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Sharing Laughter

Saturday, September 16th, 2017

Oh sure, she had some regrets. But making people laugh was not one of them. Queenisms™

Oh sure, she had some regrets. But making people laugh was not one of them. Queenisms™

No regrets, just always keeping in mind that laughter is the best medicine and sharing it with all we come in contact with!

Give Yourself What You Give Others

Thursday, September 14th, 2017

She decided to practice loving herself completely and unconditionally. It was time for her to give to herself what she so freely gave to her family and friends. - Queenisms™

She decided to practice loving herself completely and unconditionally. It was time for her to give to herself what she so freely gave to her family and friends. – Queenisms™

We give love and support to our family, friends, pets and even strangers but are we as quick to give it to ourselves?  It’s time for us to start treating ourselves with the love and kindness we give others because if we don’t do it, who will?  Try looking in the mirror, make eye contact and say, ” I love you and I have your back.”  You may feel a bit silly but it’s very effective.

Fresh New Start

Wednesday, May 3rd, 2017

Brand new day. Fresh new chance. She took a deep breath and started again. - Queenisms™

Brand new day. Fresh new chance. She took a deep breath and started again. – Queenisms™

Each day is a new beginning and there is no limit to how many times we can begin again.  The key is to not beat ourselves up for needing or wanting to start over.  We learn an equal amount from success and failure so we shouldn’t be afraid to experience both.  If we truly understand that it’s our ego that is brittle and that our spirit is endlessly resilient we wouldn’t be afraid to begin a new adventure every day.

Liking Yourself Is What Matters

Saturday, October 1st, 2016

 

She finally got that it didn't matter what other people thought of her. It mattered what she thought of herself. Phew! – Queenisms™

She finally got that it didn’t matter what other people thought of her. It mattered what she thought of herself. Phew! – Queenisms

We used to be so wounded when someone didn’t like us.  We always bent over backwards to make sure everybody liked us but the truth is we have no control over what other’s say or think.  When we realized that the only opinion that really mattered was how we felt about ourselves we set ourselves free.  Of course that’s when the real work began.  Loving and admiring yourself is your birthright but years of judgement sometimes make it difficult to give yourself this gift.  We use positive affirmations to help erase the old negative thoughts.  Here’s one of our favorites, “I am valuable and worthy all of the good things that come my way.”  What’s your favorite affirmation?

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You Are Worth It

Thursday, September 15th, 2016

She wrote herself a note and tucked it into her pocket to pull out whenever she needed it most.  It read: Dear Me,  That thing you've been dreaming about doing ... do it.  You are worth the risk.  Love, Me - Queenisms™

She wrote herself a note and tucked it into her pocket to pull out whenever she needed it most.  It read: Dear Me,  That thing you’ve been dreaming about doing … do it.  You are worth the risk.  Love, Me – Queenisms™

The fear that kept us from pursuing our dreams was paralyzing.  We just didn’t want to live that way anymore and we realized that it was better to try than to have never tried at all. When we looked around we found that the women we admired most had failed, laughed, got up and tried again – over and over.   Self encouragement and walking through the fear with little tiny steps is what works for us.  We are so worth it and so are you.

Treat Yourself With Kindness

Friday, August 19th, 2016

 

She wanted to say thank you for the kindness and the encouragement. So she bought herself some flowers. - Queenisms™

She wanted to say thank you for the kindness and the encouragement. So she bought herself some flowers. – Queenisms™

In the past we’ve been kinder to total strangers than we have been to ourselves!  We are always available with a kind word or gesture to family and friends but the truth is we have often put ourselves at the bottom of the list.  We decided it was time to treat ourselves with kindness and encouragement because if we didn’t do it, how would others know how to treat us!  We wanted to send a message to ourselves and others that we were loved and cherished.  The simple gift of a flower bought, or cut from the garden, says it all.  Don’t you deserve to give yourself a gift today?

