Queen of Your Own Life by Kathy Kinney and Cindy Ratzlaff

Queen of Your Own Life is an attitude, a way of life and a call to action for grown up women everywhere.

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Queen of Your Own Life

Be Your Own Brilliant Self

June 19th, 2017

She wanted everyone to like her, which caused her great anxiety. She decided to no longer pretend to be more or less than she really was. She would be her own brilliant self and that would be way more than enough. - Queenisms™

She wanted everyone to like her, which caused her great anxiety. She decided to no longer pretend to be more or less than she really was. She would be her own brilliant self and that would be way more than enough. – Queenisms™

How much time do you spend trying to be something more or less than you really are?  We work so hard to impress others and then diminish ourselves when our intelligence or power might threaten someone else.  There is such a delightful and relaxing freedom in just being ourselves.  If people don’t like you for yourself then they were never your friends to begin with.  Being our brilliant self is so way more than enough.

Life Is Short So Just Do It!

June 17th, 2017

If she'd known then what she knew now she'd have worn the dangling earrings her friends all said were just a little flashy.

If she’d known then what she knew now she’d have worn the dangling earrings her friends all said were just a little flashy.

If we only knew then what we know now, how different it all would have been.  It’s an oldie but a goody and our only response it:  Life is short. Wear the earrings! Laugh more. Be you!  Don’t you agree?

Every Day A Brand New Adventure

June 16th, 2017

She reminded herself that every day was the beginning of a brand new adventure. It was her choice to make. - Queenisms™

She reminded herself that every day was the beginning of a brand new adventure. It was her choice to make. – Queenisms™

The one thing in life we have control over is how we are going to react to each new day.  We have many choices such as cower in fear under the covers or we can wake up each morning full of resentment and carry that with us out into the world.  A wise and positive choice is to believe that each day is a new adventure and that you are the woman who is bold and brave enough to live it.  Which do you prefer – fear, resentment or adventure?  It’s your choice.

Stop Wasting Your Time

June 14th, 2017

One day she realized she was wasting her time defining her experiences as good or bad. It was all just life and she was brave, strong and creative enough to handle anything. - Queenisms™

One day she realized she was wasting her time defining her experiences as good or bad. It was all just life and she was brave, strong and creative enough to handle anything. – Queenisms™

Labeling life experiences as good or bad certainly seems like a good idea but does it really work.  How many times have gotten something that you thought was going to be wonderful only to have it turn out not so good?  The other side of that is all of the supposed bad things that have happened and ended up leading to a miraculously good outcome.  We finally realized it was time to let go of the labeling and stick to the facts – we are all brave, strong and creative enough to handle anything.

Live Life Your Way

June 12th, 2017

Her realization that there was no right way or wrong way to live life set her free. She tossed out her out-dated rule book and finally began to live. - Queenisms™

Her realization that there was no right way or wrong way to live life set her free. She tossed out her out-dated rule book and finally began to live. – Queenisms™

We have all grown up with lot’s of rules – don’t run with scissors or you’ll fall and poke your eye out, don’t lean your chair back too far or you’ll fall and hit your head, etc!  There are a lot of good rules that have kept us safe but the idea that there is a rule book to follow that tells us the right or wrong way to live life is not true.  It’s time to toss out the old rule book and celebrate the life you are living.  It’s never too late to start the adventure.

Why Not Take A Chance?

June 10th, 2017

She took a single step from "what if" toward "why not." Then she took another, and another, and another until she realized she'd created quite a path. Queenisms™

She took a single step from “what if” toward “why not.” Then she took another, and another, and another until she realized she’d created quite a path. Queenisms™

Fulfilling our dreams is not just about taking a step from “what if” to “why not”, it’s about deciding, “if not now, when?”  We have come to believe that everything we want is right on the other side of fear.  Some people like to race towards their destination while others get stuck in their fear and have trouble moving forward.  There is no right way or wrong way – it’s just your way.  So, why not start taking tiny steps through your fear so that one day you can look back and see the long and beautiful path you have been on. If not now, when?

Never Let Yourself Down

June 9th, 2017

She had promised to take care of herself and to never let herself down. She was the Queen of her own life and she worked hard to keep that promise. - Queenisms™

She had promised to take care of herself and to never let herself down. She was the Queen of her own life and she worked hard to keep that promise. – Queenisms™

We all want someone to rely on, someone who will help take care of us and watch our backs.  How about giving that job to ourselves? It doesn’t mean you can’t have family or friends who do the same but the peace and confidence of knowing that you’ve promised yourself that you will take care of yourself is a great gift.  We know it sounds a bit silly but as the Queen of your own life you can make a promise like that with yourself and work hard to keep it.

You Are Amazing Every Day

June 8th, 2017

She went about the business of being amazing every single day and never gave a thought to whether or not anyone noticed. By the way, they did. - Queenisms™

She went about the business of being amazing every single day and never gave a thought to whether or not anyone noticed. By the way, they did. – Queenisms™

It’s for us to see our flaws and focus only on them.  It’s a habit we fall into and hopefully, eventually, decide to let go of.  No one ever thinks as badly of us as we do.  We imagine everybody see’s exactly what we see but the truth is people mostly see what’s good about us.  If we let go of the self judgement and simply go about the business of being our amazing selves on a daily basis, life becomes simpler and a lot more pleasant.

Help Yourself First

June 7th, 2017

Healing others came naturally to her. But, she decided it was time to focus some of her mighty healing power on herself. She knew you can't really help anyone else until you help yourself. - Queenisms™

Healing others came naturally to her. But, she decided it was time to focus some of her mighty healing power on herself. She knew you can’t really help anyone else until you help yourself. – Queenisms™

When we are on a flight we always marvel when we  hear the flight attendant remind us that to put on our own oxygen mask before we try to help someone else with theirs.  Helping yourself first is good advice not just for air travel but for all of life.  Learning to put ourselves first and letting go of the feeling of being selfish takes a lot of practice but aren’t you worth it?

What Can You Do Today To Be Happy?

June 6th, 2017

She had lived her whole life trying to get approval from everyone else. She decided to stop and finally ask herself, "What can I do today to make you happy?" - Queenisms™

She had lived her whole life trying to get approval from everyone else. She decided to stop and finally ask herself, “What can I do today to make you happy?” – Queenisms™

Approval is an important motivator but what about working hard to win our own approval.  How much simpler life would be if, instead of trying to make others like us or making choices to win their approval, we only kept the focus on us.  Here’s a little exercise to practice finding happiness and creating the life that you would like to lead.  Look at yourself in the mirror, make eye contact and ask yourself, “What can I do today to make you happy?” What was your answer?