk and automatically say “I’m so stupid.” Stop and repeat after us. “Wait a minute. That’s not true. I am not stupid. I had an accident. This is not fatal. It is just annoying. I will make a mental note to slow down so I don’t spill again. I’m an intelligent person and making the choice to slow down proves that. Good for me.”
Are you replacing negative self-talk with affirming language? We’d love to hear what you’re saying to yourself. Sharing is caring.