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Your Royal Medal of Honor

Tuesday, September 23rd, 2014

Cindy Ratzlaff and Kathy Kinney blog and write books about claiming happiness in midlife at http://QueenofYourOwnLife.com. All of their affirmations and digital art are original.

You are hereby awarded this medal of honor. For getting out of bed everyday and showing up for life with courage, humor and hope. – Queenisms™

Let’s pause for a second and thank ourselves for showing up in our lives. You do what must be done. You battle for survival. You seek solutions and you celebrate victories. We are in awe of your strength and courage. You deserve a medal. And, although you may not get one from anyone else, you’re getting one today from the Queens.

We believe most women deserve a medal to honor their courage, humor and the hope they demonstrate, every day simply by showing up and doing what must be done.

No Time for Fiddle-Faddle

Monday, September 22nd, 2014

Cindy Ratzlaff and Kathy Kinney blog and write books about claiming happiness in midlife at http://QueenofYourOwnLife.com. All of their affirmations and digital art are original.She was a woman of her word. She said yes when she meant yes and no when she meant no. Life was too short for fiddle-faddle. ~ Queenisms™

Don’t you just love the word fiddle-faddle? And, we don’t mean the snack food.  Our lives are complicated beyond belief when we are not clear about our boundaries. When we train others to believe what we say, we create a calmer, happier life. Saying yes when you really want to say no, in most cases, creates resentment, regret and anxiety. When we say no to those things we are not able to do, we free the asker to find another solution. That’s honesty and don’t both we and our loved ones deserve complete honesty?

Setting boundaries by saying yes only when we are willing, able and desire to say yes is a form of rigorous honesty. Honesty sets us free from resentment. Freedom from resentment creates a calmer, happier life.

Release Your Queen Voice

Sunday, September 21st, 2014

Cindy Ratzlaff and Kathy Kinney blog and write books about claiming happiness in midlife at http://QueenofYourOwnLife.com. All of their affirmations and digital art are original.

Once she found her Queen voice, she was never silent again. ~ Queenisms™

You have a voice that is strong and true. Your feelings, ideas, emotions, intentions and dreams are all important. When life’s challenges have left us believing that our opinions do not matter, there is work to be done. Think of your voice, your ideas and your actions as gifts you possess. They’re amplified when you share them. Now, we’re not talking about being a bossy boots. We’re talking about thoughtfully and with an open heart, sharing your gifts with the world. We’re talking about your right, and your obligation, to shine.

  • Ask yourself questions daily.
  • Listen to the answers.
  • Wonder aloud if you have something to say that would help others.
  • Question the status quo.
  • Dare to suggest a different point of view.

Have you found your Queen voice?

Color Outside the Lines

Saturday, September 20th, 2014

Queenisms are original quotes and digital imagery by authors Kathy Kinney and Cindy Ratzlaff of Queen of Your Own Life.

She dared to color outside the lines. Oh, she knew how to behave. She just chose not to do so. ~ Queenisms™

Photo: Adele S. Kelley, Library of Congress

We don’t mean to imply that one must cast off the societal norms of behavior in order to live a life of joy. What we mean is that we must not be chained to conformity. If everyone thinks you should be a teacher but your heart longs to be a plumber. Be a plumber. If you feel compelled by the expectations of others to behave in a certain way but you feel a tug in your heart, to do something dramatically different, perhaps you the gifts you possess could be expressed more fully by following your heart. Our own intuition about our purpose in life is something we need to train ourselves to hear. It’s there and it’s true but we need to practice listening to our own Queen voice. When is the last time you asked yourself “what would make me excited to get up every morning and be in the world?” Can you tell us now? Our intuition is intact, even if we have not practiced listening to it. But it is never too late to find the thing that makes our hearts sing. Let’s all color outside the lines a bit today.

Curiosity Makes Us Beautiful

Friday, September 19th, 2014

 

Cindy Ratzlaff and Kathy Kinney blog and write books about claiming happiness in midlife at http://QueenofYourOwnLife.com. All of their affirmations and digital art are original.It was her curiosity and willingness to learn that made her beautiful and kept her forever young. – Queenisms™

We’d just like to say that we think curiosity is a very flattering attribute. It looks good on most women. When we’re lifelong learners who dare to ask questions, seek answers and always wonder “why,” we can’t help but stay young. What makes you young?

