Queen of Your Own Life by Kathy Kinney and Cindy Ratzlaff

Queen of Your Own Life is an attitude, a way of life and a call to action for grown up women everywhere.

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Queen of Your Own Life

The Nature of Your Character

February 2nd, 2016

Some people thought being positive was a character flaw. She knew it was the best choice she had ever made. - Queenisms™

Some people thought being positive was a character flaw. She knew it was the best choice she had ever made. – Queenisms™

As someone who is extra perky, Queen Cindy knows what it’s like to have some people feel like her natural state can be a character flaw. She doesn’t care. She is authentically herself all the time. And the people who stay in her circle, are the right people for her. That’s what we wish for you. Gather the right people for you. Don’t change so you can gather an inner circle of people for whom you have to change. Be you. That is the best choice of all. The nature of your character is perfect – for you.

Seeking Mutual Joy

February 1st, 2016

Her goal was to find joy in everything and have everyone find joy in her. - Queenisms™

Her goal was to find joy in everything and have everyone find joy in her. – Queenisms™

Finding joy in yourself and others is a choice. You choose to look hard. You choose to see the best in others. You choose to create moments where joy is possible. And, you choose to allow mistakes, fear, worry and hurt pass, quietly and gently, so joy can take it’s proper place in your life.

Adulting

January 31st, 2016

The whole "being an adult" business was wearing her out. So she took a break to play like a kid again- with utter joy and total abandon. - Queenisms™

The whole “being an adult” business was wearing her out. So she took a break to play like a kid again- with utter joy and total abandon. – Queenisms™

As the kids say “adulting is hard.” This always makes us laugh because we’ve never really felt like adults. Oh sure, there are some things, like taxes, that drag us to the adult table, but there are so many more things in our lives that feel like play. An unexpected sighting of a beautiful bird while we’re walking the dog, a flower that pops through the snow in the spring, the uncontrollable urge to dance with abandon when we hear music in the grocery store aisle, the pull of a swing set – even at our age – those are the things that remind us that “adulting” is a state of mind and so is the joy of playing like a kid.

Be Someone Who Knows Her Worth

January 30th, 2016

Somebody snipped, "Who do you think you are?" And she replied, "someone who knows her worth." - Queenisms™

Somebody snipped, “Who do you think you are?” And she replied, “someone who knows her worth.” – Queenisms™

Imagine, for a moment, that we were all clear about our self-worth. We’re not talking about dollars and cents. We’re talking about your innate value – precious beyond all comprehension. What if we all really believed we were valuable, worthwhile, precious? Would we treat ourselves differently, talk to ourselves more kindly, support ourselves more fully? We think so. And, that’s the seismic shift in thinking that is required if we’re truly to spend a lifetime on the path toward happiness. Will you shift?

 

Perfect from the Outside

January 29th, 2016

Everyone else's life always looked perfect from the outside. But she knew that inside we were all more alike than different. - Queenisms™

Everyone else’s life always looked perfect from the outside. But she knew that inside we were all more alike than different. – Queenisms™

Other people’s lives might looks perfect from the outside. When you look over your neighbors fence, you see green grass, manicured shrubs, tidy porches and curtains in the windows. What you don’t see if all the fear, struggle, hurt, pain, hopes, dreams and other human trappings. But they’re there. We are all more alike than we are different. Do not covet your neighbor’s life. Yours is worth exploring to it’s fullest.

But how do we start reigning in that fear that we’re not having the life we deserve? We start with baby steps. Every morning before you get out of bed, name one thing for which you are grateful. Every night before you go to bed, review two things that deserve your gratitude. In fact, write them down so you can look back on days when you can’t come up with two things. We promise, this practice of happiness will change your life.

No Regrets

January 28th, 2016

Her only regrets were the chances she hadn't taken. - Queenisms™

Her only regrets were the chances she hadn’t taken. – Queenisms™

We must stand fast against creating a lifetime of regret over dreams not pursued, love not taken, forgiveness not given, adventure forgone and so many other chances not taken. Take them. Succeed or fail. But try. Promise.

Fall Down Get Up Dance

January 27th, 2016

Fall down, get up. Fall down, get up. It was a dance she had gotten really good at, especially the getting up part. - Queenisms™

Fall down, get up. Fall down, get up. It was a dance she had gotten really good at, especially the getting up part. – Queenisms™

Who knew that when you fell down and got up again you were teaching yourself to dance? And now that you’ve done it a few times, you’re dancing with the stars! Everyone falls now and then. It’s the getting up part that makes you a very good dancer. Get up. Try again. Let the beauty of your courage shine through. You are resilient and resilience looks really good on you.

Make Your Needs Known

January 26th, 2016

She decided to speak up and make her needs known. If she didn't do it, who would? - Queenisms™

She decided to speak up and make her needs known. If she didn’t do it, who would? – Queenisms™

Speaking up for yourself and letting your needs be known is not selfish. It is called clarity and self-esteem.

Supporting Other Women

January 25th, 2016

She had a good head and a kind heart. She was the sort of woman you wanted on your side when times were bad. - Queenisms™

She had a good head and a kind heart. She was the sort of woman you wanted on your side when times were bad. – Queenisms™

And, we’d like to add, she would be there in good times too. Surrounding yourself with the kind of friends who will go through both the good and bad times with you, is just about the most precious gift you can give yourself. Now this can be a tricky thing. We’re not talking about the kind of friend who takes over, takes command, and tells you what to do. We’re talking about the woman who listens, consoles, asks you what you need or want and listens again – offering support and not answers – unless you ask for answers. We’re talking about the kind of woman who is fiercely in your corner, without a personal agenda. We’re wishing you all that kind of friend, and we encourage you all to be that kind of friend.

New Beginnings

January 24th, 2016

When she realized that no matter how many endings there were in her life there would always be another beginning, she danced for joy. - Queenisms™

When she realized that no matter how many endings there were in her life there would always be another beginning, she danced for joy. – Queenisms™

If you’re like most people, you’ve started over many times in your life. New job, new relationship, new home, new town, new health reality check and many more “new” things make change a reality. All of these required you to be resilient, resourceful and to remember that you are a woman of courage. Change isn’t easy for anyone. Change brings up fear. Change can speak to us in a whisper, making us feel unworthy or not able. But change comes whether we embrace it or not. So let’s start looking at new beginnings as an opportunity to craft the life we deserve. That makes us dance for joy. How about you?