Queen of Your Own Life by Kathy Kinney and Cindy Ratzlaff

Queen of Your Own Life is an attitude, a way of life and a call to action for grown up women everywhere.

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Queen of Your Own Life

Brand New Chance

January 16th, 2017

Fresh new day. Brand new chance. She took a breath and stepped out into the world. - Queenisms™

Fresh new day. Brand new chance. She took a breath and stepped out into the world. – Queenisms™

It’s so easy to feel trapped in our lives but the truth is we are always just one choice away from making a change for the better.  We’re not saying it’s aways easy but we are saying that you have a lot more options than you realize.  Often it starts with the language we use when we talk about ourselves or our lives.  We’ve learned that negative attracts negative and that when we practice using positive language about and to ourselves the world begins to change for the better.  We believe that each day is a fresh start and a new chance to become the woman we long to be.  Do you agree?

How To Be Forever Young

January 13th, 2017

t was her curiosity and willingness to learn new things that made her beautiful and kept her forever young. - Queenisms™

It was her curiosity and willingness to learn new things that made her beautiful and kept her forever young. – Queenisms™

One time we rode on an elevator with a woman who was 80 years old if she was a day.  Her many wrinkles and lines spoke loudly about a life spent in the sun.  Yet, she had a sparkle in her eye and an aura of contentment and joy surrounding her that made us want to be around her and be her friend.  That sparkle we saw in her was a keen interest in life and a curiosity about the world around her.  We decided right then and there that she was the kind of woman we wanted to be.  What kind of woman do you want to be?

Stuff Happens

January 12th, 2017

Stuff happened. So she threw herself a tiny pity party and then made a brand new plan. - Queenisms

Stuff happened. So she threw herself a tiny pity party and then made a brand new plan. – Queenisms

Life is life and no matter what, things are going to happen.  We’ve all wondered, “Why me?” The answer is because we are alive.  The only control we have over any of it is how we react to it.  After life knocks us down we have a choice to stay down and feel sorry for ourselves while weeping buckets of tears or stand up and make a new plan.  We think it’s okay to have a tiny, pity party but then you have to put the party hat away and get ready to move into a new day.

Claim Your Power

January 11th, 2017

She'd bought and paid for the crown many times over, through hard work and her life experiences. She decided it was time to put it on and claim her power. - Queenisms™

She’d bought and paid for the crown many times over, through hard work and her life experiences. She decided it was time to put it on and claim her power. – Queenisms™

We’ve both had many jobs in our lives but the longest job we’ve had is working to keep balance in our lives.  We’ve slogged through good times and bad with one goal in mind – to get through it all with our heads held high, humor in tact and the knowledge that we’d done the best we could.  We didn’t just crown ourselves the Queen of Our Own Lives one day, we worked at it and continue to work at being a loving and kind woman every day.  We earned that crown many times over and we know you have as well.

Give Yourself A Second Chance

January 10th, 2017

She had made plenty of bad choices in the past and even a few walloping big mistakes. She decided it was time to stop beating herself up for being human and gracefully move on. Everybody deserves a second chance. - Queenisms™

She had made plenty of bad choices in the past and even a few walloping big mistakes. She decided it was time to stop beating herself up for being human and gracefully move on. Everybody deserves a second chance. – Queenisms™

One day we realized that being a human being and being perfect did not go together.  No matter how hard we tried, and we tried, we were never going to be perfect.  That’s when we decided to stop beating ourselves up for who we were and what we’d done, simply take a breath and let it go.  Isn’t it time to give yourself a second chance at being happy?

It Your Choice

January 9th, 2017

It was her choice how to face each day:  1. She could wallow in hopelessness, certain that nothing would ever work out for her.  2. She could put on her big girl pants, choose positivity and be a source of inspiration for everyone, including herself. - Queenisms™

It was her choice how to face each day:  1. She could wallow in hopelessness, certain that nothing would ever work out for her.
2. She could put on her big girl pants, choose positivity and be a source of inspiration for everyone, including herself. – Queenisms™

We used to let our emotions run us until we realized that we had a choice.  In the beginning it was hard to remember that we were controlling our emotions rather than the other way around but after a little practice, we started to get much better at it.  Learning to let go of negativity and not letting it define us or our lives was one of the best choices we’ve ever made.  How do you handle negativity?

Letting Go Of Worry

January 6th, 2017

She decided today she would practice letting go of worry and instead, fill her thoughts with gratitude for what she already had. - Queenisms™

She decided today she would practice letting go of worry and instead, fill her thoughts with gratitude for what she already had. – Queenisms™

We used to be President and Vice President of the Worry Wart Club.  If we had a spare moment we spent it worrying about something that may or may not happen.  It was such a waste of our valuable time and something that we had learned and very much wanted to unlearn.  We decided to replace our worry with gratitude.  There are so many things in our lives that we are grateful for and a gratitude list is so much more inspiring than our old worry list.  We loved this picture because it made us grateful that we didn’t have wash machines like that!  How about you?

No One Can Stop You

January 5th, 2017

This was the year she vowed to be "she who could not be stopped." - Queenisms™

This was the year she vowed to be “she who could not be stopped.” – Queenisms™

We met a 40 year old woman once who told us more than anything she wanted to be a print model.  We asked her what was stopping her and she told us she didn’t have and front teeth.  When we asked why she didn’t go to the dentist to have her teeth fixed she said, “I don’t know.”  It’s always a bit of a surprise when you finally realize that you are the biggest obstacle standing in the way of what you want.  What do you say, let’s literally step aside and get out of our own way?

Take Better Care Of Yourself

January 4th, 2017

She decided to take better care of herself. If she didn't, who would? - Queenisms™

She decided to take better care of herself. If she didn’t, who would? – Queenisms™

When we were younger we always thought some “Prince Charming” would come along and save us – or at least kiss us awake!  The truth is we needed to get jobs, earn some money and buy an alarm clock so we could wake ourselves up!  Now we’ve found a freedom in knowing that we do the best job of taking care of ourselves.  Of course we have family and friends who love and offer us support but in the end we have to be our own best source for support.  We enjoy knowing that we do indeed have our own backs. Do you have your own back?

Dream Big

January 3rd, 2017

Knowing that she could survive both failure and success made it possible for her to dream big. - Queenisms™

Knowing that she could survive both failure and success made it possible for her to dream big. – Queenisms™

A few years ago we took a close look at our fears and found out we were afraid to fail, afraid to succeed, afraid to live and afraid to die.  It kind of limited our choices and made for a very narrow world!  We’d had failures and successes and were still alive to tell the tale so there was no reason to think we couldn’t survive it again!  We decided to work on letting go of our fears one tiny step at a time and and instead think of ourselves as resilient women leading a bold adventure.  It just makes so much sense.  Don’t you agree?