Queen of Your Own Life by Kathy Kinney and Cindy Ratzlaff

Queen of Your Own Life is an attitude, a way of life and a call to action for grown up women everywhere.

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Queen of Your Own Life

Stop Waiting for Perfection

May 22nd, 2017

She decided to stop waiting until everything, including herself, was perfect. So she took a deep breath, let go of her fear of being judged and simply began to live. It felt delicious. - Queenisms™

She decided to stop waiting until everything, including herself, was perfect. So she took a deep breath, let go of her fear of being judged and simply began to live. It felt delicious. – Queenisms™

There is a bit of faulty thinking out there that when everything in our life is perfect – then we’ll be happy.  You know – when we lose some weight, have a better job or win the lottery – then everything will be grand. Sadly, that’s just  a myth because happiness is an inside job and nothing can make you happy except yourself.  Letting go of the fear of being judged and finally settling into loving yourself just the way you are is the best feeling in the world.

Trust Your Instincts

May 20th, 2017

Some things were worth mending, and some had worn too thin to repair. Experience had taught her to trust her instincts on which was which. - Queenisms™

Some things were worth mending, and some had worn too thin to repair. Experience had taught her to trust her instincts on which was which. – Queenisms™

Experience is what shapes us and makes us who we are.  It’s invaluable when making decisions and when you combine that with instinct, it’s like having a built in compass to happiness.  We like to call instinct our Queen Voice.  It’s the strong but quiet voice that tells you this person, place or thing is not good for you.  We all have this voice but the key step is using your experience as a guide and actually listening to what the voice is saying and then giving yourself the gift of following the advice.  It takes a bit of practice but it is so worth it.

Don’t Forget You’re Amazing

May 19th, 2017

Somewhere along the way she had simply forgotten how amazing she was. She vowed to never forget again. - Queenisms™

Somewhere along the way she had simply forgotten how amazing she was. She vowed to never forget again. – Queenisms™

When was the first time you doubted that you were anything but amazing?  Wouldn’t it be great if you could go back into the past and erase that moment or, for many of us, moments?  Of course it’s not possible to time travel – yet – but the faulty thinking that keeps us thinking we’re not okay the way we are can be shifted.  Positive affirmations, as corny as they may seem, are a simple way to change the ending of the old stories we’ve been telling ourselves for years.  Why not try telling yourself, “I am amazing and worthy of all good things in life.”  What can it hurt?

Speak Kindly To Yourself

May 17th, 2017

She made a deal with herself. She wouldn't allow anyone to say cruel and unkind things to her anymore and she would stop talking to herself that way as well. - Queenisms™

She made a deal with herself. She wouldn’t allow anyone to say cruel and unkind things to her anymore and she would stop talking to herself that way as well. – Queenisms™

Nobody is as cruel to us as we are to ourselves.  How many times have you called yourself stupid or an idiot for some simple mistake.  We would never let anyone else get away with talking to us that way but still, we speak that way to ourselves.  It’s simply a bad habit we’ve fallen into through the years and is not the truth.  It requires a little vigilance at first to stop talking to ourselves that way but it is so worth it.

Life Is Short So Enjoy It

May 16th, 2017

Life was too short so she decided to enjoy it. Afterall, what was she waiting for, an invitation? - Queenisms™

Life was too short so she decided to enjoy it. After all, what was she waiting for, an invitation? – Queenisms™

Did you ever sit down and wonder, “What am I waiting for?”  There are so many things we have promised ourselves that we were going to see and do in our lives and yet we haven’t even begun to fulfill our dreams or promises to ourselves.  It’s usually fear to blame for not moving forward so how about taking one tiny step at a time to walk through that fear?  Yes, it’s scary but it feels so good when you finally get to the other side of it.  If you were waiting for an invitation to begin living life to the fullest then consider this your invite!

The Courage to Show Up

May 15th, 2017

She didn't always want to get out of bed but still she showed up every day willing to do her best. That took courage. - Queenisms™

She didn’t always want to get out of bed but still she showed up every day willing to do her best. That took courage. – Queenisms™

Life, while a grand adventure, can be hard at times.  Sometimes just getting out of bed, brushing our teeth, getting dressed and heading out the door seems as hard as climbing Mount Everest but we do it.  It takes a strong, steady kind of courage to do it  every day come rain or shine.  Isn’t it time you patted yourself on the back for being such an amazingly brave woman?

Happy Mother’s Day!

May 14th, 2017

To anyone who's ever been a mother, had a mother or has stepped up and mothered themselves, Happy Mother's Day! - Queenisms™

To anyone who’s ever been a mother, had a mother or has stepped up and mothered themselves, Happy Mother’s Day! – Queenisms™

There isn’t a woman alive who doesn’t fall into the category of someone who has a mother, been a mother or found the courage to mother herself.  We all deserve to look in the mirror, make eye contact with ourselves and say loud and clear, “Happy Mother’s Day!”

Know Who Has Your Back

May 13th, 2017

She knew who had her back. And, the knowledge was priceless. - Queenisms™

She knew who had her back. And, the knowledge was priceless. – Queenisms™

We all have family and friends that we love but there are only a few people in our lives who really have our back.  We’re talking about the person who loves you unconditionally – no matter what and is there to support you come thick or thin.  Having one or more people like that in your life is a priceless gift.  The only catch is in order to have someone like that in our lives we have to offer that gift in return.  The world is full of brilliant woman who willing and able to be a good friend.  If you don’t have one, isn’t it time to begin the adventure of looking for one?

Finally Ready to Love Yourself

May 12th, 2017

She took a good long look at herself, and was finally ready to love what she saw. - Queenisms™

She took a good long look at herself, and was finally ready to love what she saw. – Queenisms™

Whenever we post a Queenism about learning to love ourselves it doesn’t get the response that we expect.  There are still so many of us tormenting ourselves with stinking thinking like – I’m not pretty enough, good enough, smart enough to be worthy of love.  The word that comes to mind is balderdash!  It’s time to stop telling ourselves these silly exaggerated stories of our lack of worthiness and accept the truth the we are all valuable, unique and worthy of all good things the universe has to offer, especially love.

Treat Yourself to Some Joy

May 10th, 2017

She decided to treat joy as if it were chocolate and give herself a little bit of it every day. - Queenisms™

She decided to treat joy as if it were chocolate and give herself a little bit of it every day. – Queenisms™

Barreling through life trying to accomplish as much as we can is one way to do it but what about letting ourselves have small moments of joy during the day.  Walking through my garden today, on my way to my office, I cut a small white gardenia flower.  I put it in a vintage demitasse cup and saucer and have it sitting next to me as I type this.  The scent and the beauty of the blossom in that old pink cup is giving me a wee bit of  joy – I deserve it and so do you!