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Trust Your Instincts

Saturday, May 20th, 2017

Some things were worth mending, and some had worn too thin to repair. Experience had taught her to trust her instincts on which was which. - Queenisms™

Some things were worth mending, and some had worn too thin to repair. Experience had taught her to trust her instincts on which was which. – Queenisms™

Experience is what shapes us and makes us who we are.  It’s invaluable when making decisions and when you combine that with instinct, it’s like having a built in compass to happiness.  We like to call instinct our Queen Voice.  It’s the strong but quiet voice that tells you this person, place or thing is not good for you.  We all have this voice but the key step is using your experience as a guide and actually listening to what the voice is saying and then giving yourself the gift of following the advice.  It takes a bit of practice but it is so worth it.

You Deserve A Gold Medal Every Day

Wednesday, August 24th, 2016

She awarded herself a gold medal for showing up every day. She had earned it. - Queenisms™

She awarded herself a gold medal for showing up every day. She had earned it. – Queenisms™

There have been days when the thought of getting out of bed in the morning and facing the day seems like the hardest thing we have ever had to do – but we do it anyway.  We think of something that makes us laugh, we straighten our crown, take a deep breath and head for the coffee maker.  It takes courage, love and a strong sense of responsibility to show up every day and be the best woman, mother, sister, friend or co-worker we can be.  Tomorrow when you wake up imagine slipping that gold medal on and bravely get out of bed ready for the adventure that is your day.

Hold the Mirror for Your Friends

Thursday, March 26th, 2015

She held a mirror so her friend could see the funny, smart, kind, courageous, and loving woman she truly was. And her friend did the same for her. - Queenisms™

She held a mirror so her friend could see the funny, smart, kind, courageous, and loving woman she truly was. And her friend did the same for her. – Queenisms™

Frequently we say “to have such a friend, be such a friend.” And people always say to us “I am but no one is that kind of friend to me.” Which really means “how, do I do this?” Our answer is simple. Stop thinking about what you’ll get in return and simply show up, be yourself and value your own friendship.

OK, we lied. Doing all that isn’t simple. It’s easy to slip into adding your own agenda to your “advice” to your friend. It’s easy to try to solve their problems rather than listen to them and ask our friend to tell us what they truly want – and then just listen. And finally, it’s easier to keep giving in a one sided relationship than to admit we’ve invested time and energy into a friendship that isn’t really a friendship. So this week we asking you to practice listening to your friend without giving advice, practice asking them to tell you what their heart is telling them and finally, practice asking yourself if they do the same for you. If they do, give them a hug, tell them how much their friendship means to you and celebrate.

Surprise! You’re Enough

Tuesday, March 24th, 2015

She'd spent her whole life trying to lose weight, gain confidence or stay ahead of the competition. Imagine her surprise when she realized she was good enough - just the way she was! - Queenisms™

She’d spent her whole life trying to lose weight, gain confidence or stay ahead of the competition. Imagine her surprise when she realized she was good enough – just the way she was! – Queenisms™

We have to admit that we write these daily Queenisms for ourselves and we’re just pleased as punch when they speak to you as well. We still have moments of regret when we realize how long it took us to figure out we were enough – just the way we are. But that regret is now just a tiny moment and then we’re able to get on with it and enjoy who we are, who we’ve become and to see the possibilities of who we may be in the future. (more…)

Queen of Balance

Monday, March 23rd, 2015

Life came at her everyday but she remained upright. She was the Queen of balance. - Queenisms™

Life came at her everyday but she remained upright. She was the Queen of balance. – Queenisms™

Admit it. Sometimes life feels like a high wire act and frankly we’re not always dressed for that. We tiptoe around challenges, we carefully navigate the narrow path that takes us from where we are to where we want to go, we try not to look down and get too scared of the fall. But let’s just pause for a moment and look at the evidence of your brilliant balancing act. (more…)

Be Mischievous

Sunday, March 22nd, 2015

She was feeling mischievous. So she let her goofy side out to play. - Queenisms™

She was feeling mischievous. So she let her goofy side out to play. – Queenisms™

There is something about being playful, and mischievous, that brings a smile to our faces. We’d like to encourage you all to tap into your inner imp and do something silly, wonderful, playful, sassy and just play mischievous today. Impish, sassy, goofy, silly or mischievous? You decide but please don’t shut down your playful self. What will you do? We could use a chuckle, so please share.

How to Be Lucky

Tuesday, March 17th, 2015

People said she was lucky. She knew it was simply that she was the kind of woman who could walk through her fear one tiny step at a time. - Queenisms™

People said she was lucky. She knew it was simply that she was the kind of woman who could walk through her fear one tiny step at a time. – Queenisms™

Happy St. Patrick’s Day Queens. We hear people say, all the time, “Oh she’s so lucky.” But what we know for sure (to borrow a phrase from Oprah herself) is that luck rarely has anything to do with happiness or success. (more…)

Let Those People Go

Monday, March 16th, 2015

She had the courage to gently, but firmly, let go of the people in her life that did not treat her well. - Queenisms™

She had the courage to gently, but firmly, let go of the people in her life that did not treat her well. – Queenisms™

Remember when the good witch tells Dorothy she had the power to go home, all along? Well you have had the power, all along, to make your lives simpler, gentler, less stressful and more joyful simply by doing a little boundary setting and friendship housekeeping.

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Please Buy Yourself Flowers Today

Tuesday, March 3rd, 2015

She bought herself flowers for no darned good reason - except they were beautiful and she deserved more beauty in her life. - Queenisms™

She bought herself flowers for no darned good reason – except they were beautiful and she deserved more beauty in her life. – Queenisms™

When is the last time you bought yourself flowers? We’re not asking when is the last time you wanted to or thought about buying yourself flowers. We’re asking when is the last time you actually plopped down some money and bought yourself flowers.

Here’s why we’re asking. Flowers are one of those completely unnecessary, totally optional things in life. They make nearly everyone smile. They can be purchased for a very small amount of money (we recently bought a lovely bouquet at a local grocery store for $2.99) and yet somehow we don’t often buy them for ourselves. We think flowers represent a mindset of either waiting for someone else to give us something that makes us happy or thinking that making ourselves happy is frivolous. We’d like to challenge you to do something this week. Buy yourself flowers and then write yourself a thank you note. And, please let us know how you felt. We’d love to see pictures of your flowers or a copy of your thank you note either here or on our Facebook page. Let’s do something very nice for someone this week – ourselves.

You Have Choices

Tuesday, February 24th, 2015

She made the decision to stop feeling trapped by her choices. She had the ability to make new choices and she was going to practice that skill until she was an expert at it. - Queenisms™

She made the decision to stop feeling trapped by her choices. She had the ability to make new choices and she was going to practice that skill until she was an expert at it. – Queenisms™

You didn’t learn to ride a bike by just hopping on and riding off into the sunset. You practiced. You fell and you got back up and tried again. You were motivated to succeed because riding a bike exhilarating. Most likely you were scared but you tried anyway. That’s what making new choices is like. It’s scary. You’ll fall. And, you’ll need to practice. But the exhilarating feeling you’ll get from learning what you can accomplish when you practice – priceless. Every skill worth achieving takes practice, from bike riding to piano playing to conscious decision making. What new choices will you practice making this week?