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Banish Poppycock

Tuesday, August 19th, 2014

Kathy Kinney and Cindy Ratzlaff create daily inspirational quotes and vintage images at http://QueenofYourOwnLife.com

She had a built in nonsense barometer to help her set strong boundaries. She had no time for poppycock or hogwash. Drama was for movies, not for real life.~ Queenisms™

We all have that built in barometer but we forget to access that inner knowledge. When the hair stands up on the back of your neck, pay attention. When something seems “not quite right,” pay attention. When you have a slight feeling of dragging your feet about spending time in the company of certain people, pay attention. Life is short. Spend it with others who value the delights of calm and peace.

Be Not a Victim of Snarkiness

Monday, August 18th, 2014

Kathy Kinney and Cindy Ratzlaff are the authors and artists behind Queenisms, a trademark of Queen of Your Own Life.

She was done being the thin-skinned victim of other people’s snarkiness and unkind words. No one could hurt her feelings unless she let them so she decided she wasn’t going to let them. She was the strong and resilient Queen of her own life. – Queenisms™

We’re not saying you can’t be hurt by the sharp words of unkind people. We’re saying you can choose how you react. You can allow those words to bounce around in your brain and take you to a dark place or you can take away their power. We like to say to ourselves: “Well that hurt. But I know these words to be untrue. I will not give them another moment of power over me.” Then give yourself permission to see that people who spread negative words are often wounded, hurt and suffering themselves.

Are you able to take away the power of hurtful words?

Flaunt It

Sunday, August 17th, 2014

Queenisms are original quotes and inspirational posts by Kathy Kinney and Cindy Ratzlaff.

She had a delightfully sassy attitude and the good sense to flaunt it. Life was too short to be anyone other than herself. So she surrounded herself with people who appreciated her for exactly who she was. ~ Queenisms™

We think a sassy attitude is one of life’s best tools. We also think you are perfect, just the way you are.

Photo: Sandy Isaacs Gonterman’s grandmother Elsie Grace Shugart

A Non-judgmental heart

Saturday, August 16th, 2014

Queenisms are original inspirtional quotes by Kathy Kinney and Cindy Ratzlaff

Her philosophy was simple. A judgmental heart was contrary to a joyful life. She preferred to illuminate the good she saw in others. And, everyone who crossed her path felt a bit shinier as a result. ~ Queenisms™

Christina told us her gran was a teacher who believed in the bright possibilities in every student. We feel the same about you. You all have the ability to do, be or become the powerful, positive women we already see in you. Go be shiny.

Photo: Christina Vairin’s adopted Gran, Cheryl Anne Marshall.

LOL often

Thursday, August 14th, 2014

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As a gift to herself she decided to laugh today, often and out loud. – Queenisms™

Today we’re celebrating the silly, the wacky, the daring, the silly and everything that frees you to drop the fear of being judged and embrace your true self.

Long live your goofy, marvelous self. When we fear what others might think of us, we abdicate our power to be playful, spirited, joyful and full of whimsey. Do not abdicate those gifts.

She Was Utterly Herself

Thursday, August 14th, 2014

Cindy Ratzlaff and Kathy Kinney blog and write books about claiming happiness in midlife at http://QueenofYourOwnLife.com. Alll of their affirmations and digital art are original.

She chose not to fret about the constraints of other people’s perceptions and expectations. She was, at once, both fierce and fabulous, cantankerous and congenial, and spirited and serene. She was utterly herself and it pleased her immensely. ~ Queenisms™

When we get our undies in a knot about what other people think of us, we can spin and spin trying to figure out how to behave, what to think, where to go, and how to live in the world. Of course we want to fit in. We should live as good neighbors, be kind to one another, obey laws meant to protect our well being an so on. But in the matters of our hearts, dreams, goals and choices that define who we are, let us not be square pegs in square holes. Let us be messily ourselves, with many different hues. Let us explore the very depths of what it means to be truly us, shall we? It is possible to love the ballet and also love camping. It is possible to be a great mom and also love to travel, alone. It is possible to be a generous person with your time but also carve out sacred alone time. It is possible to say yes often and no on occasion. We want you to be openly, wildly, joyfully exactly who you are.

