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There’s Never Enough Time

Thursday, December 10th, 2015

There were never enough hours in the day to do all the things that were whirling around in her head. But she suspected that was the lot of every intelligent, creative woman. - Queenisms™

There were never enough hours in the day to do all the things that were whirling around in her head. But she suspected that was the lot of every intelligent, creative woman. – Queenisms™

We see you out there with a million things whirling around in your heads! And we know there’s never, ever going to be enough time to do all the things you can imagine doing. It makes us giggle because you are not alone. We all fall victim to this. We’ve got brilliant ideas, but we get bogged down in the doing. Just for today, let’s throw our hands in the air and dance and laugh and sing and say to ourselves, “thank goodness I have so many wonderful ideas. What a joy it is to be an intelligent, creative woman.” Tomorrow we can all go back to fretting because we have three unfinished quilts and we’ve decided to take up knitting.

A heck of a lot more fun

Sunday, July 20th, 2014

Kathy Kinney and Cindy Ratzlaff are the inspirational authors of Queenisns: 101 Jolts of Inspiration and Queen of Your Own Life, both trademarks of their company, Two Belles LLC. All rights reserved so please share but don’t copy and paste as your own. Pinning is encouraged.

It can be exhausting trying to monitor the thoughts and actions of everyone around us. We’ve got a checklist in our heads of how they should act, when they should help, how they should know when to back off and what they should think. But, of course, the truth is we have no control – WHATSOEVER – over anything they think, do or say. If you’ve raised children, you’ll be aware of the moment you realized they had independent thoughts and later on, realized they were making choices without us. This is the natural way of things in parenting and it’s a good reminder that people are independent of one another even as we crave community with one another. When we lash ourselves to someone we want to change or control, we’re conversely putting our own needs and desires aside to focus on the person we want to change. This, in our humble opinion, is not a good use of our time and will lead to a feeling of having failed. Focusing on ourselves, our passions, our joys and our hopes will give us a far better outcome and a little clarity on the futility of playing on a playground filled with bullies or naysayers when there’s another lovely playground right around the corner. Play more, Queens, with people who enjoy your company.

Integrity, Kindness and Love For Yourself

Saturday, July 19th, 2014

Kathy Kinney and Cindy Ratzlaff are the inspirational authors of Queenisns: 101 Jolts of Inspiration and Queen of Your Own Life, both trademarks of their company, Two Belles LLC. All rights reserved but pinning is encouraged.

It seems to us that self-love must form the basis for a life lived with integrity and kindness for how can we love others if we loath ourselves. Each of us needs to do the work required to forgive ourselves for perceived errors, flaws and past actions and come to a place in which we can hold ourselves in high regard. It is from that place we can look around and notice the good qualities in others, forgive their minor flaws, discern which people we want to invite into our inner circle of friendship and which ones we should just smile and let walk away so they can find their own authentic circle of friends. Are you with us? Forgiveness is mandatory; not easy but mandatory.

Dare to Have a Curious Mind

Friday, July 18th, 2014

Kathy Kinney and Cindy Ratzlaff are the inspirational authors of Queenisns: 101 Jolts of Inspiration and Queen of Your Own Life, both trademarks of their company, Two Belles LLC. All rights reserved but pinning is encouraged.

A curious mind is a thing of beauty. You know we harp all the time on the fact that life is a journey. Well that journey takes us to many places. Some of those places have views from the mountaintop that are breathtaking, but some of those places are at the bottom of a deep, dark pit. We have to take the good with the bad. Nobody, and let us repeat this for clarity, nobody has a perfect life. Everyone will experience ups and downs. You do not hold the franchise on this. You are also not alone. Every woman you meet is carrying a burden, seen or unseen. “Well that doesn’t help me at all,” you might be thinking, and you’d be right. When we’re in the pits, we can’t help but feel down. But tap into that curiosity and see what happens.  Your conversation with yourself might go something like this:

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Labeling Our Lives As Difficult

Wednesday, July 16th, 2014

Kathy Kinney and Cindy Ratzlaff are the authors of Queenisns: 101 Jolts of Inspiration and Queen of Your Own Life, both trademarks of their company, Two Belles LLC. All rights reserved but pinning is encouraged.

