Queen of Your Own Life by Kathy Kinney and Cindy Ratzlaff

Queen of Your Own Life is an attitude, a way of life and a call to action for grown up women everywhere.

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Queen of Your Own Life

Daring to Try

September 16th, 2014

Queenisms are original jolts of inspiration by Kathy Kinney and Cindy Ratzlaff of Queen of Your Own Life.

She knew that courage was not the absence of fear but rather the action of daring to try. ~ Queenisms™

Nobody goes through life without moments of fear. But if fear has you hiding under the covers, fear wins. Nothing great comes to those who cower and wait. But the rewards of acting, even when afraid, are enormous.  What have you accomplished even while afraid? We’d love to hear your stories. Why? Because when we share our stories, we share our strength. Somewhere someone needs a bit of your courage to tackle her own fears and move forward toward joy.

Photo: Traci Horn Mellin’s Mother, Pamela Horn

New Day, New Choice

September 15th, 2014

Authors Kathy Kinney and Cindy Ratzlaff create original quotes and images daily at http://QueenofYourOwnLife.

It was a new day and there were new choices to be made. She filled her lungs with a deep breath of hope and looked forward to filling her life with an abundance of happiness and love. – Queenisms™

It sounds so simple. In fact, it’s advice you most likely got from your Mother. Well, mom was right. Taking a deep breath can be better than any pill. Taking a deep breath is taking control of your surroundings and giving yourself a moment to pause, refresh your oxygen supply, think, and then take action. Breath deeply and often. Add a simple meditation to each breath, repeating “I breathe in abundance, happiness and love.” Then add, “I breathe out fear.” You have everything required to fill your life with goodness. You will be all right. Before you react to any fear, stress or anxiety, take a deep breath.

Be Contagious

September 13th, 2014

Queenisms are original digital art and original quotes from authors, Kathy Kinney and Cindy Ratzlaff of Queen of Your Own Life.

She did not let life’s struggles change the way she lived life. She was delighted by each new day and her pleasure in the journey was contagious. ~ Queenisms™

When we look for goodness, joy and abundance, we see those things. When we look for hurt, pain and distress, we see those things. They both exist, all the time. But we can choose the lens through which we look most often.

Photo: Brenda Gale Sproul-Butler’s Mother, Wanda Helen Sproul

Thrill Yourself

September 12th, 2014

Queenisms are original jolt of inspiration by authors Kathy Kinney and Cindy Ratzlaff of Queen of Your Own Life.

It was her life and her choice how to live it. So today she chose love, laughter and a quiet new adventure. She was thrilled to give herself that gift. – Queenisms™

She’s preaching to the choir as far as we’re concerned. When we’re down and out, we sometimes lose track of the fact that we have choices. And the truth is, we always do. We may not like the choices. The choices might be hard. But choices are there for us. If we wake up every day filled with dread, we need to make a new choice. If we look at our day and feel blah, we need to say to ourselves, “new choice.” When is the last time you felt thrilled about something? It’s time to feel that way more often.  The people, places and things we allow into our lives are choices. We can change those choices. We cannot change the choices of other people. We can only change our own.

Be Interested to Be Interesting

September 11th, 2014

Queenisms are original jolts of inspiration by Kathy Kinney and Cindy Ratzlaff of Queen of Your Own Life.

She made up her mind, at an early age, to discover something interesting about everyone she met. In doing so, she was ever so interesting herself. ~ Queenisms™

We dare you to try this. The next time you meet someone you’d otherwise dismiss as uninteresting or not worthy of your attention, stop and ask them to tell you what matters most to them in the world. We believe you’ll discover that underneath an exterior that doesn’t appeal to you, you’ll most likely find someone who shares more with you than you otherwise would have learned. OR, you’ll find longing, joy, wisdom, fear, struggle, triumph and ingenuity. Every emotion or personality quirk you might discover in a good novel, lurks out there in the people you meet. That loud lady might be afraid she isn’t being heard. That bully might be the victim of bullying herself. That braggart might not believe she’s good enough. That quiet soul might be a bright shining light. Everyone has a story. Everyone has worth. And most of all, you deserve to experience the full breadth and beauty that is humankind.

We guarantee you that when you begin to ask and listen, you become more interesting yourself.

