Queen of Your Own Life by Kathy Kinney and Cindy Ratzlaff

Queen of Your Own Life is an attitude, a way of life and a call to action for grown up women everywhere.

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Queen of Your Own Life

Definitely Their Problem, Not Yours

June 26th, 2017

She was an intelligent, beautiful and powerful force of nature. If anyone was intimidated by her it was most definitely their problem and not hers. - Queenisms™

She was an intelligent, beautiful and powerful force of nature. If anyone was intimidated by her it was most definitely their problem and not hers. – Queenisms™

We have absolutely no control over what any one else thinks of us so we might as well just be ourselves.  Don’t you think it’s time for you to be the intelligent, beautiful and powerful woman that you were born to be?  Stop hiding who you are or worrying about what others think because if they don’t like what they see it’s not your problem it is most definitely theirs.

A Day To Do What You Want

June 25th, 2017

When that list of "should" starts rolling around in your head, take a step back and ask yourself "what do I really want to do?" - Queenisms™

When that list of “should” starts rolling around in your head, take a step back and ask yourself “what do I really want to do?” – Queenisms™

Sometimes it’s important to let go of the idea of what you need to get done and just take some time to enjoy yourself – especially when the weather is nice!  If we don’t give ourselves the gift of some time to just enjoy life, who will?  If your life looks like a long hallway filled with things you need to get done maybe it’s time to just leave the dust bunnies under your bed alone and go do what you want to do.

Get Out Of Your Own Way

June 23rd, 2017

One day it occurred to her that the only way she could fail at life was if she let her fear get in the way of doing what she needed to be happy. So she made the decision to get out of her own way. - Queenisms™

One day it occurred to her that the only way she could fail at life was if she let her fear get in the way of doing what she needed to be happy. So she made the decision to get out of her own way. – Queenisms™

It would be so much easier to blame our inability to change on everything but ourselves but truthfully, we are the problem.  When you sort through all of the puzzle pieces of why we aren’t happy it’s always because we’re afraid – afraid to fail, afraid to succeed, afraid to live and afraid to die.  Making the decision to get out of our own way and risk the adventure that is life is the most rewarding and smartest choice we can make.

What Are You Waiting For?

June 21st, 2017

She put on her bathing suit looked in the mirror and said, "Hey hot stuff, what are you waiting for, it's summertime!" - Queenisms™

She put on her bathing suit looked in the mirror and said, “Hey hot stuff, what are you waiting for, it’s summertime!” – Queenisms™

Why do we let embarrassment and self consciousness stop us from having fun.  There is so much power and freedom in just being ourselves, what are we waiting for?  Let’s put on our bathing suits and go to the beach, jump in the pool or run through the sprinkler in our backyard just like we did when we were kids.  Your body reflects the many battles you’ve been through in your life adventure.  Let’s not be afraid to proudly flaunt our battle scars like the warriors we are.

Make Positive Changes Now

June 20th, 2017

She didn't have to wait for New Year's Eve to make positive changes in her life. Every moment of every hour of every day was the perfect time to finally claim her power and become the Queen of her own life. - Queenisms™

She didn’t have to wait for New Year’s Eve to make positive changes in her life. Every moment of every hour of every day was the perfect time to finally claim her power and become the Queen of her own life. – Queenisms™

We always used to put so much power into our New Year’s Eve resolutions only to find them long gone by the middle of February, and us with another excuse to beat ourselves up.  Why not take a tiny step through the fear of change right now!  It’s your life and you have the power to make a positive change any moment of any day. What’s stopping you?

Be Your Own Brilliant Self

June 19th, 2017

She wanted everyone to like her, which caused her great anxiety. She decided to no longer pretend to be more or less than she really was. She would be her own brilliant self and that would be way more than enough. - Queenisms™

She wanted everyone to like her, which caused her great anxiety. She decided to no longer pretend to be more or less than she really was. She would be her own brilliant self and that would be way more than enough. – Queenisms™

How much time do you spend trying to be something more or less than you really are?  We work so hard to impress others and then diminish ourselves when our intelligence or power might threaten someone else.  There is such a delightful and relaxing freedom in just being ourselves.  If people don’t like you for yourself then they were never your friends to begin with.  Being our brilliant self is so way more than enough.

Life Is Short So Just Do It!

June 17th, 2017

If she'd known then what she knew now she'd have worn the dangling earrings her friends all said were just a little flashy.

If she’d known then what she knew now she’d have worn the dangling earrings her friends all said were just a little flashy.

If we only knew then what we know now, how different it all would have been.  It’s an oldie but a goody and our only response it:  Life is short. Wear the earrings! Laugh more. Be you!  Don’t you agree?

Every Day A Brand New Adventure

June 16th, 2017

She reminded herself that every day was the beginning of a brand new adventure. It was her choice to make. - Queenisms™

She reminded herself that every day was the beginning of a brand new adventure. It was her choice to make. – Queenisms™

The one thing in life we have control over is how we are going to react to each new day.  We have many choices such as cower in fear under the covers or we can wake up each morning full of resentment and carry that with us out into the world.  A wise and positive choice is to believe that each day is a new adventure and that you are the woman who is bold and brave enough to live it.  Which do you prefer – fear, resentment or adventure?  It’s your choice.

Stop Wasting Your Time

June 14th, 2017

One day she realized she was wasting her time defining her experiences as good or bad. It was all just life and she was brave, strong and creative enough to handle anything. - Queenisms™

One day she realized she was wasting her time defining her experiences as good or bad. It was all just life and she was brave, strong and creative enough to handle anything. – Queenisms™

Labeling life experiences as good or bad certainly seems like a good idea but does it really work.  How many times have gotten something that you thought was going to be wonderful only to have it turn out not so good?  The other side of that is all of the supposed bad things that have happened and ended up leading to a miraculously good outcome.  We finally realized it was time to let go of the labeling and stick to the facts – we are all brave, strong and creative enough to handle anything.

Live Life Your Way

June 12th, 2017

Her realization that there was no right way or wrong way to live life set her free. She tossed out her out-dated rule book and finally began to live. - Queenisms™

Her realization that there was no right way or wrong way to live life set her free. She tossed out her out-dated rule book and finally began to live. – Queenisms™

We have all grown up with lot’s of rules – don’t run with scissors or you’ll fall and poke your eye out, don’t lean your chair back too far or you’ll fall and hit your head, etc!  There are a lot of good rules that have kept us safe but the idea that there is a rule book to follow that tells us the right or wrong way to live life is not true.  It’s time to toss out the old rule book and celebrate the life you are living.  It’s never too late to start the adventure.