After a lot of practice she could now set a strong boundary without harming anyone, even herself. – Queenisms™
Why are we always yammering on and on about the importance of setting strong boundaries? Because the ability to tell others, in clear, calm terms, what we can and cannot do might just be the epicenter of happiness. It’s that important. When we say yes when we mean no, we set ourselves up for anxiety and frustration. And, equally as important a yes that isn’t honest sets our friends, families and acquaintances up as the bad guys, even when they’re not. Imagine how awful you’d feel if you asked someone to do something and they committed to do so, giving you the impression that this was something they were willing and able to do for you because they wanted to do so. Then you find out later they resent you because the “ask” made their lives complicated, strained and/or the opposite of happy. You’d feel awful and you’d most likely wish they’d simply told you the truth in the first place. Well, a serial “yes” sayer or someone who is unable to set boundaries on their time or personal space is contributing to the unhappiness of both the one who asks, and themselves. So let’s practice boundary setting, which we believe is just another phrase meaning honesty.