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Be Slow to Criticize

Saturday, July 5th, 2014

Pamela K. Weaver Tomasello's sister in law Mary

She was quick to laugh, slow to criticize and a steadfast defender of those she loved. In return, she was deeply cherished. ~ Queenisms™

Cherished. What an incredibly powerful word. We want to be cherished, don’t you? We talk a great deal about being an agenda-free friend and here’s why. When we support those close to us but taint our support with advice that is good for us but may not be what’s best for them, then we’re, in essence, criticizing their lives. We must take our own best interests out of the equation and ask ourselves, what would be best for this person I love? We may wish they’d get a new haircut, wear less make up, talk more softly, eat less, not accept a job far away or whatever. But what’s right for them? Does sporting a quirky haircut make them feel adventurous? Does a lot of make up help them feel as though they stand out in the crowd? Are they loud because they fear no one can hear them?

Every person you meet is carrying a burden, seen or unseen. Do not add to that burden. Be a friend who is slow to criticize, quick to laugh and one who deeply cherishes and in return is deeply cherished by friends.

Photo: Pamela K. Weaver Tomasello’s sister-in-law, Mary

You Are Worth the Effort

Friday, July 4th, 2014

Queenisms are original works by authors Kathy Kinney and Cindy Ratzlaff. All rights reserved but Pinning is encouraged.

Her negative voice had been jabbering at her for almost all her life. She knew it was time to put the kibosh on that old useless habit. So she decided that from this moment on she would only speak to herself in a kind and loving way. She knew it was going to take a bit of practice but she was worth the effort. – Queenisms™

Don’t you just love the word kibosh? It’s got clout. We’re suggesting you put the kibosh on anything and anyone who doesn’t speak to you in a loving way. You are worth the effort to hold people accountable for behaving in a supportive manner in your presence — including yourself. Negative voices jabber away in our heads and play old, outdated messages. It’s time to put the kibosh on those voice whether they come from within or from the outside. Words and messages become feelings and thoughts.

A Love Letter to You from You

Thursday, July 3rd, 2014

Queenisms are original works by authors Kathy Kinney and Cindy Ratzlaff. All rights reserved but Pinning is encouraged.

She wrote herself an encouraging note because one can always use the support of a good agenda-free friend. ~ Queenisms™

We find that writing ourselves notes is a terrific way to start a conversation and work through some questions and thoughts that haven’t surfaced but are still picking at us and robbing us of joy. Write yourself a love letter. Tell yourself thank you. Apologize to yourself. Tell yourself everything will be all right.

What would your note say?

She Was Afraid She’d Waited Too Long

Wednesday, July 2nd, 2014

Queenisms are original works by authors Kathy Kinney and Cindy Ratzlaff. All rights reserved but Pinning is encouraged.

She was afraid she’d waited too long to live her life. Then she remembered, “You don’t have to be twenty-one to have your whole life ahead of you.” There was still plenty of time to create the life she had always wanted to live. – Queenisms™

There is no expiration on dreams. And it is never too late to embrace happiness. You have not waited too long. You’ve been doing research into what gives you joy and what does not. Now go put that research to work.

Ask Yourself, What Do I Want?

Tuesday, June 24th, 2014

Queenisms are original jolts of inspiration and vinatge images put together by authors Kathy Kinney and Cindy Ratzlaff. All rights reserved but pinning is encouraged.

She gave herself the gift of a moment of reflection to ask herself one simple question. “What do I want?” Just the act of asking made her feel more buoyant. ~ Queenisms™

It’s sadly a rarity when we pause and give ourselves a moment of reflection. When we do, we don’t often ponder questions such as “am I happy,” “what do I want,” or “is what I’m doing now contributing to the life I could be living?” We want to let you know that happiness is the natural state of being. It’s your birthright. You were not born to be miserable. You have great potential to spread goodness in the world simply by making small daily choices to embrace happiness or reject unhappiness.

If a child puts their hand near an open flame, we leap toward them to say “keep away from the fire. You’ll get burned.” But somehow we tend to forget that lesson ourselves and we put ourselves into that flame again and again. If life is burning you, step away from the flame. It’s that easy and that hard, all at the same time. The hard part is that we often mourn the loss of people, places or things we hoped would be different. But we are not responsible for making them different. We are only responsible for our reactions to them. If they burn us, step away.

Stop Saying I’m Sorry to Everything and Everyone

Monday, June 23rd, 2014

Authors Kathy Kinney and Cindy Ratzlaff create daily, original Queenisms, jolts of inspiration.

She was tired of always saying she was sorry when she hadn’t done anything wrong. She decided it was time to begin to stick up for herself. – Queenisms™

You are not responsible for every negative thing that happens in the world. You are not responsible for the choices other people make. You are not responsible for their pain and suffering. You are not that powerful. You are, however, responsible for treating yourself with dignity and respect. Take responsibility where it’s warranted. Now get to it.

Be The Author of Your Own Life

Sunday, June 22nd, 2014

Queenisms are original jolts of inspiration from authors Kathy Kinney and Cindy Ratzlaff. http://QueenofYourOwnLife.com

When she stopped making everyone else the author of her life, she finally found her own voice. ~ Queenisms™

Let’s creatively rewrite the story that’s running through our heads. Instead of “she was the victim of circumstance,” let’s rephrase to “she saw herself as filled with unlimited possibilities that she could chose to explore at any moment.” Isn’t that much better? You’re not stuck. You’re just “pre-action” focused. When there’s a boulder in the road, turn your head to the left and to the right and look for a path around the boulder. If you don’t see one, climb over it.

What would you say to a dear friend who was having trouble communicating her own storyline? You’d most likely tell her to focus on the feelings she wanted to evoke and the story she wanted to tell. Let’s tell ourselves the same thing and create a life filled with joy, shall we? You are the author of your own life story and you have creative license to change it.

Life is a Group Sport

Saturday, June 21st, 2014

Queenisms are original jolts of inspiration by authors Kathy Kinney and Cindy Ratzlaff. http://QueenofYourOwnLife.com

She was running as fast as she could, trying to keep ahead of the pack. When she finally realized life wasn’t an individual race, but a group sport, she began running joyfully to life, instead of from it.
~ Queenisms™

When we compare ourselves to others, we’ll always fall short. But when we surround ourselves with friends who are actively engaged in living their own best lives, we’re supported and encouraged to do the same ourselves. Our mothers were right. The company you keep matters.  Life really is a group sport. Choose your “team” wisely.

Let the Negative Ones Trickle Away

Friday, June 20th, 2014

Queenisms are original jolts of inspiration on friendship, self-esteem, joy and happiness by Kathy Kinney and Cindy Ratzlaff. http://QueenofYourOwnLife.com

One day she thought, “How can I expect to lead a positive life if I surrounded myself with negative people?” She decided to open her heart and mind to allow more positive people in, and to have the courage to let the negative ones trickle away. – Queenisms™

Do you have the courage to let the negative influences in your life trickle away? It’s not always necessary to kick them to the curb. That takes so much negative energy in and of itself. Sometimes you can just slowly back away, turn your attention elsewhere and disengage, with love.

Say No to Clean Closets

Thursday, June 19th, 2014

Original Queenisms by Kathy Kinney and Cindy Ratzlaff posted daily at http://QueenofYourOwnLife.com

She held this strong personal philosophy. She knew there would always be closets to clean and work to do, but the moments of pure fun were fleeting. So she guarded those opportunities fiercely and cherished them with all her heart. ~ Queenisms™

If we’d all just say no to clean closets and yes to embracing moment of pure fun, the world would be a better place. Just say no!