All You Can Do Is Your Best

Monday, August 8th, 2016

She always felt like she never did enough. One day she remembered a quote someone had read to her, “All you can do is the best you know how.” She decided to stop beating herself up for what she didn’t know and start enjoying herself the way she was. It was a good decision. - Queenisms™

She always felt like she never did enough. One day she remembered a quote someone had read to her, “All you can do is the best you know how.” She decided to stop beating herself up for what she didn’t know and start enjoying herself the way she was. It was a good decision. – Queenisms

Trying to be perfect is not compatible with being a human being!  Sometimes we have so many things we think we need to accomplish each day in order to feel good about ourselves.  The truth is we can be happy without being perfect.  Here’s what we do – if you have 5 things you think you need to get done – let go of 2 of them and spend the free time enjoying your friends and family.  Letting go of perfection is always a good decision.

Open the Door to Happiness

Wednesday, August 3rd, 2016

She took a deep breath, thanked herself for all she did to survive, let go of the anger that was holding her back and imagined herself opening the door to happiness. Busy day. - Queenisms™

She took a deep breath, thanked herself for all she did to survive, let go of the anger that was holding her back and imagined herself opening the door to happiness. Busy day. – Queenisms™

Thank yourself. What a simple thing to do and yet we rarely do it. If you are reading this now, we know you are a survivor, a seeker, a reader and someone who longs to surround themselves with more positive people and messages. That anger we attach to people, places, things, actions, intentions and memories can truly be a stumbling block on our quest for happiness. Our anger does not repair the hurt. Our anger does not punish the injuring party. Our anger harms us and we need actively seek ways to let it pass through us and out the open door. We need to make room for happiness.

Thanking yourself can seem hokey at first. We find that looking at ourselves in the mirror and saying the words “thank you,” out loud works for us. When we first started doing this it felt a bit foolish but we practiced. Eventually the ritual of thanking ourselves became a natural thing to do. If you can’t or don’t want to thank yourself out loud, why not try writing yourself a note or several notes. Put a post it note on your bathroom mirror. Jot a lovely note to yourself and keep it near your computer. Start a journal and say kind things to yourself. Set an alarm on your phone and when it rings, stop for five minutes and silently thank yourself.

So take a deep breath right now and thank yourself. You’re sweeping your own mental closets of anger, and opening up space for happiness, and we think that makes you simply awesome.

 

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New Queenisms book and calendar!

Tuesday, November 3rd, 2015

Queen of Your Own Life 2016 calendar and the brand new Queen of Your Own Life gift book are now on sale.

The all-new 2016 Queen of Your Own Life gift book and 2016 page-a-day calendar are now on sale at both Amazon and Barnes & Noble and we could not be prouder. We’d like to shout it from the mountain tops because they are so pretty. Our publisher did an amazing job and we are utterly thrilled. Please take a look and let us know what you think. We admit it. We’re begging for a little praise. Here are direct links to each one for your convenience. Tell everyone you know and thank you for helping us spread the word.

Queen Gift Book on Amazon.com

Queenisms Calendar on Amazon.com

Queen Gift Book on Barnes and Noble

Queen Calendar on Barnes and Noble

UnCommon Sense of Humor

Monday, October 5th, 2015

She finally celebrated who she was - a hard working woman with good common sense and a great sense of humor. - Queenisms™

She finally celebrated who she was – a hard working woman with good common sense and a great sense of humor. – Queenisms™

It still surprises us that common sense is, well, uncommon. But what surprises us even more is that a sense of humor seems to be something we lose at the first sign of trouble or difficulty. In looking at the darkest or hardest times we’ve gone through, a sense of humor has helped nudge us through to a lighter, more peaceful place. We value humor in our friends as one of our core values. We choose our partnerships based on having a great sense of humor. We feel we’d be lost without the ability to find the ironic, humorous or light moments in every day. To us, it’s just common sense. We’re meant for joy. Happiness is our natural state. Humor is so often a pathway to joy. Are you able to find the funny in even the darkest day?