Queen of Your Own Life by Kathy Kinney and Cindy Ratzlaff

Queen of Your Own Life is an attitude, a way of life and a call to action for grown up women everywhere.

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Queen of Your Own Life

Treat Yourself With Kindness

August 19th, 2016

 

She wanted to say thank you for the kindness and the encouragement. So she bought herself some flowers. - Queenisms™

She wanted to say thank you for the kindness and the encouragement. So she bought herself some flowers. – Queenisms™

In the past we’ve been kinder to total strangers than we have been to ourselves!  We are always available with a kind word or gesture to family and friends but the truth is we have often put ourselves at the bottom of the list.  We decided it was time to treat ourselves with kindness and encouragement because if we didn’t do it, how would others know how to treat us!  We wanted to send a message to ourselves and others that we were loved and cherished.  The simple gift of a flower bought, or cut from the garden, says it all.  Don’t you deserve to give yourself a gift today?

Life Doesn’t Have To Be So Hard – It’s Your Choice

August 17th, 2016

She decided to stop hanging on to negativity and instead let it pass right through her. It was her choice. Life didn’t have to be so hard. - Queenisms™

She decided to stop hanging on to negativity and instead let it pass right through her. It was her choice. Life didn’t have to be so hard. – Queenisms™

We used to worry about every single thing that happened in our lives.  When we walked around there was a little gray cloud of negativity floating just above our heads!  It was hard find joy in anything when we were practicing our hobby of being worrywarts.  In the end we made the choice to change because we just didn’t want to live that way anymore.  We were smart women who wanted more from life than worry and negativity. So instead we imagine that negativity is passing right through our bodies, down into our feet and passing right into the ground where it becomes good fertilizer for the grass.  Give it a try, it’s your choice –  life doesn’t have to be so hard!

 

 

Beautiful Queen of Her Own Life

August 16th, 2016

She didn’t need to enter the competition because she was already the winner. She was the beautiful Queen of her own life. - Queenisms™

She didn’t need to enter the competition because she was already the winner. She was the beautiful Queen of her own life. – Queenisms™

How we speak to ourselves is so important!  Making a mistake can cause us to mutter a comment like, “Oh,I’m so stupid!.”  Or catching a glimpse of ourselves in the mirror can cause us to shake our heads and mumble, ” I’m so – fat, skinny, old, ugly (fill in the blank)!”  Those comments have a tendency to stick and we wear them like an extra set of clothes.  People react to us by noticing how we treat ourselves so we must speak about and treat ourselves well.  We imagine each day we are wearing a sash with the word “Queen” on it, and that’s how we present ourselves.  We think it’s a fun way to remind ourselves that we are perfect just the way we are.  What do you think?

The 2017 Queen Calendar is Here!

August 16th, 2016

All New Queen of Your Own Life 2017 Calendar

The 2017 Queen of Your Own Life Calendar is now available on Amazon.com. Here’s the deal. Calendars sell out quickly. And when they’re gone, they’re gone. If you got one last year and loved it, please tell your friends. Order early and avoid disappointment. Our publisher tells us that they expect the 2017 calendar to be sold out by October so please, if you want one, get yours now. With love, Kathy and Cindy

Each Day A Brand New Adventure

August 15th, 2016

She decided to remind herself every morning, “This day is the beginning of a brand new adventure.” - Queenisms™

She decided to remind herself every morning, “This day is the beginning of a brand new adventure.” – Queenisms

 

Sometimes faulty thinking makes us feel trapped in our lives. Does that ever happen to you?  The feeling that everything will always be the same and no matter what you do your life won’t get better.  When we wake up we have a choice – lie in bed and feel hopeless or hit the “reboot” button.  The difference between hopelessness and being in a positive place is simply our choice.  So in the morning when we wake up we remind ourselves that today is the start of a brand new adventure.  We are awake and ready for whatever comes our way.  Give “positive choice” a chance and let us know how it’s working for you.

