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Look Life in the Eye

Wednesday, June 3rd, 2015

Life could come knocking at her door anytime it wanted to. She was brave enough to open the door and look it square in the eye. - Queenisms™

Life could come knocking at her door anytime it wanted to. She was brave enough to open the door and look it square in the eye. – Queenisms™

There have been moments in all of our lives when we’ve opened the door to new opportunities, and there have been moments when we were too afraid to look through the peep hole to see what was out there. It’s ok. We can’t punish ourselves for things we missed or we’ll miss the next big opportunity for joy. We can, however, learn from our past. We can evaluate. We can assess. We can, without judgment, ask ourselves what we’ll do the next time life comes knocking on our door. And we can make another choice. Because there is always something more. Ask yourself, without self-judgment, if you’d like to open the door. If the answer is yes. Open the door. Look life in the eye and say yes.

Tell Yourself Yes

Tuesday, June 2nd, 2015

She decided to tell herself yes - all day long. - Queenisms™

She decided to tell herself yes – all day long. – Queenisms™

What would happen if you told yourself yes? What would you do? Where would you go?

We harp on this all the time and at the risk of being nags, we’re going to “go there” again. When we say yes to everyone, all the time, we’re saying no to ourselves. We are not able to give ourselves time off, permission to dream, the time to refresh ourselves or the pleasure of indulging in play IF we are saying yes to everyone, all the time. Stop telling yourself no. Start saying yes to that voice inside of you that asks “could we have some fun today?” What do you say?

 

Take No Guff

Monday, June 1st, 2015

She was gentle and kind but her boundaries were strong. She took no guff. - Queenisms™

She was gentle and kind but her boundaries were strong. She took no guff. – Queenisms™

Take no guff. Do not let the opinions of others rule the choices you make about the validity of your hopes and dreams. Dr. Northrup wrote a wonderful book about menopause where she (and we paraphrase here) said that after a certain age, women simply don’t have the time or patience for the kind of criticism that held them hostage when they were younger. They’re more willing to embrace who they really are and let the “haters” find someone else to torment. We love this sassy woman’s attitude and she made us smile. Inside every one of us is a strong person who is ready to “take no guff” and move farther, faster and more intensely toward a life where who they are and what they do is not subject to someone elses set of rules. Are you there? Will you take the vow to “take no guff?”

You Are Who You’re Looking For

Saturday, May 30th, 2015

She was looking for someone to give her admiration to. A woman who was strong, kind, loving loyal and brave. She began to smile as she realized she had just described herself. - Queenisms™

She was looking for someone to give her admiration to. A woman who was strong, kind, loving loyal and brave. She began to smile as she realized she had just described herself. – Queenisms™

If you are reading this, the evidence points to the fact that you are someone who seeks inspiration, loves deeply, believes in kindness and has a sense of humor. Otherwise, you’d have clicked off, unfollowed, unsubscribed or ditched us a long time ago. We’re glad you’re here. And, we’d like to point out that people who seek inspiration are resilient and brave. They have the inner resources to say “I’m going to give myself a life, emotionally.” That’s a very powerful survival skill and research shows that people who support themselves emotionally are more likely to not just survive life, but to thrive. We think you are exactly what YOU are looking for – a supportive, kind, brave, loyal friend who believes that she (or he) deserves happiness. By the way, we agree with you and think you’re brilliant.

She Promised Herself

Friday, May 29th, 2015

She had made promises to herself when she was young. And, come hell or high water, she was not going to let that girl down. - Queenisms™

She had made promises to herself when she was young. And, come hell or high water, she was not going to let that girl down. – Queenisms™

Do you promise yourself things? We do. We promise never to let ourselves down. We promise to be honest with ourselves. We promise to make every effort to see the spark of goodness in everyone we meet. We promise ourselves to find our voices and use them for good. And, come hell or high water, we’re doing the best we can to keep those promises. We want to be women of our word. What do you promise yourself? Let’s get it out and make a pledge to be women of our words. Be a woman (or man) of your word. Make a promise to yourself and keep it.

