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Happiness is Still an Inside Job

Wednesday, November 5th, 2014

She could have all the money in the world is an original, trademarked digital art piece and writing by authors Kathy Kinney and Cindy Ratzlaff. http://QueenofYourOwnLife.com

The truth was she could have all the money in the world and everything it could buy and still wouldn’t be happy. Happiness was an inside job and a choice she was ready to make. ~ Queenisms™

We won’t beat a dead horse about this but we’ll just simply say that money, while nice to have, does not guarantee happiness. Happiness is a state of mind created by practice. Practicing happiness changes our brain chemistry. We can teach ourselves to be happier. One of the many ways mental health professional advise is to focus on gratitude. Gratitude is not simply a platitude but a genuine tool in creating a happier life.

Try this for just one week and we believe you’ll experience an uplift in the way you view the world.  When your eyes pop open in the morning, take 2 minutes and quiet your internal “to do” list. Then tell yourself one thing for which you are grateful. It might be the fact that you have bed to sleep in. It might be that you have a family you love. It might be that you have teeth that need brushing. Start simply and work up to more complex gratitudes. Now, repeat this exercise before going to bed. Just two minutes – that’s all we’re asking. Give yourself two minutes to list one thing that happened to you today for which you’re grateful.

We like to write our gratitude list down because it serves as a reminder, in more distressing times, that we have a lot of good in our lives. But for now, just practice. And, if you’d like to share your gratitude here, you’ll be of service to others who struggle with this exercise.

One more note. We do understand the debilitating struggle of clinical depression and we are in no way suggesting that chemical brain disorders can be overcome by declaring gratitude. However, professional guidance AND gratitude is a pretty powerful combination…just sayin’

It’s Easy to Pretend – Don’t

Tuesday, November 4th, 2014
Don't Pretend is an original digital art piece and writing by authors Kathy Kinney and Cindy Ratzlaff. http://QueenofYourOwnLife.com

Don’t Pretend is an original digital art piece and writing by authors Kathy Kinney and Cindy Ratzlaff. http://QueenofYourOwnLife.com

It was easy to pretend to be somebody you weren’t but it took a lot of courage to just be yourself. She decided to always be herself – fiercely independent, honest and loving. If someone didn’t like her that was their problem and not hers. ~ Queenisms™

Don’t let the strain of pretending to be someone other than who you are drag you down. Know that your particular combination of thoughts and talents are exactly perfect. When you have the courage to shine, as you are, nothing can stop you. Go, Queens, go. Let’s practice affirming our true selves. Name one thing about you that you would not change, for anything. Go!

Be Fierce and Fabulous

Monday, November 3rd, 2014

Fierce and Fabulous is a tradmarked, original digital art piece and writing by authors Kathy Kinney and Cindy Ratzlaff. http://QueenofYourOwnLife.com

She drank a big cup of fierce and fabulous every morning. ~ Queenisms™

We love this picture of Mrs. J. Hardy Stubbs, from the Library of Congress photo collection. Isn’t she just awesome? We think you’re awesome too. Some women change the world in a public way, like campaigning for women’s voting rights and others change the world in more personal ways like creating a warm and welcoming environment for their friends, families and guests. Some spread joy with a smile to a stranger and others inspire great acts of kindness by returning a wallet, intact, to a desperately upset person who forgot it in their grocery cart. Whatever you do to leave the world a better place is a fierce and fabulous act. Every time you choose not to add to the distress around you, you are heroic. Every time you pass on creating drama or pass on passing on gossip, you are fierce. We admire you Queens. Brava!

Be a Disruptive Force of Nature

Sunday, November 2nd, 2014

All rights reserved. Cindy Ratzlaff and Kathy Kinney blog and write books about claiming happiness in midlife at http://QueenofYourOwnLife.com. All of their affirmations and digital art are original, trademarked and copyright protected.

She was a disruptive force of nature, boldly performing random acts of altruism, smiling at strangers, and showing empathy to everyone she met. She was a rebel. ~ Queenisms™

We might add that in disrupting the norm and going about your business each day having chosen an attitude of gratitude and kindness, you are being very bold. You’re a rebel against the status quo and we’re so proud to be taking this life journey in the company of such women (and some very good men). Let’s share our strength by sharing our stories. Was there ever a time when you were able to turn something negative into something positive through your attitude and actions?

Get Your Swagger On!

Saturday, November 1st, 2014

She vowed to get her swagger back

She vowed to get her swagger back. So she decided, from this moment on, she would not be invisible. ~ Queenisms™

A woman named Ann Cuddy presented a TED Talk on the power of posture. Her talk highlighted the concept that the way we stand, sit and carry ourselves, influences our success in conveying our authority to others. We think that can be expanded upon and we’d like to posit that the way we carry ourselves can influence our own thinking. Stand tall, put a little swagger in your step, throw your arms up in the air, take up space. All of these actions help you become more visible and as we say over and over again, we want and need to see your shining gifts in a world that would be darker without them. Who’s ready to swagger?