Your Opinion Is What Matters

August 12th, 2016

She suddenly realized that the only opinion of her that truly mattered was her own. She promised herself not to forget it again. - Queenisms™

She suddenly realized that the only opinion of her that truly mattered was her own. She promised herself not to forget it again. – Queenisms™

Learning to not take life so personally is a lesson we learn and then have to practice over and over again.  Somedays our self-esteem is shakier than others and all it takes is a raised eyebrow or a roll of the eyes by a friend, family member or co-worker and we’re feeling bad about ourselves.  In the end it doesn’t really matter what anyone else thinks of us because it’s only our opinion that truly matters.  We promise ourselves to not forget that again.  It takes practice but it’s worth it and we know you can do it.

You’re Doing A Pretty Good Job.

August 11th, 2016

Her life was all bits and pieces of fabulous, mixed together with messes and frayed edges. But in hindsight, she had to admit, she was doing a pretty good job. - Queenisms™

Her life was all bits and pieces of fabulous, mixed together with messes and frayed edges. But in hindsight, she had to admit, she was doing a pretty good job. – Queenisms™

Sometimes life comes at us so fast it makes our head spin.  We juggle so many tasks and jobs that we’re surprised the Circus doesn’t call to book us for the main ring.  It’s rare to catch a moment to take a breath and notice how many more things are wonderful in our lives than we realize.  We almost always have a bit of a dark cloud hanging over us thinking we aren’t accomplishing enough or our lives are a big mess.  But the when we look back over our lives we see the truth – yes it’s a slightly chaotic mish mash but we are doing a heck of a good job none-the-less.  Take a breath, step back a bit and admire the great job you’re doing living your life.

Everything Is Going To Be Alright

August 10th, 2016

 

She looked at herself in the mirror and said, “Everything will be alright no matter what.” - Queenisms™

She looked at herself in the mirror and said, “Everything will be alright no matter what.” – Queenisms

Sometimes we get caught up in the idea that we are trapped – there’s no way out of the situation.  The truth is we always have choices and we just have to take the time to remind ourselves that this is true.  Sometimes the choice is taking an action,  sometimes it’s changing the way we respond and sometimes it’s finding someone supportive and loving to talk things over with.  We believe that you have everything you need inside of you to make the best choice for you.

Everything will be alright – no matter what.

Decide Who You Want To Be

August 9th, 2016

She realized that she could decide who she wanted to be, and so she did! She was the smart, sassy, loving Queen of her own life. - Queenisms™

 

She realized that she could decide who she wanted to be, and so she did! She was the smart, sassy, loving Queen of her own life. – Queenisms

Through the years we’ve  taken to heart comments that people had made about us. We have also compared ourselves  to pictures in magazines and images we’ve seen on TV and always found ourselves to be wanting.  Then there was the comparison game that we so often played – comparing what we saw or assumed we saw in other’s lives to our own. We always ended up feeling really bad about ourselves till one day we finally understood it was our choice who we wanted to be.  And, so we made our choice to be the smart, sassy, loving Queens of our own lives. And, you can do it too!

 

All You Can Do Is Your Best

August 8th, 2016

She always felt like she never did enough. One day she remembered a quote someone had read to her, “All you can do is the best you know how.” She decided to stop beating herself up for what she didn’t know and start enjoying herself the way she was. It was a good decision. - Queenisms™

She always felt like she never did enough. One day she remembered a quote someone had read to her, “All you can do is the best you know how.” She decided to stop beating herself up for what she didn’t know and start enjoying herself the way she was. It was a good decision. – Queenisms

Trying to be perfect is not compatible with being a human being!  Sometimes we have so many things we think we need to accomplish each day in order to feel good about ourselves.  The truth is we can be happy without being perfect.  Here’s what we do – if you have 5 things you think you need to get done – let go of 2 of them and spend the free time enjoying your friends and family.  Letting go of perfection is always a good decision.