Queen of Your Own Life by Kathy Kinney and Cindy Ratzlaff

Queen of Your Own Life is an attitude, a way of life and a call to action for grown up women everywhere.

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Queen of Your Own Life

Give Yourself Time to Daydream

October 21st, 2014

Kathy Kinney and Cindy Ratzlaff are authors and digital artists who create Queenisms, original, trademarked jolts of inspiration at http://QueenofYourOwnLife.com

She gave herself time to daydream and permission to act on those dreams that lit her up inside. ~ Queenisms™

We’re all busy, rushing here and there. But it takes very little effort to give ourselves permission, and the time, to pause for daydreaming. We think daydreaming is not a frivolous pastime. We think it’s essential to let your mind wander and ask yourself “what if?” Why? Because we believe that you have everything you need to make the choices necessary to be happy, already within yourself. Sometimes, we just need to pause and listen to our inner wisdom.

Promise us you’ll take the time today to daydream. Please?

Monday Mantra

October 20th, 2014

Authors Kathy Kinney and Cindy Ratzlaff create original Queenisms, jolts of inspiration featuring vintage images and original quotes. http://QueenofYourOwnLife.com

She woke up on a Monday with the week stretching long ahead of her and she decided, “I’m going to live the heck out of this week.” She was woman enough to make that choice. ~ Queenisms™

Monday blues are not uncommon, and truthfully, we can’t control the rush of work coming at us on any given day. But we can control our attitudes and the way we approach things does, indeed, make a difference in our experience. What if we viewed each week as an adventure and ourselves as willing participants in that adventure? What if we looked forward to the challenges? What if we thought of ourselves as social scientists, uncovering the why and how to a problem? What if we made the choice to see more good than bad? What if . . .

Tell us about your week, Queens? We’d love to know how you tackle your Monday’s.

Unlimited Possibilities

October 19th, 2014

Queenisms are original, trademarked jolts of inspiration by Kathy Kinney and Cindy Ratzlaff of http://QueenofYourOwnLife.com

As a young girl, she’d believed in unlimited possibilities. Though time and circumstances had tried to dilute her resilience, they could not because she had a secret power. She was a woman who would not say “uncle.” ~ Queenisms

When did we learn to give up on our dreams? To us, that is the saddest idea of all. As long as you wake up in the morning, your dreams and ideas matter. You matter. History is filled with stories of women who’ve made a difference, discovered their gifts, raised their voices and created magic – without an expiration date fueled by age. Never give up on yourself. Never stop listening to your inner voice. You, too, have a secret power. Tell us what your secret power is!

 

Don’t Get Into a Snit About Detours

October 18th, 2014

Queenisms are original, trademarked jolts of inspiration by Kathy Kinney and Cindy Ratzlaff. http://QueenofYourOwnLife.com

She didn’t always know where she was going and sometimes she was good and lost. Yet she couldn’t help but notice that occasionally the detours provided the most delightful surprises – as long as she wasn’t in too much of a snit about being lost to pause and look around. ~ Queenisms™

Have you ever taken a wrong turn and then been humbled by the beauty you see. You might have missed that stunning view if you were so distressed and upset about the detour that you couldn’t look around and see the gift. Sometimes even the most difficult bump in the road comes with a surprisingly wonderful new opportunity. Finding love after losing love, learning a new skill and landing the job of your dreams after losing a job, moving and bonding with a new community after losing a home – these are biggies. But smaller, more subtle surprises are just around the corner, just a shift away, when we open ourselves up to seeing them.

Have you every taken a wrong turn and found yourself in just the right place? What if we viewed “DETOUR AHEAD” as a sign that reads “ADVENTURE AHEAD?”

She Broke the Rules and Set New Ones

October 17th, 2014

Queenisms are original, trademarked jolts of inspiration by artist, authors, Kathy Kinney and Cindy Ratzlaff. http://QueenofYourOwnLife.com

There always seemed to be strict “rules” about the way she was suppose to act, dress, think, and speak. But she had her own rules. She made the decision to see herself as a vessel of unlimited possibilities and that became her favorite rule of all. ~ Queenisms™

There are many rules we all have to follow; traffic rules, tax rules, legal rules. But there are other “rules” that don’t add up to a hill of beans when it comes to being important. How you act, dress, and think can be filtered through your own moral lens. You get to choose. You are a vessel of unlimited possibilities and when you free yourself from what you think are the “rules” of others, you are free to be your perfect, creative, intelligent, gifted self. We can’t wait to see what you create in the world.

