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Queen of Your Own Life

Stop Defining Life And Live

September 19th, 2016

. One day she realized she was wasting her time defining her experiences as good or bad. It was all just life. She decided to use that time to instead remind herself that she was brave, strong and creative enough to handle anything. – Queenisms™

One day she realized she was wasting her time defining her experiences as good or bad. It was all just life. She decided to use that time to instead remind herself that she was brave, strong and creative enough to handle anything. – Queenisms™

When we stopped and looked back over our lives (we call it a “windy mountain moment” in our book), we realized that labeling our experiences good or bad was foolish.  Things that we had dreamed for had sometimes been horrible and situations that we thought were going to destroy us turned out to be major turning points to grace and joy.  Life is just life and we think it’s a waste of time to add the labels, how about you?

Make Friends With Your Dust Bunnies

September 18th, 2016

- Queenisms™

She had a couple of pet dust bunnies, and frankly, she could live with that. – Queenisms™

Who doesn’t love a clean home but, in the end, it’s all about priorities.  We realized that if people were judging us for the herd of dust bunnies under our beds then we probably didn’t need them as friends.  Life is such a great adventure – so many things to see, do and people to meet.  Spending less time with the dust bunnies and more time out in the world giving and receiving friendship, love and happiness seems like a no brainer.  What do you think?

Choose To Not Be Invisible

September 17th, 2016

 - Queenisms™

She vowed to get her swagger back.  So she decided, from this moment on, she would not be invisible.  – Queenisms™

There was a time when we felt so battered by life that we just kept our heads down and stuck to the shadows at the edge of the room.  It happens to all of us.  The release for us was when we understood that it was our choice how to show up and meet the world each day.  Every morning we get our swagger back by reminding ourselves that we are valuable, smart, wise and worth it.  The world is a better place with you and us in it.  Don’t you agree?

A Better Quality Of Life

September 16th, 2016

Her daily motto was usually, “Hurry, Hurry, Hurry, Get It Done!” She knew she deserved a better quality of life. So she chose a new motto, “Breathe, Relax, Enjoy.”– Queenisms™

Her daily motto was usually, “Hurry, Hurry, Hurry, Get It Done!” She knew she deserved a better quality of life. So she chose a new motto, “Breathe, Relax, Enjoy.”– Queenisms

This comes up for us a lot.  We are natural worker bees and find it hard to relax until everything is done – aka perfectionists!  We usually have to remind ourselves on a daily basis what kind of life we really want.  We want to be women who are kind, loving, creative and available for friendship and love.  If you’re in hurry, hurry, hurry mode it’s way to easy to miss the most important moments of being alive.  We would love to know what’s your current motto?

You Are Worth It

September 15th, 2016

She wrote herself a note and tucked it into her pocket to pull out whenever she needed it most.  It read: Dear Me,  That thing you've been dreaming about doing ... do it.  You are worth the risk.  Love, Me - Queenisms™

She wrote herself a note and tucked it into her pocket to pull out whenever she needed it most.  It read: Dear Me,  That thing you’ve been dreaming about doing … do it.  You are worth the risk.  Love, Me – Queenisms™

The fear that kept us from pursuing our dreams was paralyzing.  We just didn’t want to live that way anymore and we realized that it was better to try than to have never tried at all. When we looked around we found that the women we admired most had failed, laughed, got up and tried again – over and over.   Self encouragement and walking through the fear with little tiny steps is what works for us.  We are so worth it and so are you.

See The World In Vibrant Color

September 14th, 2016

Others might see things as black and white but she chose to see the world in vibrant color. – Queenisms™

Others might see things as black and white but she chose to see the world in vibrant color. – Queenisms

When we were younger, we both lived in New York City while we were building our careers.  There seemed to be an unwritten rule that you could only wear black or white – not even navy blue – just black or black and white.  It made it easy to get dressed in the morning but it made for a boring life.  As we got older we not only began adding color to our wardrobes but we began to see all the shades of gray, white and rainbow hues that made living life such a fun adventure.  Are you a black and white kind of gal or do you live in vibrant color?

Happiness Is A Simple Skill

September 13th, 2016

She was delighted when she realized that happiness was a simple skill she could easily learn and practice daily. Woo hoo! – Queenisms™

She was delighted when she realized that happiness was a simple skill she could easily learn and practice daily. Woo hoo! – Queenisms

We always thought that being happy was something that everyone was born knowing how to do.  It wasn’t until we were older that we realized it was a skill – easy to learn and easy to practice.  Being happy is a choice we get to make everyday.  When we wake up we start reminding ourselves of the things we have to be happy about – the first one is always, “I woke up!”  Queen Kathy is always grateful for her teeth and Queen Cindy is happy she has hair and a brush to use on it.  It’s an easy list and fun to do.  What is the first thing you’re happy about when you wake up in the morning?

Share A Smile

September 12th, 2016

Sometimes she ran around like a chicken with its head cut off. She decided to take a few moments today to relax and share a smile with someone she cared about. - Queenisms™

Sometimes she ran around like a chicken with its head cut off. She decided to take a few moments today to relax and share a smile with someone she cared about. – Queenisms

Today was a perfect example of this Queenism!  We create and post a new Queenism on Facebook every day of the year and it’s a lot of work combined with the energy it takes just to live our lives!  We were moving so fast today that we added an extra apostrophe and forgot to add our logo and trademark. Luckily we have many members of the “grammar police” who follow us on Facebook and they are happy to point out our errors.  We chose to relax, share a smile with them and make the corrections.  Life doesn’t have to be so hard, wouldn’t you agree?

 

Gathering The Courage to Change

September 11th, 2016

When the pain of staying the same became greater than the fear of change, she put on her big girl bloomers, took a deep breath and forged ahead on her next big adventure.   - Queenisms™

When the pain of staying the same became greater than the fear of change, she put on her big girl bloomers, took a deep breath and forged ahead on her next big adventure.   – Queenisms™

You know it, we know it – sometimes making a change can be very scary!  We’ve been in that situation where the pain of staying the same was so intense that the only option was change or lose all hope. We have come to rely on  gentle thoughts as our guiding principal, both toward ourselves and others.  Change is going to happen whether we want it to or not.  So, using our experience as a learning tool, we rely on this affirmation, “Everything is going to be all right no matter what because I have the courage to live the heck out of this adventure.”  Let us know how you handle change?

Sometimes You Just Need A Good Friend

September 10th, 2016

Sometimes a gal just needed a good friend to listen . . . and, kittens. – Queenisms™

Sometimes a gal just needed a good friend to listen . . . and, kittens. – Queenisms™

We decided that having a trusted agenda free friend or two is the best gift we could give ourselves.  Everybody needs someone to watch them live who, when asked, “How am I doing?” will offer an answer that can be trusted – whether you like the answer or not!  If you have some trusted friends, cherish them and let them know how much you value them.  If you need a few new friends, don’t be afraid to look for them because it’s easier than you think.  We are all looking for the same thing – someone to be a good friend to so they can be a good friend to us.  Do you have a good and trusted friend?  Or some kittens? We’d love to hear about it