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There’s Always More

Friday, November 17th, 2017

She never lost hope. Her life experience had taught her to hang on because there is always something more. - Queenisms™

She never lost hope. Her life experience had taught her to hang on because there is always something more. – Queenisms™

We’ve all been through so much and always come out the other side.  Let’s lean on our experience to give us the hope we need when times get dark, keeping in mind there is always something more.

Normal Is Overrated

Thursday, August 25th, 2016

She looked in the mirror and told herself, "Normal is overrated." Then she chuckled and went about her day." - Queenisms™

She looked in the mirror and told herself, “Normal is overrated.” Then she chuckled and went about her day.” – Queenisms™

How many times in our lives have we tried to “fit in.”  The incredible number of things about ourselves that we have tried to change – hair color, size, clothing and even the way we laughed – just so we could be more “normal”!  We got the message a hundred different ways that we weren’t good enough the way we were but, in the end, we just got tired of living with all that self-hate.   We all have our own “normal” but remember “normal” is just a word – not a way of life!

Think Of Life As An Exhilarating and Entertaining Ride

Saturday, August 6th, 2016

She decided to think of her life as an exhilarating and entertaining ride. So she bought herself a ticket, buckled her seatbelt and shouted, “WHEEE!” - Queenisms™

She decided to think of her life as an exhilarating and entertaining ride. So she bought herself a ticket, buckled her seatbelt and shouted, “WHEEE!” – Queenisms™

One day we realized that it was our choice how we viewed our lives. We could hold our breath always waiting for the other shoe to drop or we could see life for what it is – an exhilarating and entertaining adventure. We made the choice right then and there for adventure!  We believe that we are brave enough to handle it all and we believe you are strong and brave enough as well.  So why not get your ticket. buckle your seat belt and join us in shouting, “Wheee!”

The Gift of Help

Monday, August 24th, 2015

She was always available to help others. Now it was time for her to discover how to let others help her. It was a gift that went both ways. - Queenisms™

She was always available to help others. Now it was time for her to discover how to let others help her. It was a gift that went both ways. – Queenisms™

Are you as comfortable receiving as you are giving? So many of us would bend over backwards for other people and yet, when the time comes that we could use help, it never occurs to us to ask for it. Is it that we’re afraid to be perceived as weak? Or is it because we don’t trust that the help would be there if we asked and we’re trying to protect ourselves from disappointment? We suspect for many, it is the later. Yet when we don’t allow others to be of service, to help us when we need it, we’re keeping intimate friendship at arms length. Having the courage to be vulnerable and ask for help can open up our hearts to a new level of relationship with friends. Now there may be times when we ask and we are disappointed. But we suspect there will be more times when the kindness of our inner circle will humble us and enrich our lives beyond imagination. Allowing ourselves to be vulnerable enough to ask for help is an act of courage and of trust.

Curves Ahead – Enjoy the Ride

Tuesday, May 5th, 2015

She didn't have a clue what was around the next curve in the road. But she was brave enough to take the ride anyway, and she liked that about herself. - Queenisms™

She didn’t have a clue what was around the next curve in the road. But she was brave enough to take the ride anyway, and she liked that about herself. – Queenisms™

Truth is, none of us know what’s around the next curve in the road. Yet, we get up every day, put on our shoes and point our feet forward. We move forward through pain, fear, ambivalence, frustration, or whatever happens to be present in our lives at the moment. Some of us even carry the burden of past experiences that is so heavy it still feels like it’s in the present moment. But we move forward. Some days it feels like we crawl forward and some days we run. We salute you for this and want you to take a moment to thank yourself. Doing what needs doing while hurt, frightened, or sad is very brave. We don’t often take the time to realize that the ability to do so is one of our gifts – something to be celebrated. We call it resilience and resilience means you can bounce back from even the worst stumble, forge a new path and drive on.Not only do you drive on, Queens, but we see many of you enjoying the ride and celebrating your resilience! THAT warms our hearts.

We admire the resilience we see in those of you who tell us your stories every day. You inspire us. So let’s take the time today to make a mental or even physical list of moments when we didn’t think we could go on or the odds were stacked against us but we kept going and came out the other side. That list is proof that you are a very brave person and we like that about you!

Hold the Mirror for Your Friends

Thursday, March 26th, 2015

She held a mirror so her friend could see the funny, smart, kind, courageous, and loving woman she truly was. And her friend did the same for her. - Queenisms™

She held a mirror so her friend could see the funny, smart, kind, courageous, and loving woman she truly was. And her friend did the same for her. – Queenisms™

Frequently we say “to have such a friend, be such a friend.” And people always say to us “I am but no one is that kind of friend to me.” Which really means “how, do I do this?” Our answer is simple. Stop thinking about what you’ll get in return and simply show up, be yourself and value your own friendship.

OK, we lied. Doing all that isn’t simple. It’s easy to slip into adding your own agenda to your “advice” to your friend. It’s easy to try to solve their problems rather than listen to them and ask our friend to tell us what they truly want – and then just listen. And finally, it’s easier to keep giving in a one sided relationship than to admit we’ve invested time and energy into a friendship that isn’t really a friendship. So this week we asking you to practice listening to your friend without giving advice, practice asking them to tell you what their heart is telling them and finally, practice asking yourself if they do the same for you. If they do, give them a hug, tell them how much their friendship means to you and celebrate.

Surprise! You’re Enough

Tuesday, March 24th, 2015

She'd spent her whole life trying to lose weight, gain confidence or stay ahead of the competition. Imagine her surprise when she realized she was good enough - just the way she was! - Queenisms™

She’d spent her whole life trying to lose weight, gain confidence or stay ahead of the competition. Imagine her surprise when she realized she was good enough – just the way she was! – Queenisms™

We have to admit that we write these daily Queenisms for ourselves and we’re just pleased as punch when they speak to you as well. We still have moments of regret when we realize how long it took us to figure out we were enough – just the way we are. But that regret is now just a tiny moment and then we’re able to get on with it and enjoy who we are, who we’ve become and to see the possibilities of who we may be in the future. (more…)

Queen of Balance

Monday, March 23rd, 2015

Life came at her everyday but she remained upright. She was the Queen of balance. - Queenisms™

Life came at her everyday but she remained upright. She was the Queen of balance. – Queenisms™

Admit it. Sometimes life feels like a high wire act and frankly we’re not always dressed for that. We tiptoe around challenges, we carefully navigate the narrow path that takes us from where we are to where we want to go, we try not to look down and get too scared of the fall. But let’s just pause for a moment and look at the evidence of your brilliant balancing act. (more…)

Be Mischievous

Sunday, March 22nd, 2015

She was feeling mischievous. So she let her goofy side out to play. - Queenisms™

She was feeling mischievous. So she let her goofy side out to play. – Queenisms™

There is something about being playful, and mischievous, that brings a smile to our faces. We’d like to encourage you all to tap into your inner imp and do something silly, wonderful, playful, sassy and just play mischievous today. Impish, sassy, goofy, silly or mischievous? You decide but please don’t shut down your playful self. What will you do? We could use a chuckle, so please share.

How to Be Lucky

Tuesday, March 17th, 2015

People said she was lucky. She knew it was simply that she was the kind of woman who could walk through her fear one tiny step at a time. - Queenisms™

People said she was lucky. She knew it was simply that she was the kind of woman who could walk through her fear one tiny step at a time. – Queenisms™

Happy St. Patrick’s Day Queens. We hear people say, all the time, “Oh she’s so lucky.” But what we know for sure (to borrow a phrase from Oprah herself) is that luck rarely has anything to do with happiness or success. (more…)