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Make Time to Play

Monday, September 1st, 2014

Queenisms are original trademarked works of art by authors, Cindy Ratzlaff and Kathy Kinney, who blog and write books about claiming happiness in midlife at http://QueenofYourOwnLife.com. All of their affirmations and digital art are original.

It’s a national holiday here in the USA, Labor Day. Traditionally this is a day to relax, play and take a day off from work. Many of us work so hard, we’ve forgotten what it’s like to play and so we find ourselves at odds with the notion of “take a day off.” Snap out of it, as Cher said to Nicholas Cage in Moonstruck.

Let’s get serious about play. Make a list of at least 5 things you would consider doing if you allowed yourself some time to play. Then schedule at least one of them into your life this week.  Here’s ours:

Queen Kathy

  1. Gluing things to other things
  2. Using glitter without caution
  3. Playing in the pool with no aerobic agenda, just slashing around because it’s fun.
  4. Putting the pictures of the heads of my friends onto the bodies of antique graphics of dogs, cats and birds.
  5. Play is good for both body and soul. Play is a way to shed stress and release yourself to joy. How do you play? What would you do if you could let yourself play?

Queen Cindy

  1. Taking a long walk at a slow pace.
  2. Floating in a pool with a noodle as a pillow.
  3. Ladder Golf (look it up).
  4. Taking in a minor league baseball game.
  5. A rousing game of cards with good friends.

We can’t wait to see your lists.

Living and Loving the In Between Places

Saturday, August 30th, 2014

Cindy Ratzlaff and Kathy Kinney blog and write books about claiming happiness in midlife at http://QueenofYourOwnLife.com. Alll of their affirmations and digital art are original.

She gave herself permission to be in that in-between place, not sure what was next but positive that whatever it was, she was a woman who was capable of surviving and thriving. She delighted in the possibilities. ~ Queenisms™

Photo: Amy Cunningham’s Aunt Frannie

We hate the unknown. The idea of change is so dangerous because we don’t know what comes next. We know we want change but we don’t know what that change will look like. So often we stay with people or in places that don’t uplift and support us because the unknown seems more daunting than the known.

When the pain of staying the same becomes sharper than the pain of change, we change. But what if we could choose to forgo all that pain and simply choose to look for, and incorporate into our lives, those people, places and things that are positive and life affirming? Wouldn’t that be a beautiful thing? Give yourself permission to pause, in this in between place, and decide what you want in your life. Then go make it happen. You are a woman capable of not just surviving, but thriving.

Walk Through Fear

Friday, August 29th, 2014

Cindy Ratzlaff and Kathy Kinney blog and write books about claiming happiness in midlife at http://QueenofYourOwnLife.com. Alll of their affirmations and digital art are original.

Her choices were to stay the same or walk through her fear and become the woman she was meant to be. She decided to start walking. – Queenisms™

We’ve been humming the old Nancy Sinatra song all day. “These boots are made for walking. . .” We never plan to have a theme for the week, but we sure seem to fall into that pattern, don’t we? This week we’re talking about staying the same, even when you’re miserable. If you hit yourself on the head with a hammer and lament that your head aches all day long, a good friend might point out that if you stop hitting yourself in the head with a hammer, you’ll feel better. But with stuff like relationships, jobs, social environment or personal goals, it’s harder for people to see the hammer. But you can see it.  Stop what you’re doing right now and tell us the first thing that comes to mind when you ask yourself this question. What is giving me the most stress in my life, right now? Or, rephrased, what is stopping me from being happy?

If you hit yourself in the head with a hammer until your head hurts, you don’t need a good friend to tell you that stopping will stop the pain. But with the emotional blows we deal ourselves, it’s harder for friends to be our bell weather. We must be that for ourselves and in order to do so, we have not be afraid to ask ourselves these questions. And, we have to dare to answer them honestly. Walk through the fear.

 

Answer the Call to Dance

Thursday, August 28th, 2014

 

Cindy Ratzlaff and Kathy Kinney blog and write books about claiming happiness in midlife at http://QueenofYourOwnLife.com. Alll of their affirmations and digital art are original.

It mattered not what other people thought of her, because when she heard the music, she could not help but dance. She knew that those for whom the music called must answer. And, so she did. – Queenisms™

We loved the joyful look on this woman’s face as she boldly flings her arms in the air and gives in to the music. Shouldn’t we all experience that abandon daily? Let’s dance this week, each to her own ability. Let’s dance for no good reason. Let’s crank up the music and move. Even if you never leave your chair, fling your arms up in the air and give in the the music. Who’s with us?