Nothing is Scarier than Our Own Internal Negative Voice

Friday, October 31st, 2014

Nothing is Scarier is an original, trademarked digital art piece and writing by authors Kathy Kinney and Cindy Ratzlaff. http://QueenofYourOwnLife.com

Nothing was scarier than her internal negative voice telling her she was too fat, too thin, too silly, too stupid, too needy, too cranky and just too much. She was done listening to the lies. So she dusted off her crown and decided to wear it all day long. And when anyone asked her who she was supposed to be she was going to say, “I’m the Queen of my own life, of course!” ~ Queenisms™

We’re all different in whether or not we’d really wear a crown. Queen Cindy would, most definitely. Queen Kathy? Not so much. Still, picturing yourself as royal and worthy of respect is a powerful positive affirmation that speaking to yourself in supportive language is not just a nice to do, it’s a must do! Let’s practice. We’d like you to tell us one nice thing about yourself; something personal and from your heart. Go. And if you love to wear a crown, physically, we’d love to see your photos.

Banish Claptrap and Drivel

Thursday, October 30th, 2014

Banish Claptrap and Drivel is an original, trademarked digital art piece and writing by authors Kathy Kinney and Cindy Ratzlaff. http://QueenofYourOwnLife.com

She had no time for claptrap or drivel. She said yes when she meant yes, and no when she meant no. And she requested others around her to do the same. ~ Queenisms™

We create so much stress for ourselves when we’re not clear about our ability or willingness to do something. When we hesitate or say “Maybe” we lead people to believe we will do something. Then, if we don’t or can’t, we’ve created disappointment on their part and the stress of disappointing others on our part. When we are authoritative and clear in our yeses and nos, we relieve stress for all parties. The holiday season is approaching. This is the season of many asks on your time. Let’s practice saying yes or no in a clear, honest fashion and remember that the reaction of the other person is not your business. When we’re kind and clear in our answers, we free the asker up to find someone who can and will fulfill their needs. Saying no or yes is a service to others when we’re honest.

The Value of Being Saucy

Wednesday, October 29th, 2014

The Value of Being Saucy is an original, trademarked digital art piece and writing by authors Kathy Kinney and Cindy Ratzlaff. http://QueenofYourOwnLife.com

She decided that every time she walked out her door she was going to say to herself, “No matter what happens today it’s going to be a grand adventure and I’m the saucy, brave and clear-eyed woman who’s going to enjoy it!” ~ Queenisms™

We love the word “saucy.” Isn’t it funny that having a positive outlook on life and daring to face the day with a smile means we are a bit saucy? Thank goodness you’re daring to buck the trends, throw off the dire outlook on life and live a big, bold, happy life. We’re so delighted to know you!! Let’s spread a little sass with our saucy attitudes today, Queens. Are you with us?

You Cannot Be Stopped

Tuesday, October 28th, 2014

You Cannot Be Stopped is an original digital art piece and writing by authors Kathy Kinney and Cindy Ratzlaff. http://QueenofYourOwnLife.com

She was a belle on wheels. And, if they thought she could be stopped, they were simply mistaken. ~ Queenisms™

Does it ever feel like everyone has an opinion about your dreams? Perhaps they do or perhaps the very act of daring to dream frightens people because dreaming signals the potential for change. Sometimes the changes we make in our lives are not convenient for others. If you stop drinking, all your drinking friends wonder if they should stop too and it worries them. If you stop saying yes all the time, without considering your own needs, those who’ve come to take your yes for granted are left feeling put upon. If you decide to change jobs, your current employer feels rejected.

When we change, we threaten the status quo of the people, places and things around us and sometimes it takes a single minded focus to break free of doing things the way they’ve always been done. We can partly mitigate the worry and intervention of others by giving them some warning, letting them see that we’re pondering a change and making a plan.

But ultimately change is not always smooth. But if you have something in your heart that longs to be expressed and would make your life happier, we’re hoping you become a belle on wheels; unstoppable and invincible. Have you ever made a change that others didn’t support, but ultimately made you a whole lot happier? Let’s share our stories and share our strength.

Gloriously Yourself

Monday, October 27th, 2014

Gloriously Yourself is an original digital art piece and writing by authors Kathy Kinney and Cindy Ratzlaff. http://QueenofYourOwnLife.com

You are gloriously yourself and anyone would be darn lucky to have you in their life. ~ Queenisms™

If you never “hear” anything we say, except this, please know that you are perfect, just the way you are. Your gifts are wonderful. Your presence is a gift to us. We’re glad you’re here on the earth. In case no one told you today, we adore you and anyone would be lucky to have you in their lives. Is there someone in your life you feel this way about? Why not tell them today?