Queen of Your Own Life by Kathy Kinney and Cindy Ratzlaff

Queen of Your Own Life is an attitude, a way of life and a call to action for grown up women everywhere.

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Queen of Your Own Life

Being the Queen of Balance

March 20th, 2017

Sometimes she zigged and sometimes she zagged but she always showed up and gave it her best shot. That made her the Queen of balance. - Queenisms™

Sometimes she zigged and sometimes she zagged but she always showed up and gave it her best shot. That made her the Queen of balance. – Queenisms™

Perfection is one of those afflictions that is often fatal where fun and good self esteem are concerned.  We think they should give you a nice shiny medal just for showing up and doing the best you can because, honestly, you can’t do any more than that!  Life has a huge learning curve so if sometimes you zig and then sometimes you zag don’t beat yourself up.  Life has a way of balancing itself and so you already are the Queen of balance.

 

Celebrate Your Life

March 17th, 2017

She decided to celebrate life all day long. - Queenisms™

She decided to celebrate life all day long. – Queenisms™

Have you ever really celebrated the gift of being alive? We mean actually let go of your cares and worries – real and imagined – and just spent the whole day allowing yourself to feel joyful about breathing air and being part of the world?  We know what you’re thinking – the world is a mess, the mortgage or rent is due and you work with a  major jerk.   Newsflash – the world and your life will never be perfect but that doesn’t mean you can’t allow yourself the gift of joy.  Start small by celebrating life for an hour and build up to a whole day.  You deserve it.

 

Give Yourself a Time Out

March 16th, 2017

People were plucking her last nerve so she decided to give herself a time out. It was delightful. - Queenisms™

People were plucking her last nerve so she decided to give herself a time out. It was delightful. – Queenisms™

We love the idea of giving yourself a time out!  We’ve all had that moment where we are beyond overwhelmed and one more thing happens then – twang – the last nerve is plucked!  Option one: total melt down leaving verbal damage and damaged relationships in your wake.  Option two: take a time out, just excuse yourself and walk away, walk around the block, sit in your car in the driveway with the spa channel on or lie on your bed face down screaming into your pillow.  What a perfectly delightful chance to use your power of choice.

 

Determination to Get What You Want

March 15th, 2017

She wasn't where she wanted to be but she was sure on her way. She had determination. And, she liked that about herself. - Queenisms™

She wasn’t where she wanted to be but she was sure on her way. She had determination. And, she liked that about herself. – Queenisms™

There’s nothing wrong with immediate gratification but, in the end, it is progress and not perfection that will get us to where we want to go.  After all, it’s more about how we make the journey than what the destination is.  Keeping determination, kindness and love in balance is a life long struggle but will ultimately lead us on an adventure that we can be proud of.  Don’t you think there’s a lot to be said for holding your head high as you lead an honorable life.

Crown Yourself Queen

March 14th, 2017

She was the only one who could crown her the Queen of her own life. So she did. It felt good to be queen. - Queenisms™

She was the only one who could crown her the Queen of her own life. So she did. It felt good to be queen. – Queenisms™

It always seemed that we were looking for someone else to take care of us, give us power, change our lives.  It could be all of the fairy tales we were read as children.  Who can forget all of the girls waiting for the prince to come along, kiss them, save them and then make them princesses.  In truth it’s the Queen who has the power to change the world and make it a better place for herself and everyone around her.  It’s her choice to claim that power because no one is going to give it to her. Isn’t it time to crown yourself the Queen of your own life?

 

Life Can Be Tough

March 13th, 2017

She decided that whenever her life got tough she would simply dare herself to sit back and enjoy the ride. - Queenisms™

She decided that whenever her life got tough she would simply dare herself to sit back and enjoy the ride. – Queenisms™

Sometimes life is easy and sometimes it’s tough.  If you’ve been watching the live cam of April the Giraffe waiting to give birth you’ ll know what I mean. There is nothing we can do to stop the tough times from coming so learning to just go with the flow seems like the logical thing to do. One of the great facts of life is that everything has a beginning, a middle and an end.  We just never know when the end is coming but rest assured that everything has an ending so why not make yourself comfortable and enjoy the now.

Everything You Need To Have A Great Life

March 10th, 2017

For today she decided to take a deep breath and put one foot in front of the other. Deep down she knew she already had everything she needed to have a great life. - Queenisms™

For today she decided to take a deep breath and put one foot in front of the other. Deep down she knew she already had everything she needed to have a great life. – Queenisms™

What do you think you need before you can be happy?  We met a woman once who wanted to be a print model but didn’t have any teeth and was unable to make herself go to the dentist. We explained to her that she needed to get out of her own way and slowly but surely start making different choices. It’s habit to get in our own way and it’s a simple positive choice to move forward towards the life we deserve and want.

Life Can Be Hard But Don’t Quit

March 9th, 2017

There was a moment when it all seemed too hard and she almost quit. But she persisted and boy, oh boy, was she glad she did. - Queenisms™

There was a moment when it all seemed too hard and she almost quit. But she persisted and boy, oh boy, was she glad she did. – Queenisms™

We’ve all had experiences that seemed too hard to get through or survive – but we always do.  There’s the unattractive moment of just wanting to crawl back in bed, pull the covers over our head and give up but that doesn’t really work, does it?  Persistence is such a great old-fashioned word that just doesn’t get used enough and yet we all do it every day.  We persist at living life and trying to be the best woman, daughter, sister, mother and friend that we can be.  And, boy, oh boy aren’t you glad we do?

Letting Go Of Negativity

March 8th, 2017

She decided to stop hanging on to negativity and instead made the choice to let it pass right through her. She had finally realized that life didn't have to be so hard. - Queenisms™

She decided to stop hanging on to negativity and instead made the choice to let it pass right through her. She had finally realized that life didn’t have to be so hard. – Queenisms™

It’s so easy to believe that everything would be perfect if we were richer, thinner, younger or prettier but it’s this faulty thinking that we need something more that  keeps us trapped in our own lives.  Letting go of negative thoughts and negative people in our lives is a choice, and it’s a choice we get to make every day.  If you’ve fallen into the bad habit of negativity isn’t it time to make the choice to live a different way?  Life really doesn’t have to be so hard.

Experience Makes You Wise

March 7th, 2017

She had made some foolish mistakes but those experiences had helped her become the wise, courageous woman she was today. - Queenisms™

She had made some foolish mistakes but those experiences had helped her become the wise, courageous woman she was today. – Queenisms™

Whether from lack of experience or lack of knowledge we have all made mistakes.  Sometimes the repercussion of our choices was mild and sometimes severe but these choices have shaped our lives.  We are the sum of our experiences and the woman that we are now is because of the choices we have made in the past.  Isn’t it time to forgive yourself for your mistakes and move on?  Everybody deserves a second chance and giving that to yourself is a precious gift.