Quit Anger Cold Turkey

October 16th, 2014

Artist Authors Kathy Kinney and Cindy Ratzlaff create original, trademarked jolts of inspiration called Queenisms. http://QueenofYourOwnLife.com

She carried around a lot of anger about things that had happened to her in the past. The truth was she had the power to stop, cold turkey, feeling bad about the past and finally get on with living a happy life. She thought, “If not now, when?” ~ Queenisms™

We don’t want to serve up a lot of platitudes about the present being a gift, but we can’t help ourselves. When we’re stuck, replaying the past over and over again, we’re allowing those disappointments and traumas rob us of our lives. We might as well wear a mask and hold a weapon. We’re participating in the hold up. Do not give another moment of your life to past regrets, other than to remind yourself not to repeat them. Spend your energy and your light in creating new memories for your future self to relish and enjoy. Give anger the boot. Ready?

Name the regret. Tell it, out loud, that you release it. Do something physical to help you. Release a balloon, burn a piece of paper, tear the paper up and toss it in the trash…whatever helps you banish the regret. We know the memory is still there. But the power it has over you, keeping you tamped down, is anger and that needs to be given the boot.

Have you broken free of a past memory or regret? Let’s share our stories, strength and power to help others.

Worry is a Waste

October 15th, 2014

Kathy Kinney and Cindy Ratzlaff create original, trademarked Queenisms daily at http://Queenofyourownlife.com

Life was too short to waste it in worry. She decided to let go of her fears and simply enjoy the now. ~ Queenisms™

Queen Cindy’s dad used to say “worry is borrowing trouble that hasn’t yet happened.” We agree. Worry is a thief of happiness. Caution isn’t the same as worry. Caution is wise and guides our actions. Worry is irrational and chaotic. Worry misuses our imaginations and those very power imaginations are a gift to help us envision more positive aspects of our lives such as “what if I dared to write that book?”

Are you able to keep worry at bay to enjoy the now? Let’s share some strategies and support one another.

Up a Creek Without a Paddle? No You Are Not.

October 14th, 2014

Queenisms are original, trademarked jolts of inspiration by artist, authors Kathy Kinney and Cindy Ratzlaff. http://QueenofYourOwnLife.com

She sometimes felt like she was up a creek without a paddle, but then she remembered she was more than capable of steadying her own canoe. ~ Queenisms™

When you realize you have all the skills, experience and willpower to take care of yourself, you will never be up a creek without a paddle. We’d like you all to know you are more than capable of steadying your own canoe. You are brilliant, beautiful, intelligent, creative, sensual, gifted, intuitive, lifelong learners who can glide through the rough waters. We admire you.

Nobody’s Fool

October 7th, 2014

Kathy Kinney and Cindy Ratzlaff create trademarked inspirational quotes and digital art at http://QueenofYourOwnLife.comShe knew how to forgive and yet she knew how to set a strong boundary. She was nobody’s fool and everyone respected her. ~ Queenisms™

Forgiveness is an important concept in claiming happiness. When we harbor ill feelings, we harm ourselves far more than we harm anyone else. Letting go of hurt, pain, anger or disappointment allows us to move forward in our own lives. But it does not mean we must forget. There’s a popular saying. “Fool me once, shame on you. Fool me twice, shame on me.” If someone has demonstrated they cannot be trusted and we are not safe with them, we can forgive but move on. If someone has no desire to modify their behavior, we can forgive and move on. If someone is not capable of a supportive, loving relationship, we can forgive and move on. And if someone is simply in the beginning of their learning curve about being a loving, kind, caring and supportive person, we can forgive and linger, giving more than we get as we hold out a hand to help them up.

The balancing act of discerning whether to stay or to go in any relationship is tricky. Do you have a way of deciding how long to hold out the life preserver in a relationship?

Photo: Cindy Ratzlaff’s beautiful mom, Patricia Ratzlaff.

Deep Down Inside You Know

October 6th, 2014

Kathy Kinney and Cindy Ratzlaff create original, trademarked Queenisms daily at http://QueenofYourOwnLife.com

Deep down inside she knew that the choice was hers – so she chose happiness. ~ Queenisms™

Yes, it’s an over simplification to say “choose happiness” and all will be well. Happiness is a practice. And just like anything we want to master, happiness must be practiced daily. We find ourselves using several methods to practice happiness. Every day we ask ourselves two questions:

1.  What attributes or gifts do I have that have served me well in my life that I want to nurture and keep?

2. What no longer serves me that I want to banish?

These two questions help us focus on the things that make us happy and give us permission to remove those people, places, things and thoughts that no longer make us happy.

The act of asking ourselves these questions and making the time to sit quietly and ponder the answers has helped us keep happiness in the forefront of our lives. How about you? What do you want to keep and what do you want to banish? Deep down inside, you know.