Do you constantly give yourself the message that “life is so hard?” When we label ourselves, our experiences and our entire lives as a struggle, we put ourselves in a mindset to meet every new moment as though we’re doing battle. We become defensive, frightened, hardened and battle weary. Rephrasing the experience to ourselves can help. Our brains take in every bit of language we hear and we are changed by words. Let’s use that information to our advantage and help, not hurt ourselves with words. Let’s change the message from struggle to a rip-roaring adventure, shall we?

Be Heroic

Tuesday, July 15th, 2014

Kathy Kinney and Cindy Ratzlaff create original inspirational pieces daily. Queenisms is a trademarked phrase and pinning is encouraged. Photo: National Archives - Women's Land Army, WWII

She got up every morning and performed heroic deeds, simply by doing what needed to be done. ~ Queenisms™

So do you, and so does every woman. We put our aches and pains and fears aside and we do what needs to be done. We go to a job, we put food on the table, we care for our families and for some of us, just getting out of bed is the same challenge as someone climbing a mountain. If doing what needs to be done each day seems easy for you, stop for a moment and think about just how much you do. We believe it’s an impressive feat and we honor you today, Queens. Bravo. Now give yourselves a hand.

Photo: National Archives – Women’s Land Army, WWII

Love and Understanding

Monday, July 14th, 2014

Original affirmations by authors Kathy Kinney and Cindy Ratzlaff. All rights reserved. http://QueenofYourOwnLife.com

She woke up with anxiety but felt immediate relief when she remembered that she was in charge of how to react to people, places and things. She decided that today she would respond to everyone with understanding, love and a sense of fun – including herself. – Queenisms™

Why are we so quick to give love and understanding to others, but so slow to give it to ourselves. Look in the mirror today and repeat after us: “I understand you are doing the best you can, today. I admire you for that and I support and love you.”

Affirmations are powerful exercises where we imprint new thinking onto our brains and they really work. No matter how foolish you may feel at talking to yourself, please give this a try, and another try, and another. We can attest, personally, to the transformational qualities of retraining your brain to hear positive messages from you, about you and we offer this exercise to you.

What She Saw

Tuesday, July 8th, 2014

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She did not ask for permission to make her dreams come true, nor did she wait for others to share her confidence in the path she’d set for herself. She knew the right people would catch up eventually.
~ Queenisms™

Don’t you just wonder what she saw with those big brown eyes?  It does not matter if others see what you see. Your vision is unique to you and for you. You are the sum of your entire life experience, both the good and the bad. No one has that precise combination of experiences so how could they possibly see your path the way you see it? When we wait for permission or approval or support, sometimes we sit on the sidelines of our own lives. The only approval you really need is your own. And if you become practiced in asking yourself what you truly want to invest your time and heart in, then you’ll find your own navigation system works pretty darned well.

Be a Warrior Queen

Monday, July 7th, 2014

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She could be gentle, kind and loving but let no one be fooled – she was a Warrior Queen who had the strength and courage to conquer all that life tossed her way. – Queenisms™

A warrior queen is a woman who does not accept no for an answer when the answer is so important to her family, friends and to herself. She does battle when the stakes are high. She stands up for those who have no voice. She has found her own voice and uses it for good.

You know who you are. You do battle for your loved ones and for yourself on a daily basis. You stand up for what’s right, you push to make sure your concerns are heard and you work hard to right the wrongs, intentional or unintentional, that come up in life’s journey. You are our hero, today, Warrior Queen.

The Courage to Ask

Sunday, July 6th, 2014

Queenisms are original works by authors Kathy Kinney and Cindy Ratzlaff. All rights reserved but Pinning is encouraged.

She challenged the status quo by asking herself radical questions like “what once worked for me but no longer serves my needs and should be banished?” And, “what do I love about myself that I want to amplify and nurture?” The answers helped her make the decisions and take the actions that brought peace and joy into her life. She was a woman of great courage. ~ Queenisms™

These are questions we ask ourselves regularly. In part because the answers change with our desires, stage of life and our circumstances. But also because we develop amnesia. We forget that we have to choose what to keep and what to banish. We fall into the trap of letting life happen to us or living someone’s dream besides our own. Dare to ask yourself questions often. Then have the courage to sit quietly and wait for the answers, from you.