Queen of Your Own Life by Kathy Kinney and Cindy Ratzlaff

Queen of Your Own Life is an attitude, a way of life and a call to action for grown up women everywhere.

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Queen of Your Own Life

Open The Door To Adventure

February 20th, 2017

 

She was done waiting for the world to come to her. She decided to open the door to adventure, confident that she was woman enough to handle and enjoy it all. – Queenisms™

We have all spent a lot of time waiting for things to be perfectly aligned – but what if that never happens?  Waiting for life to happen is one way to do it but how about running out and meeting life head on?  When you eliminate fear of failing how far can you go?  We decided a long time ago that at the end of our lives we wanted to know that we had worked hard, laughed hard, made a difference and created a life of great adventure.  We believe you are woman enough to fling open the door to a fun and fulfilling life.

 

Why Not Treat Yourself?

February 17th, 2017

She was going to treat herself to a weekend of fun and relaxation. Heaven help anyone who tried to stop her. - Queenisms™

She was going to treat herself to a weekend of fun and relaxation. Heaven help anyone who tried to stop her. – Queenisms™

We all have lists as long as our arm of things that simply “must” be done.  We balance family, work and health like a professional juggler in the center ring of the circus.  Taking a small mental health vacation is a vital piece of the puzzle.  It would be nice to fly away and sun bathe on a tropical island (slathered in sun screen of course) but how about a quiet weekend at home with a good book.  Some of our favorite mini vacations are a long old black and white movie marathon or taking ourselves out to lunch and a block buster move or a long walk in the woods.  What is your favorite mini vacation?

Your Time to Stand Out

February 16th, 2017

She didn't see any good reason why she shouldn't resist the urge to conform, blend in or fade away. - Queenisms™

She didn’t see any good reason why she shouldn’t resist the urge to conform, blend in or fade away. – Queenisms™

When we were in junior high and high school it was the norm to try and fit in and be one of the crowd.  Now that we’re older it we can’t imagine why we wanted to do that.  Being yourself is such a gift and frees you up to enjoy yourself and your life.  Instead of being quiet or blending in why not share what you think.  What a good day to be what you are – a bold, colorful, valuable woman with a lot to offer.

Pick Yourself Up and Try Again

February 15th, 2017

Things hadn't worked out. So she gave herself 15 minutes to mope, sigh and mutter, "Poor me." After that she was going to pick herself up and try again. - Queenisms™

Things hadn’t worked out. So she gave herself 15 minutes to mope, sigh and mutter, “Poor me.” After that she was going to pick herself up and try again. – Queenisms™

Life throws things to overcome into our path all of the time.  If we stay in bed under the covers we lose – and life wins.  It’s okay to pull the cover over our heads for a while, everybody does it, but it’s how fast we toss them back and get out of bed that is the sign of recovery, courage and strength.  Fall down, get up; fall down, get up faster; fall down, stand up tall with a smile on your face and move gracefully on.

It’s Okay To Not Be Perfect

February 14th, 2017

By realizing that it was okay to not be perfect, she grew stronger every day. - Queenisms™

By realizing that it was okay to not be perfect, she grew stronger every day. – Queenisms™

We believe that perfectionism can be fatal to fun.  When you get buried under the details of creating a perfect event or perfect life you lose track of what’s really important – love and friendship!  We’re not talking about trying to do the best job you can at all times.  Instead we’re talking about making the plan, doing your darnedest and then letting go so you can enjoy it.  We think life wasn’t meant to be so hard.  What do you think?

Show The World What You’re Made Of

February 13th, 2017

She looked in the mirror, made eye contact with herself and said, "I love you. I always have and I always will. Now let's go show them what we're made of!" - Queenisms™

She looked in the mirror, made eye contact with herself and said, “I love you. I always have and I always will. Now let’s go show them what we’re made of!” – Queenisms™

Glancing in the mirror is something we do a lot during the day to make sure our hair isn’t standing on end or that we don’t have some lettuce stuck in our teeth.  But, when is the last time you actually stopped,  made eye contact with yourself and said how you feel about yourself?  We know it sounds corny but it can be very powerful.  Why not give it a try and see what comes up for you.  It’s a great way to focus on what’s really important, which is you.

When Life Kicks You In The Pants

February 10th, 2017

She decided that when life kicked her in the pants she was going to kick it back. - Queenisms™

She decided that when life kicked her in the pants she was going to kick it back. – Queenisms™

There are many times in our lives when we wanted to stay home in bed with the covers over our head.  Unfortunately, that usually just makes matters worse by prolonging the inevitable.  We think wallowing for a bit is necessary but the healthy part is how quickly you let it go and what you do when you stand up.  You can get knocked down and spring back up again until the cows come home.  You are so much more resilient than you know. We really like that about you.

Never Let Yourself Down

February 8th, 2017

She had promised to take care of herself and to never let herself down. She was the Queen of her own life and she was willing to work hard to keep that promise. Queenisms™

She had promised to take care of herself and to never let herself down. She was the Queen of her own life and she was willing to work hard to keep that promise. Queenisms™

It seems like a no-brainer that we would take care of ourselves but making yourself a promise to do just that is a great way to focus your energy on being good to yourself.  It always feels so good to know that there are family and friends who support you but, in the end, knowing that you have your own back is the best safety net of all. It takes a little work but you are worth it.

The Joy Of Being Yourself

February 7th, 2017

She was completely, totally, joyously, blissfully herself. She was a big gulp of fresh air. Queenisms™

She was completely, totally, joyously, blissfully herself. She was a big gulp of fresh air. Queenisms™

We live in a world where we are bombarded with the information that we are not good enough if we don’t look young, thin, wrinkle free or have a perfect figure.  It’s no wonder we find it hard to love, let alone, like ourselves!  The amount of time spent trying to be somebody we’re not is outrageous.  Giving ourselves permission to be ourselves is the key to freedom and a breath of fresh air for everyone around us.  Life doesn’t have to be so hard.

Stop Punishing Yourself

February 6th, 2017

Sometimes, to get it all done, she felt like she was moving faster than the speed of light. She decided to take a few moments during the day to stop and think about how much she had accomplished rather than punish herself for how much was left to do. Queenisms™

Sometimes, to get it all done, she felt like she was moving faster than the speed of light. She decided to take a few moments during the day to stop and think about how much she had accomplished rather than punish herself for how much was left to do. Queenisms™

Taking a few moments during the day to give yourself some positive feedback about what you’ve accomplished is a good way to calm down and relax.  Sometimes it’s hard to realize how much you’ve already done if your too busy worrying about what you still have to do.  We believe that perfectionism can be harmful to our health and learning to let go a little bit is worth the herd of dust bunnies under the bed.