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Being Seen and Heard

Tuesday, June 23rd, 2015

In her estimation, being seen and not heard was highly overrated. - Queenisms™

In her estimation, being seen and not heard was highly overrated. – Queenisms™

Finding your Queen voice and using it is part of life’s journey. Some of us find our voices early on and never lose that ability to speak up. Others find it, lose it and struggle to regain it. And still others spend a lifetime figuring out what it is they have to say before speaking up with a clear, true voice. There is no right path to finding and using your voice. But we want to urge you to keep at it. What you have to say matters. What you think matters. What you want matters. Period. Is there something, someone or some thought dear to your heart that longs to be heard and seen?

It’s a Queen Thing

Monday, June 22nd, 2015

She didn't have a mean bone in her body. Yet she had learned to be ever so fierce when someone tried to cross her boundaries. It was a Queen thing. - Queenisms™

She didn’t have a mean bone in her body. Yet she had learned to be ever so fierce when someone tried to cross her boundaries. It was a Queen thing. – Queenisms™

We can set boundaries without leaving bodies in our wake. We promise. We do not have to become  angry, mean or hurtful to summon up our Queen voice and simply say “enough.” Ultimately when we speak up, say what we mean and are clear in our boundaries, we foster better relationships, everyone is happier and our personal world is a better place. Help people understand where your boundaries are and those who can’t respect them will fall away. Those who can, will be in a respectful, enriching and true relationship with us.

An Attitude of Gratitude

Sunday, June 21st, 2015

She had an attitude of gratitude that was simply contagious. And everyone wanted to catch what she had. - Queenisms™

She had an attitude of gratitude that was simply contagious. And everyone wanted to catch what she had. – Queenisms™

The old adage “you can catch more flies with honey than you can with vinegar” is a sage old saying for a reason. Someone who practices gratitude every day is magnetic. They’re light and airy and you can feel their optimism. They quite literally “attractive” because of their attitude. But someone who only sees the negative, a half-empty kind of person, wears you down. You find yourself accepting invitations from them with reluctance. You don’t look forward to spending time with them. We can teach ourselves to be grateful. We can train our brains to see the positive around us. How? With practice. Start simply. Tonight, before you go to sleep, spend two minutes jotting down at least one thing that you are grateful for in your day. At first it might just be “I have a bed to sleep in,” or “I have teeth to brush and the brush to get the job done.” Guess what? That’s wonderful and good enough. When you’re ready, add a morning moment of gratitude and write it down. Glad you woke up? Write it down. Happy to have coffee in the house? Write it down. You’ll find that eventually you’re able to go deeper and find more meaningful things for which you’re grateful. Happiness is a habit. Practice gives us “happiness muscles.” What are you grateful for today?

She Who Could Not Be Defeated

Saturday, June 20th, 2015

She paused to think back on how far she’d come, and smiled at the persistence, ingenuity and sheer will power it had taken. She decided to think of herself as “she who could not be defeated.” - Queenisms™

She paused to think back on how far she’d come, and smiled at the persistence, ingenuity and sheer will power it had taken. She decided to think of herself as “she who could not be defeated.” – Queenisms™

If your life journey, so far, has been blissfully smooth, we’re delighted for you. You are the rare person who has not faced trials, struggles, pain, hurt and a fair amount of unexpected joy. For most of us, the bumpy road of life has included both. If you look back at how far you’ve come, most likely you’ll stand in awe of the person you are now. You’ll have to admit that you’ve done things you never thought possible, survived things that you didn’t know were coming and experienced sweetness beyond anything you could have hoped for. That’s life. It’s your life. And you, my dears, are incredible people traveling on a road with no map, and doing a really good job. We think of you as “she who could not be defeated,” and today we salute you.

Speak Up

Friday, June 19th, 2015

She decided to be bold, open her mouth and speak up for herself, no matter how terrifying it was. As the Queen of her own life she could do brave things like that. - Queenisms™

She decided to be bold, open her mouth and speak up for herself, no matter how terrifying it was. As the Queen of her own life she could do brave things like that. – Queenisms™

It is bold to speak up. It is brave to be kind. It is remarkable to hold yourself accountable for being a bright light in the world instead of a dark spot. Be kind. Be bright. Be brave. Be you.