There is room inside of every woman for what might seem like conflicting personalities. When we embrace those, we no longer struggle to cover one up and push another one forward. Be who you are and spend less time hiding who you think you should not be.

Can you think of something about yourself that seems like two opposites in the same woman? We can, about ourselves. For example, Cindy is very outgoing and speaks on stages to big crowds. But she has major moments of self-doubt just before she goes on. But she goes on anyway and always delivers. But she loves those moments when she gets to go back to her hotel room and relax, alone, So she’s both shy and outgoing. There is room inside her for both women. How about you?

Be Resilient

Tuesday, August 12th, 2014

Cindy Ratzlaff and Kathy Kinney blog and write books about claiming happiness in midlife at http://QueenofYourOwnLife.com. Alll of their affirmations and digital art are original.

She possessed the gift of resilience. And like any gift well used, she shared it with those around her, creating generations of women who wielded hope and survival with the skill of warrior Queens. ~ Queenisms™

Kathy Hale told us her Mom was a cancer survivor. Many of us are survivors of something, whether it’s illness, emotional struggles, financial setbacks, disappointments in relationships, loss, death or whatever life throws our way. The art of resilience is the act of getting up the next day anyway and putting feet on the ground, pointed forward. When we do this, we are survivors. When we do this with hope and open hearts, we are leaders.

When we share our stories, we share our strength. Won’t you lend your strength to someone who may need it today? Have you survived and thrived?

Photo: Kathy Hale Jennings Mom, Carol Worsham Hale

Second Chance or Second Change

Monday, August 11th, 2014

Cindy Ratzlaff and Kathy Kinney blog and write books about claiming happiness in midlife at http://QueenofYourOwnLife.com. Alll of their affirmations and digital art are original.

She had made some mistakes and had some regrets. She decided it was time to let them go and move towards being the woman she always knew she could be. Everybody deserves a second chance. – Queenisms™

People say there are no mistakes. Well, sometimes there really are. But what comes after a mistake need not be horrible. Admitting our errors and embracing honesty can wipe away many a tear.
Note: As you can see, we’ve made a typo in this graphic but didn’t want to take it down after we noticed it in our Facebook post. So we admitted our error and promised to change the post for the blog. What happened next was wonderful. More than 75% of those who commented on Facebook told us to leave the “mistake” because they liked the new, unintended meaning. So we did. Let us know what you think.

People say there are no mistakes. Well, sometimes there really are. But what comes after a mistake need not be horrible. Admitting our errors and embracing honesty can wipe away many a tear.

Doing What Your Expect of Yourself

Sunday, August 10th, 2014

Cindy Ratzlaff and Kathy Kinney blog and write books about claiming happiness in midlife at http://QueenofYourOwnLife.com. Alll of their affirmations and digital art are original.

She did not do what was expected of her. She did what she expected of herself. ~ Queenisms™

We’re so often running as fast as we can to live up to the expectations of others, or at least what we perceive as the expectations of others. Can you imagine what life would be like if the expectations of others were erased from our heads?

What if the only expectations in your life came from you, with no input from others? Are there things you would do differently? Are you able to separate your own dreams and desires from those others have for you?

The Power of the Belly Laugh

Saturday, August 9th, 2014

Cindy Ratzlaff and Kathy Kinney blog and write books about claiming happiness in midlife at http://QueenofYourOwnLife.com. Alll of their affirmations and digital art are original.

She understood the healing power of a good belly laugh and incorporated them into her life whenever possible. ~ Queenisms™

It is not possible to hold tension in your body as a ripple of laughter rises from your solar plexius, rolls out over your tongue and explodes into the air. A good belly laugh is cleansing, healing and infectious. We dare you to not to laugh when you’re around others laughing this way. Here’s to a joyful, loud, rowdy belly laughing kind of day for every person in the Queendom.

We’re grateful for the use of this fabulous photo of Amy Cunningham’s mother, T.K. in today’s Queenism