You Are Your Own Taskmaster

Thursday, September 18th, 2014

Cindy Ratzlaff and Kathy Kinney blog and write books about claiming happiness in midlife at http://QueenofYourOwnLife.com. All of their affirmations and digital art are original.

She gave no mind to the things other people expected of her.  For she was her own taskmaster with a breathtaking list of things she expected of herself. ~ Queenisms ™

Photo courtesy of Penny Osborne

We all feel, at times, as though the expectations of others might crush us. We have, however, no control over what others want.  We only have control over the way in which we respond. That said, let’s talk, for a moment, about our own expectations of ourselves. We need to hold our own desires, dreams and ambitions as sacred. We challenge you to put more importance on what you expect from yourselves than on what others expect from you. In fact, let’s set our intentions for ourselves right now.

We value humor, honesty, friendship and kindness above many other things. So when we evaluate where to spend our time and energy, these principals guide us. How about you? What expectations do you have for yourself?

Let Go of the Fear of Being Judged

Wednesday, September 17th, 2014

Cindy Ratzlaff and Kathy Kinney blog and write books about claiming happiness in midlife at http://QueenofYourOwnLife.com. All of their affirmations and digital art are original.

She decided to stop waiting until everything, including herself, was perfect. So she let go of her fear of being judged and simply began to live. What a relief. – Queenisms™

Photo: Miss Ilna E. Dreger, Portage County, WI circa 1924

What a relief it would be if we could banish the fear of being judged and simply live as we desire. What would you do if you were free from your own inner critic? Would you sing out loud, dance in public, create art that pleased just you? The truth is that most of the time, judgment is coming not from others, but from our own harsh inner voice. Others are listening to their own harsh inner voices and what we have is a mess of people hiding their light for fear of shining too brightly and being slapped down.

Practice giving yourself permission to let go of the fear of being judged. When you feel the desire to do something but are afraid you’ll be thought foolish, promise us you’ll do it anyway.

Imagine a world in which we lived to create joy instead of fear and applauded one another for living joyfully. What would you do?

Daring to Try

Tuesday, September 16th, 2014

Queenisms are original jolts of inspiration by Kathy Kinney and Cindy Ratzlaff of Queen of Your Own Life.

She knew that courage was not the absence of fear but rather the action of daring to try. ~ Queenisms™

Nobody goes through life without moments of fear. But if fear has you hiding under the covers, fear wins. Nothing great comes to those who cower and wait. But the rewards of acting, even when afraid, are enormous.  What have you accomplished even while afraid? We’d love to hear your stories. Why? Because when we share our stories, we share our strength. Somewhere someone needs a bit of your courage to tackle her own fears and move forward toward joy.

Photo: Traci Horn Mellin’s Mother, Pamela Horn

New Day, New Choice

Monday, September 15th, 2014

Authors Kathy Kinney and Cindy Ratzlaff create original quotes and images daily at http://QueenofYourOwnLife.

It was a new day and there were new choices to be made. She filled her lungs with a deep breath of hope and looked forward to filling her life with an abundance of happiness and love. – Queenisms™

It sounds so simple. In fact, it’s advice you most likely got from your Mother. Well, mom was right. Taking a deep breath can be better than any pill. Taking a deep breath is taking control of your surroundings and giving yourself a moment to pause, refresh your oxygen supply, think, and then take action. Breath deeply and often. Add a simple meditation to each breath, repeating “I breathe in abundance, happiness and love.” Then add, “I breathe out fear.” You have everything required to fill your life with goodness. You will be all right. Before you react to any fear, stress or anxiety, take a deep breath.

Be Contagious

Saturday, September 13th, 2014

Queenisms are original digital art and original quotes from authors, Kathy Kinney and Cindy Ratzlaff of Queen of Your Own Life.

She did not let life’s struggles change the way she lived life. She was delighted by each new day and her pleasure in the journey was contagious. ~ Queenisms™

When we look for goodness, joy and abundance, we see those things. When we look for hurt, pain and distress, we see those things. They both exist, all the time. But we can choose the lens through which we look most often.

Photo: Brenda Gale Sproul-Butler’s Mother, Wanda Helen Sproul