She Took a Deep Breath

Thursday, June 18th, 2015

She took a deep breath in and let it out slowly. And, she gave herself permission to slow down. - Queenisms™

She took a deep breath in and let it out slowly. And, she gave herself permission to slow down. – Queenisms™

Ever find yourself holding your breath, waiting for the “other shoe to drop?” You’re not alone. It happens to most of us at one time or another. Here’s the thing though. When we forget to breathe, we’re robbing ourselves of the moment, stuck in fear about a future that may or may not happen. That breath holding thing doesn’t impact what is or is not going to happen at all. Nothing is solved. Nothing is gained. We just put ourselves into a state where we lack oxygen. Want to give yourself the best possible ability to respond to any situation? Give yourself permission to slow down, think it through, breathe deeply and exhale once in a while. Promise?

Brave Enough for Any Future

Wednesday, June 17th, 2015

She didn't know what the future held but she knew she was brave enough to walk towards it. - Queenisms™

She didn’t know what the future held but she knew she was brave enough to walk towards it. – Queenisms™

None of us has a crystal ball. It’s a good thing too. Can you imagine all the side trips we would have skipped if we’d been able to see the road ahead? Yet in each of those paths was something we did not foresee. Something worth learning, doing, experiencing and that we now value. Have you ever done something brave, noble, meaningful or simply awesome that you would not have done IF you’d seen how hard it would be ahead of time? Us too. We never dreamed we’d write a book, let alone three books and a calendar. We’re still stunned by how hard, and at the same time rewarding, that late life journey as authors has been. Tell us about your path? Sharing your story helps others remember theirs.

Friends Who Make You Snort

Tuesday, June 16th, 2015

She was pleased as punch at the notion of spending time in the company of loving, kind and supportive friends - who made her snort when she laughed. - Queenisms™

She was pleased as punch at the notion of spending time in the company of loving, kind and supportive friends – who made her snort when she laughed. – Queenisms™

Everyone deserves at least one friend who can be counted on to make you snort when you laugh. We try very hard to be those friends to one another and we’re pleased as punch when we accomplish what we set out to do. The act of “snorting” expresses pleasure, surprise and pure reaction, unfiltered by thoughts of what’s proper or what’s acceptable behavior. Snorting is good for the soul in our humble opinions. So lighten up. Share a silly perspective. Reflect on life in your own laser-focused, offbeat way and share those observations with a dear friend. May their be coffee on the table, expelled from the mouth of a dear friend as she snorts at what you said. That’s our wish for you both.

Be Your Own Beautiful Self

Monday, June 15th, 2015

She wasn't beautiful like anyone else. She was her own beautiful self. - Queenisms™

She wasn’t beautiful like anyone else. She was her own beautiful self. – Queenisms™

There isn’t just one kind of beauty. There are millions, even billions, of kinds of beauty. And the kind you are is unique, perfect and a gift to the world. Wouldn’t it be boring if we were all identical? Where would we be? No art, no musical, no diversity, no nuances? That makes us sad just thinking about it. You are beautiful, not in spite of the lines on your face or the grey in your hair, but because of it. You’re “imperfections” tell a story of uniqueness and we’re so pleased to be reading THAT book. Be your own beautiful self, in looks and in personality. That’s what courage is made of and that’s what life’s tapestry demands.

Don’t Get Your Knickers in a Twist

Sunday, June 14th, 2015

She never got her knickers in a twist about stuff that didn't matter. And she was crystal clear about what mattered to her. - Queenisms™

She never got her knickers in a twist about stuff that didn’t matter. And she was crystal clear about what mattered to her. – Queenisms™

There is a LOT of stuff in the world that doesn’t matter. It doesn’t matter if everyone likes you or not. It doesn’t matter if someone else is successful. It doesn’t matter if the grass looks greener in someone else’s yard. It doesn’t matter, period. The only things that matter is that you understand what matters to you and that you put your time, attention and whole heart into those things. Getting all worked up about the rest of it is just a waste of energy. And, you, dear Queens, deserve the time, energy and delightful payoff that comes from focusing on what really matters. Be crystal clear abut what matters to you and put your whole heart there.