Photo: Suanne Doerflinger Funk’s Grandmother, Ina Virginia Hinds Munson

Be the Heroine of Your Story

September 9th, 2014

Cindy Ratzlaff and Kathy Kinney blog and write books about claiming happiness in midlife at http://QueenofYourOwnLife.com. All of their affirmations and digital art are original.

Her story had so many ups and downs it would have knocked a lesser woman for a loop. Yet she chose to see herself as the heroine of that story and not the victim because she knew her true story was not over, yet.~ Queenisms™

You cannot always control the story but you can make a choice as to whether you are the heroine of your own tale or the victim. The heroine, in most novels, has a survival instinct which gives her the courage to try a new way, to forge a new path or to look behind the closed door. We believe you are all the heroines of your own stories. We believe you have the courage, even in the darkest of tales, to get out of bed and shine a light down the dark hallway, and find the way to a new, brighter, happier and more joy filled life. Go!

The Gift of Gratitude

September 8th, 2014

Cindy Ratzlaff and Kathy Kinney blog and write books about claiming happiness in midlife at http://QueenofYourOwnLife.com. All of their affirmations and digital art are original.

No matter how bad things were for her, she remembered that someone else always had it worse. She decided to give herself the gift of gratitude every morning when she awoke. After all, it was her choice how to face each day. – Queenisms™

You’ve heard it before and maybe you’ve even tried listing the things for which you’re grateful. But it is worth repeating. Even if your gratitude list seems small and insignificant, when we change what we see, we’ll see change. If you’re reading this, then you might be grateful you have eyes to see. You might be grateful you woke up today. You might be grateful you have access to the internet. All three are pretty wonderful things. Can you name at least two more things for which you’re grateful today?

You Have Pluck

September 7th, 2014

Cindy Ratzlaff and Kathy Kinney blog and write books about claiming happiness in midlife at http://QueenofYourOwnLife.com. All of their affirmations and digital art are original.

They shook their heads and whispered how she was full of vim and vigor because she did not behave as others expected. But she was more afraid of reining in her true self than she was of the disapproval of those who simply watched life from a safe distance. She had pluck.

You really can’t watch life from a safe distance. Even if you try, life will swoop in and involve you in unexpected ways. So stop trying. Stop trying to fit in. How boring the world would be if we all looked, talked and acted exactly alike. You have a unique way about you. You have original thoughts. You are a remarkable woman. You have pluck. Have the courage to share the real you with the world and dare to let those who don’t “get” you step back so those who do can find their way to the front of your friendship circle. And, at the same time, honor the differences in those you love. Celebrate their pluck and count yourself lucky to be around interesting, different, strange, wonderful women.

Invite Yourself to Play

September 6th, 2014

Cindy Ratzlaff and Kathy Kinney blog and write books about claiming happiness in midlife at http://QueenofYourOwnLife.com. All of their affirmations and digital art are original.

She remembered the adventurous, hopeful, wildly optimistic girl she had once been and invited that girl back into her life. She was ready to reclaim her true self. ~ Queenisms™

Some of you might find the girl you once were in her teens or twenties. Some might have to think back to your very early years. Even if you have no memories of yourself as an optimistic, innocent and joyful girl, we promise you were that at birth. So for those of you who need this image, image yourself as a baby, delighted by sunshine and pleased as can be about waking up each day. For others, find an image of yourself at your most hopeful and hold onto it. That girl still exists. She’s been traveling and she might be tired. She may need an invitation to come out and play. But we promise you, she’s there and it’s your job to bring her out of the past and into the future. Go!  The optimistic, joyful, adventurous, playful, sweet, hopeful girl inside of you deserves to come out and play.

Your Light Comes from Within

September 5th, 2014

Cindy Ratzlaff and Kathy Kinney blog and write books about claiming happiness in midlife at http://QueenofYourOwnLife.com. All of their affirmations and digital art are original.

She decided it was time for her to step out of the shadows and let her true radiance show. Her light came from within and she would never allow anyone to dim it again. – Queenisms™

We dim our lights for so many reasons. We don’t want to brag. We’re trying to make others feel better about themselves. We falter in our belief that we deserve to shine. We get worn down in the trying and stop believing we are worthy. There are so many reasons. But here’s the thing. That light within us doesn’t stop shining. All we need to do is clean off the dust that is hiding our true selves and let that light shine.

The bright light that shines within us all cannot be snuffed. It can be hidden under layers of dirt, but we guarantee you, it’s still shining brightly. Time to clear away the debris and shine.