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We Believe You’re the Best

Tuesday, January 20th, 2015

She believed she was the best woman for the job, in almost every situation. And she was almost never wrong. - Queenisms™

She believed she was the best woman for the job, in almost every situation. And she was almost never wrong. – Queenisms™

Whether you believe it or not, we believe it so we’re just hammering this message home all week long. You are stronger, more capable, smarter and wiser than you know. We invite you to see yourself through our eyes until you see it for yourself.

Take the Ish out of Selfish Now

Monday, January 19th, 2015

Doing something nice for herself didn't make her selfish or take anything away from anyone else. She decided it was time to take the "ish" out of selfish. - Queenisms™

Doing something nice for herself didn’t make her selfish or take anything away from anyone else. She decided it was time to take the “ish” out of selfish. – Queenisms™

We’ve all done it and we’ll probably all do it again – put our own selves on the very bottom of our enormous “to do” list and find ourselves overwhelmed, exhausted and a little bit resentful. Here’s the thing. Somewhere along the line we got the message that taking care of ourselves was selfish. We interpreted that to mean that even following our dreams was selfish. This nonsense has to stop. When we value, respect and care for ourselves, we’re modeling healthy behavior for our children, our friends and those we love. We’re also signaling to the world that we believe we deserve to be treated respectfully. That doesn’t mean we won’t get overwhelmed or even sometimes treated badly. But it does mean we’ll be starting from a place of self-worth and not from the bottom of the well of low self-esteem. If you haven’t done something nice for yourself in a while, isn’t today a good day to start? Let’s take the ish out of selfish.

 

Giddy with Gratitude

Sunday, January 18th, 2015

She knew people thought she was schmaltzy. But she didn't care. She was giddy with gratitude about so many things that just thinking about them made her cheeks hurt from smiling. - Queenisms™

She knew people thought she was schmaltzy. But she didn’t care. She was giddy with gratitude about so many things that just thinking about them made her cheeks hurt from smiling. – Queenisms™

We’ve been called Polyanna’s and we’re ok with that. We’ve also been called schmaltzy, which means overly sentimental. We’re ok with that too. It’s who we are and we’re declaring this the year of finding your true Queen voice. So whoever you are, we’re like to call upon you be yourself, proudly. We love how different we all are. And, we love how much we’re all the same. We all want love, respect, self-worth and a sense of security and safety for ourselves and those we love. That’s pretty solid common ground, we think. So today we’re simply giddy with gratitude that we get to spend a moment here, and on Facebook, Twitter and Pinterest, with you every week.

Stop Second Guessing Yourself

Saturday, January 17th, 2015

She couldn't stop second guessing her every decision. But when she finally found the courage to take a leap of faith and trust in herself, she was pleased as punch to discover she was pretty darned wise and wonderful. - Queenisms™

She couldn’t stop second guessing her every decision. But when she finally found the courage to take a leap of faith and trust in herself, she was pleased as punch to discover she was pretty darned wise and wonderful. – Queenisms™

We don’t want to get all woo-woo on you but here’s the deal, in our opinion. You have excellent intuition and you know, in your heart, the difference between the “right choice,” and the choice you think you’re “supposed” to make. Sometimes they’re the same thing. And, sometimes they are not. Those gut feelings or intuitions or whatever you call them, are your true Queen voice trying to speak to you. All you need to do is pause, listen and then trust yourself. We think you’re pretty darned wise and wonderful and that’s what our gut tells us, so we’re going with that. Love you, Queens.

Fill the Job

Friday, January 16th, 2015

She had longed for someone to love, cherish and protect her. She was surprised when she realized that she was the only one who could fill that job. - Queenisms™

She had longed for someone to love, cherish and protect her. She was surprised when she realized that she was the only one who could fill that job. – Queenisms™

Everyone deserves to have someone cherish them. But when we don’t love and cherish ourselves, it’s much harder for others to see our beautiful heart, soul and mind underneath all that self-loathing, doubt, regret and fear. Those things push our positive attributes out of the way and demand attention. When we talk about learning to love and cherish yourself, we’re not just spouting platitudes. We’re serious about the urgency of this issue. We cannot attract what we do not already embrace in ourselves in terms of love and support. Be your own best cheerleader. Be your own best support system. Nurture your best self and you will become magnetic. That we can promise you.

Take a Vacation from Your Own Admonishments

Thursday, January 15th, 2015

 

She decided to take a long vacation from "would've, should've, could've." It was so wonderful, she never went back. - Queenisms™ She decided to take a long vacation from “would’ve, should’ve, could’ve.” It was so wonderful, she never went back. – Queenisms™

Just pause for a moment and think how quiet it would be if we all took a permanent vacation from “would’ve, should’ve, could’ve.” The peaceful, calm, happy feeling we get is like a walk in the woods or a nice quiet sunny day at the beach or a cozy day reading by the fire. We’re thinking a permanent vacation from self admonishments is exactly what the Queendom needs. Who’s with us?

Teach Yourself Happiness and Hope

Wednesday, January 14th, 2015

She had learned negativity and fear as a child. As an adult she decided to teach herself happiness and hope. - Queenisms™

She had learned negativity and fear as a child. As an adult she decided to teach herself happiness and hope. – Queenisms™

It’s never too late to nurture your inner child and there’s no better person to give her a big hug than you!

Don’t Let Anyone Dull Your Sparkle

Tuesday, January 13th, 2015

She had a big, bright personality. And, she vowed not to let anyone dull her sparkle, including herself. - Queenisms™

She had a big, bright personality. And, she vowed not to let anyone dull her sparkle, including herself. – Queenisms™

There will always be people who want you to play a smaller role in life. But if you were meant to sparkle, then sparkle. Pulling back and playing a smaller role in life might make some folks feel better but most likely it won’t. You have no control over other people’s opinions so it just doesn’t make sense, to us, to dull your sparkle because the brightness of your life scares the heck out of other people. As long as you are not unkind or insensitive to others, shine on, Queens, and think of yourself as a beacon to encourage others, and turn on the high beams.

Beware of False Evidence Appearing Real

Monday, January 12th, 2015

Once she knew what fear really was, she was able to make the choice to let it go. - Queenisms™

Once she knew what fear really was, she was able to make the choice to let it go. – Queenisms™

How many times have you been afraid of something, only to see in hindsight that you had nothing to fear? We’re afraid of what might happen, what other people think, things over which we have no control – like the past – and a host of other things that rob us of the joy available to us in the present. In the grip of fear, we don’t always see the full picture. So we like to think of fear as false evidence appearing real and when we experience fear we ask ourselves, “Is this real or is this not?” Just asking and pausing is something enough to reopen ourselves to the joy of the present.

Viewing the Tapestry of Your Life

Sunday, January 11th, 2015

For so long, all she could see were the imperfections, the struggles and the messy bits that bogged her down. But when she finally stepped back, and let go of her judgement, she was able to see the beauty and abundance in the whole tapestry that was her life. - Queenisms™

For so long, all she could see were the imperfections, the struggles and the messy bits that bogged her down. But when she finally stepped back, and let go of her judgement, she was able to see the beauty and abundance in the whole tapestry that was her life. – Queenisms™

When we look at the back of the tapestry we see all the threads tied off and the changes in colors and stitches and the rough backing. That’s how life feels when we’re in the mix of a challenge, bobbing and weaving and trying to make sense of our day to day lives. But every once and a while, it’s good to step out front and look at the tapestry of your whole life and let yourself take in the beauty of the whole work of art. Every tapestry has a front and a backside. Our day to day lives are the backside. But the beautiful, glorious front is the big picture.