The pure joy of giving in to music and letting our bodies interpret what our ears hear is a lovely gift to give yourself often.

Healing Ourselves

Wednesday, August 27th, 2014

Queenisms are original trademarked works of art by authors, Cindy Ratzlaff and Kathy Kinney, who blog and write books about claiming happiness in midlife at http://QueenofYourOwnLife.com. All of their affirmations and digital art are original.Cindy Ratzlaff and Kathy Kinney blog and write books about claiming happiness in midlife at http://QueenofYourOwnLife.com. Alll of their affirmations and digital art are original.
She had a gift for helping and healing, which she used for everyone but herself. She decided it was time to focus her patience and healing power on herself. Cause the truth was she couldn’t really help anyone else until she helped herself. – Queenisms™

All you caretakers out there know this is true. You know that when you are depleted, you are no good to others. But we continue to run ourselves ragged until we run screaming from the house declaring that “we’ve had it.”  So how can we turn our attention to ourselves without feeling selfish? One way is to put ourselves on our own, very long to do list. We’re serious. Schedule an appointment with yourself. Guard the time in the same way you would a doctor’s appointment. You don’t need to tell others that your appointment is with yourself. Simply decline all other invitations or requests during this all important appointment. Can you try that for us? Schedule one daily appointment with yourself and consider it to be something that cannot be cancelled or rescheduled. Do not cancel on yourself.

Wave Goodbye to Regret

Tuesday, August 26th, 2014

Cindy Ratzlaff and Kathy Kinney blog and write books about claiming happiness in midlife at http://QueenofYourOwnLife.com. Alll of their affirmations and digital art are original.

She took one last look over her shoulder and waved goodbye to regret, fear and shame. Then she turned herself toward the sun and let out a whoop of joy to celebrate whatever came next.
~ Queenisms™

When we’re constantly looking over our shoulders at the past, bogged down by regret and shame, we are unable to see the joy just around the next corner. We’d like to hear a resounding chorus of whooping from the Queendom. What comes next for you?

Banish Poppycock

Tuesday, August 19th, 2014

Kathy Kinney and Cindy Ratzlaff create daily inspirational quotes and vintage images at http://QueenofYourOwnLife.com

She had a built in nonsense barometer to help her set strong boundaries. She had no time for poppycock or hogwash. Drama was for movies, not for real life.~ Queenisms™

We all have that built in barometer but we forget to access that inner knowledge. When the hair stands up on the back of your neck, pay attention. When something seems “not quite right,” pay attention. When you have a slight feeling of dragging your feet about spending time in the company of certain people, pay attention. Life is short. Spend it with others who value the delights of calm and peace.

Be Not a Victim of Snarkiness

Monday, August 18th, 2014

Kathy Kinney and Cindy Ratzlaff are the authors and artists behind Queenisms, a trademark of Queen of Your Own Life.

She was done being the thin-skinned victim of other people’s snarkiness and unkind words. No one could hurt her feelings unless she let them so she decided she wasn’t going to let them. She was the strong and resilient Queen of her own life. – Queenisms™

We’re not saying you can’t be hurt by the sharp words of unkind people. We’re saying you can choose how you react. You can allow those words to bounce around in your brain and take you to a dark place or you can take away their power. We like to say to ourselves: “Well that hurt. But I know these words to be untrue. I will not give them another moment of power over me.” Then give yourself permission to see that people who spread negative words are often wounded, hurt and suffering themselves.

Are you able to take away the power of hurtful words?

Flaunt It

Sunday, August 17th, 2014

Queenisms are original quotes and inspirational posts by Kathy Kinney and Cindy Ratzlaff.

She had a delightfully sassy attitude and the good sense to flaunt it. Life was too short to be anyone other than herself. So she surrounded herself with people who appreciated her for exactly who she was. ~ Queenisms™

We think a sassy attitude is one of life’s best tools. We also think you are perfect, just the way you are.

Photo: Sandy Isaacs Gonterman’s grandmother Elsie Grace Shugart

A Non-judgmental heart

Saturday, August 16th, 2014

Queenisms are original inspirtional quotes by Kathy Kinney and Cindy Ratzlaff

Her philosophy was simple. A judgmental heart was contrary to a joyful life. She preferred to illuminate the good she saw in others. And, everyone who crossed her path felt a bit shinier as a result. ~ Queenisms™

Christina told us her gran was a teacher who believed in the bright possibilities in every student. We feel the same about you. You all have the ability to do, be or become the powerful, positive women we already see in you. Go be shiny.

Photo: Christina Vairin’s adopted Gran, Cheryl Anne Marshall.