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Set, Match, Game

Thursday, January 8th, 2015

She invited herself to take the day off from worry, stress, anger, fear and self criticism. Set, match, game! - Queenisms™

She invited herself to take the day off from worry, stress, anger, fear and self criticism.  – Queenisms™

If only the rules of life were as simple as the rules of games, we’d all be standing in the winner’s circle holding a trophy high above our heads. But they aren’t. Life can be messy and complicated and a lot of what happens is completely outside of our control. But some things are within our control. For example, the choices we make. If worry, stress, anger, fear and self criticism worked in changing a problem, that would be great. But they don’t. So why punish ourselves by robbing ourselves of joyful moments focused on actions that cannot possibly make things better. Take the day off.

Everyone’s idea of perfect is unique

Wednesday, January 7th, 2015

One day she realized that letting go of her need to be perfect set her free to finally enjoy her life. - Queenisms™

One day she realized that letting go of her need to be perfect set her free to finally enjoy her life. – Queenisms™

Did you ever bake something and think “why that’s just perfection,” only to have someone else say “that’s nice but not my cup of tea”? Well that’s because the illusion of perfection is different for every person. You might want red walls in your dining room and someone else might find beige just divine. It goes the same way with ourselves. We cannot achieve “perfection” because there is no such thing. It’s subjective and it’s a fluid notion, changing with the circumstances and the people. So knock it off. Enjoy you life, ok?

Break Up with Self Doubt

Tuesday, January 6th, 2015

She’d gotten involved with a scurrilous character named “self-doubt.” But then she decided not to take his calls anymore. - Queenisms™

She’d gotten involved with a scurrilous character named “self-doubt.” But then she decided not to take his calls anymore. – Queenisms™

Kind of like the old horror story where the babysitter gets a phone call from someone who says “I know what you’re doing,” self-doubt is calling from “inside the house.” Change your number, don’t answer that call, get out of the house. Self-doubt puts you in a box and makes you believe you don’t have the strength, courage or inner resources to survive and thrive. You do. That’s the truth. Period.

Bring it On

Monday, January 5th, 2015

She had no idea what the future held but she knew for a fact, that no matter what, she could handle it. She was a strong brave and resilient woman with a great sense of humor. She thought, "Bring it on!" - Queenisms™

She had no idea what the future held but she knew for a fact, that no matter what, she could handle it. She was a strong brave and resilient woman with a great sense of humor. She thought, “Bring it on!” – Queenisms™

Sometimes the difference between surviving and thriving is an attitude. You will survive, even when you doubt it. But to thrive you need to find your inner warrior. Now she doesn’t have to be fierce, but she does have to have a steel backbone. Are you ready to shout “bring it on?”

Support versus Sabotage

Sunday, January 4th, 2015

Some days the voices telling her what she couldn't do were much louder than the voices encouraging her. So she learned to hear the difference between support and sabotage and listened to her own Queen voice more often. - Queenisms™

Some days the voices telling her what she couldn’t do were much louder than the voices encouraging her. So she learned to hear the difference between support and sabotage and listened to her own Queen voice more often. – Queenisms™

How often do you ask yourself “what do you want or what do you need?” We ask that question to loved ones all the time. Isn’t it time we began asking, and listening, to our own Queen voice and learning to discern the difference between our best intuition and our negative thoughts based in fear? This isn’t something you need training to do. You already know the difference. You just need to create a quiet moment where you ask, listen and then answer yourself. If you haven’t done this in a while, it will seem silly and you may think you don’t have the answers. But you always do…always. This is the year to begin to trust yourself. Who’s with us?

How Do You Make People Feel?

Saturday, January 3rd, 2015

No one remembered whether her house was clean or if there were weeds in her garden. But everyone who ever met her remembered the sound of her laughter and the way her smile made them feel. - Queenisms™

No one remembered whether her house was clean or if there were weeds in her garden. But everyone who ever met her remembered the sound of her laughter and the way her smile made them feel. – Queenisms™

We’re not saying that a messy house or a weed filled garden is the key to happiness. We’re saying that the most important thing in nurturing friendships is to leave self-judgment behind and be fully, gloriously, delightfully present in the company of friends and loved ones. That’s what they deserve, need and will always remember. How do you make people feel? Do they feel as though they shouldn’t have come because you weren’t “ready,” or do you make them feel like a wonderful surprise and welcomed guests whenever they are in your presence?

The Battle for Herself

Friday, January 2nd, 2015

She had no doubt it was going to be a very good year. Her power and knowledge were growing steadily every day. In the Battle for Herself she had all of the tools necessary to be victorious. - Queenisms™

She had no doubt it was going to be a very good year. Her power and knowledge were growing steadily every day. In the Battle for Herself she had all of the tools necessary to be victorious. – Queenisms™

Sometimes it feels as though we’re at war with ourselves. We’re the good guys and the bad guys all at once. There is no better time than now to defeat the negative, self-limiting fear that sometimes plagues us all and simply banish doubt. We do this through creating these daily affirmations. We write these for ourselves, as reminders and kind of as a morning meditation. If they help you keep focused on your true selves, then we are delighted. How do you support yourself during the battle for you?

It Takes One to Know One

Thursday, January 1st, 2015

She wanted a good friend who loved her unconditionally, only spoke to her in a loving but honest way and always had her back - no matter what. She decided to start with herself because it took one to know one. - Queenisms™

She wanted a good friend who loved her unconditionally, only spoke to her in a loving but honest way and always had her back – no matter what. She decided to start with herself because it took one to know one. – Queenisms™

We are most able to attract supportive, loving and fulfilling friendships when we are happy with ourselves. Happiness and joy are magnetic. Do not look to others to make you happy. Practice happiness and let your inner joy shine, guiding good people to you. Happy New Year Queens.

Life isn’t something to be Resolved

Wednesday, December 31st, 2014

There would be no more New Year's resolutions for her. She had come to realize that life wasn't something you could ever just resolve. Instead she chose to believe that life was a breathtaking adventure and she had the courage to live it to the fullest. - Queenisms™

There would be no more New Year’s resolutions for her. She had come to realize that life wasn’t something you could ever just resolve. Instead she chose to believe that life was a breathtaking adventure and she had the courage to live it to the fullest. – Queenisms™

Life isn’t something to be resolved. Life is a breathtaking adventure and sometimes we need to slog through the mud to get to the mountain top. Wear boots and have fun. Happy New Year Queens.

Throw in the Towel

Tuesday, December 30th, 2014

She threw in the towel and gave up the illusion that she had any control, whatsoever, over what other people thought of her. And the peace and quiet inside her head was delicious. - Queenisms™  Queenisms are jolts of inspiration, through original quotes for women and vintage images by authors Kathy Kinney and Cindy Ratzlaff. For more original inspirational quotes for women, visit http://QueenofYourOwnLife.com

She threw in the towel and gave up the illusion that she had any control, whatsoever, over what other people thought of her. And the peace and quiet inside her head was delicious. – Queenisms™

We let the notion of what other people might be thinking take up an awful lot of space in our heads, and in our hearts. And, the truth is that we have no control over “people, places or things,” as they say in 12 Step groups. The only thing we have control over is our own reactions to the events of our lives. So fretting, fearing or feeling hurt by what others might be thinking is just throwing away our own peace of mind. If we are living our lives the best we can, listening to our own inner guidance, setting strong boundaries on our time and resources, sharing our light with the world and otherwise trying to live a life of joy, then all the opinions in the world just cannot stand between us and joy.