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Permission to Dream Big

Thursday, July 9th, 2015

She gave herself permission to dream big and to take the actions needed to make those dreams come true. - Queenisms™

She gave herself permission to dream big and to take the actions needed to make those dreams come true. – Queenisms™

Do you ever let your mind wander and image something or some action that gives you such joy you find yourself smiling, all alone with your thoughts? Do you ever wonder if you could make that daydream a reality? Do you let yourself move from daydream to action? Today we’d like to ask you all to do one thing for us. Give yourself permission to move one tiny step forward toward something you’ve been dreaming about. Can you do that for us – and for you? Daydreams are windows to your heart’s desire.

All Things Considered

Wednesday, July 8th, 2015

All things considered, she decided to choose joy. - Queenisms™

All things considered, she decided to choose joy. – Queenisms™

Joy is different than happiness. Joy is an action and a decision and often happiness can come from joy. Joy is about choice. Do we choose people, places, things and actions that uplift and support us? Do we dare to try new things? Do we face each day with an open heart and do we embrace hope? Do we allow ourselves to be surprised and delighted? These are just a few of the actions we can take to invite joy into our lives – to choose joy. All things considered, we choose joy. How do you choose joy?

The 2016 Queen of Your Own Life Calendar is Here!

Tuesday, July 7th, 2015

The cover of the Queen of Your Own Life 2016 Calendar

Please forgive us for bragging, but we’re so stinking proud of this calendar that we can hardly contain ourselves.

We promised we’d let everyone know when the new 2016 Queen of Your Own Life Calendar went on sale. It’s on both Amazon and Barnes & Noble right now and will be in stores by the last week in July. Enjoy!

Calendars are one of those things that don’t get reprinted, so when they’re gone, they’re gone. If you think you might want one (or five), don’t delay. Order one today. Our publisher tells us that they expect to sell out.

We’re biased but we think they’d make awesome gifts for every woman on your list – including yourself.

Stop Telling Tall Tales

Tuesday, July 7th, 2015

She told herself a tall tale about an amazing woman who had the courage to do what needed to be done. To her delight, the story turned out to be 100% true. - Queenisms™

She told herself a tall tale about an amazing woman who had the courage to do what needed to be done. To her delight, the story turned out to be 100% true. – Queenisms™

When we stop feeding ourselves a bunch of baloney based in fear and worry, we’re free to be exactly what we are – amazing women capable of remarkable things. If you’re reading this right now, you’ve survived things you never imagined possible. How do we know this? Because you’re human and there is not one person we’ve ever met who does not have a story of survival. No one walks through life’s journey without some challenges. Often we can’t see the burdens others are carrying. That doesn’t mean they’re not there. But we get up, get on and do what needs to be done. Sometimes it’s important to pause, look back at the path so far, and give ourselves a little bit of love for doing what needed to be done – no matter how hard or frightening. Your story is 100% true and we think that most likely, your story had some bumpy patches and some smooth patches and you, dear Queens, took the journey anyway. Bravo!

Embrace Wonder

Monday, July 6th, 2015

She decided to let go of worry and embrace wonder. - Queenisms™

She decided to let go of worry and embrace wonder. – Queenisms™

Worry takes up a lot of time and mental energy. And, on the whole, worry does not solve, or improve, the situation we’re worried about. Worry robs us of the opportunity to be “in the moment.” We know that can sound like new-age type thinking. It’s still true though. What could you do with the time, energy and space you devote to worry? Could you turn your head to the left or right and notice something or someone who might enjoy your company? Could you make a difference in someones life by listening to them? Could you see a door that’s slightly ajar, open it and walk through into a brand new adventure? Could you imagine yourself free from worry and ready to embrace beauty and wonder? Let’s try.

Becoming Our Own Best Friend

Sunday, June 28th, 2015

She would become her own best friend. And in learning to do that she would become a better friend to others. - Queenisms™

She would become her own best friend. And in learning to do that she would become a better friend to others. – Queenisms™

We cannot form true friendships if we do not like ourselves. The time we spend learning to love and accept ourselves is well spent. Take yourself on a date. Write yourself supportive notes. Dare to think about your worth and have the courage to own it. This is your homework. Make a list of at least three things you like about yourself – things that would make you want to spend time with you if you were a stranger. We’ll start. We have a good sense of humor. We see the positive in every situation. We enjoy crafting. Now it’s your turn.