An Iron Will and a Steel Backbone

Thursday, May 28th, 2015

She had a way of making the hard things seem easy. They weren't but she had an iron will and a backbone made of steel. - Queenisms™

She had a way of making the hard things seem easy. They weren’t but she had an iron will and a backbone made of steel. – Queenisms™

Other people’s lives look so much easier than ours sometimes. They’re not. They just look that way. Everyone has a story and most of their stories include stumbles, wounds, disappointments, pain, sadness and regret or anger or both. They also include joy, laughter, triumph, and rewards. How do we know? Because all of those are a part of a life well lived. Our burdens are not lessened by dramatically, publicly beating ourselves up. Our joy is not heightened because we post about it on Facebook. We are not alone in either or joy or our sorrow. These are all a part of life. We need the courage and strength to endure, overcome, survive and thrive and we need the wisdom to do so in a way that does not add to the chaos around us. Three cheers to the iron wills that make us show up for life every day, even when we’re wounded. Three cheers for the backbones made of steel that make us stand up when we just want to lay down. Let’s celebrate those attributes today and recognize that we possess them and they are among our most valuable gifts.

Come Out of Your Shell

Wednesday, May 27th, 2015

She had so much to offer. It was time for her to come out of her shell and live. - Queenisms™

She had so much to offer. It was time for her to come out of her shell and live. – Queenisms™

Stop being so selfish. What, you say? Me, selfish? We just wanted to grab your attention because here’s the point we’d like to make. Everyone has gifts that are important to the world around them. And, you may not yet (or ever) know what you’re particular contribution is to the lives of those you touch – BUT – we guarantee you that what you have to offer is really important. And if you’re hiding, afraid to come out and be the person you truly are, then you’re depriving the world of your gifts. See what we mean? You have so much to offer. Yes, you. If might be that you’re someone who laughs easily and your gift is to be an attentive listener for the laughter makers. You might be someone who can discern between honesty and hooey and your gift is needed to provide wise feedback for the lifelong seekers. When you show up in life as your authentic self, your gifts are active in the world – whether you realize it or not.

Do you believe in second chances?

Tuesday, May 26th, 2015

Do you believe in Second Chances?

Each week we like to start a conversation because we want to know where you are in your journey and how we can best be of service to you in finding happiness? This week we’d love to chat with you about second chances, both for yourself and for others. Do you believe in second chances? Have you given a second chance to yourself? What about to someone else? How did that work out? We can’t tell you how much we appreciate it when you take the time to respond. It means the world to us. Some days we’re reading your comments and tears are streaming down our faces. Some days we laugh so hard, we snort. Being on this life journey together is precious to us and we thank you for being here.

Thankful to Be a Pollyanna

Tuesday, May 26th, 2015

When anyone told her was a Pollyanna, she simply smiled and said "why, thank you!" - Queenisms™

When anyone told her was a Pollyanna, she simply smiled and said “why, thank you!” – Queenisms™

When we were kids we read the bestselling novel by Eleanor Porter, Pollyanna, and fell in love with the “glad game.” The title character was an early proponent of gratitude. Whenever she was sad, she’d think of things she was glad about. She was a perpetual optimist and her attitude changed those around her for the good.

We want to be Pollyanna, and in many ways we are. We try very hard to see the positive in every person we meet. So when people tell us we’re being a “Pollyanna,” we just smile and say thank you.  Has there ever been a situation in your life when you were able to turn things around by seeing the good more than the bad? Let’s share and inspire one another. Optimism isn’t just a lifestyle, it’s a healthy strategy for thriving in the world.

Remember

Monday, May 25th, 2015

Memorial Day is to remember and honor those who have died while serving in our country's military. She chose to do so by living her life that day and every day with joy and to the fullest. - Queenisms™

Memorial Day is to remember and honor those who have died while serving in our country’s military. She chose to do so by living her life that day and every day with joy and to the fullest. – Queenisms™

We’d like to say thank you to every person who served in our military, thank you for your service. And to those we cannot thank, because they did not return, we offer our gratitude and our promise that we will live our lives with purpose, joy and honor.