Banish Wacky Thoughts

Saturday, June 27th, 2015

There were wacky thoughts rolling around in her head making her think she wasn’t enough. So she gave herself agood talking to and vowed to banish them one false thought at a time. - Queenisms™

There were wacky thoughts rolling around in her head making her think she wasn’t enough. So she gave herself a good talking to and
vowed to banish them one false thought at a time. – Queenisms™

On the Queen journey to claiming happiness, we often talk about banishing negative self talk. And, it would be terrific if that was a “once and done” kind of action. But, for us, it isn’t. We still have to catch ourselves whenever wacky thinking starts to invade our thoughts and we have to call it out and banish it all over again – on false thought at a time.

Thoughts like “what if I’m not good enough,” “I’m not young enough, rich enough, tall enough or whatever enough,” are poison. Queen Cindy recently took a zip line ride in Montreal, over the Old Port, screaming like a lunatic. She’s vowed never to do it again, but she’s glad she did it once. She’s also glad she didn’t give in to the feeling that she might be too old and she’s pleased as punch that she was able to help a 25 year old, ahead of her in line, muster the courage to strap in and push off on her own high wire adventure.

You don’t have to fling yourself off an 85 foot tower like Queen Cindy. You just have to tell yourself that you’re enough. Can you do that for us, please? Banishing negative self talk is not a once and done kind of action. It may have to be repeated often.

A Refreshing Attitude

Friday, June 26th, 2015

They put all their effort into enjoying themselves rather than judging themselves. The water was refreshing, as was their attitude. - Queenisms™

They put all their effort into enjoying themselves rather than judging themselves. The water was refreshing, as was their attitude. – Queenisms™

How many times have we denied ourselves the pleasure of this or that activity because we were too fat, too thin, too gray, too old, too whatever? When we allow “what will they think of me” to become the guiding principal by which we live our lives, we make our universe so small it’s a miracle we ever go outside. Here’s the deal, in our opinion. Someone is always looking at you and judging you – most often because they’re afraid, angry, hurt or feel less than good about themselves. Their fear rarely has anything whatsoever to do with you and you can’t do a darned thing about it. So staying hidden away and avoiding fun activities with your friends is just plain silly. They’re judging you for that, by the way. Please, oh please, don’t let the fear and anxieties of other people keep you from living your life fully. Put on a bathing suit. Wear a red hat. Laugh too loudly. Dance with abandon. Color outside the lines. Then look over at the judgmental and fearful eyes of anyone who is judging you and smile. Accept them as they are. Invite them to be more. Putting your light under a bushel doesn’t help their light shine brighter. It just keeps two lights under a bushel. Your new attitude can be refreshing – and change everything.

Done Pretending

Thursday, June 25th, 2015

She was done pretending to be someone other than herself. It felt exhilarating. - Queenisms™

She was done pretending to be someone other than herself. It felt exhilarating. – Queenisms™

When we pretend to be someone we’re not, we’re not fooling anyone but ourselves. All of our interactions with others leave them, and us, feeling as though something is slightly off. And, it is. When we are not our true selves, we’re really lying. We’re cheating others out of the company of our own wonderful selves. And we’re forming relationships that our inauthentic self might enjoy but denying ourselves relationships that our true self might find rewarding. You deserve the love, support, companionship and admiration of friends and family who know you exactly as you are and find you to be someone they want in their lives. Your time is too precious to waste trying to gather a circle of friends from whom you must hide your true self. There is nothing more exhilarating than being yourself – and allowing that to be enough.

Being Seen and Heard

Tuesday, June 23rd, 2015

In her estimation, being seen and not heard was highly overrated. - Queenisms™

In her estimation, being seen and not heard was highly overrated. – Queenisms™

Finding your Queen voice and using it is part of life’s journey. Some of us find our voices early on and never lose that ability to speak up. Others find it, lose it and struggle to regain it. And still others spend a lifetime figuring out what it is they have to say before speaking up with a clear, true voice. There is no right path to finding and using your voice. But we want to urge you to keep at it. What you have to say matters. What you think matters. What you want matters. Period. Is there something, someone or some thought dear to your heart that longs to be heard and seen?