November 24th, 2015
Some days the path toward happiness seemed so rocky, she wasn’t sure she’d ever get there. But one tiny step at a time, she did – because she would not give up. – Queenisms™
There are many bumps in every road. Some bring us to our knees and some seem to swallow us up completely. When this happens we have a couple of choices – give up, sit down and go no further, staying stuck in our unhappy and rocky place or get up, force our feet to take a tiny step forward, turn our heads to the left and right and look for a different path. The second option offers hope. Something different will be ahead and the first means that we’ve decided to stay in the unhappy place. Which will you choose? A day, a week or a year from now, where do you want to be? The choice is yours. Happiness is an active practice and you can take tiny steps, at any moment.
November 23rd, 2015
Life was too short so she made the choice to stop judging and start loving. – Queenisms™
Boy, oh boy, is it ever easy to judge others for their actions and opinions. And, in fact, it’s pretty darned easy to judge ourselves, too. We can find fault at the drop of a hat, even when we’re trying hard to keep our hearts and minds open. Happiness relies on us continuing to try and master this skill. When we’re finding fault with everything around us, that negativity colors our perceptions and alters the way we see and hear everything. There’s even science to back up the notion that negativity alters our brainwaves. Positive thought, like happiness, may take practice if you’ve been stuck in the negative for awhile. But first, make the decision to try. Make a commitment to yourself. Then, any time you hear yourself spouting some kind of judgment, pause and rephrase and tell yourself something positive. Sounds silly, but we promise it truly works. And that’s a breath of fresh air.
November 22nd, 2015
She simply could not fathom how the hamper could repel everyone else’s dirty laundry, yet tidily capture her own. – Queenisms™
It’s the little things that can chip away at our happiness. Who hasn’t felt deeply annoyed when repeated requests for laundry to be placed in the proper place are ignored or forgotten? And while this might remain one of the great mysteries in life, we think it is, perhaps, not worthy of being one of the robbers of happiness. And so, we’re practicing this mantra. “I am thankful I have laundry to pick up and grateful for a floor from which to retrieve it.” You?
November 21st, 2015
Some days she just wanted to chuck it all and send everyone packing. But she knew she’d probably have to pack for them and frankly, it was just too much work. – Queenisms™
We believe in the power of laughter to remind us that we don’t need to take everything – including ourselves – so seriously. We have the ability to love people and be irritated with them, and then love them again. We do not, on the whole, need to pack it in. Laughter helps, by the way.
November 20th, 2015
She talked to herself all of the time because she loved her own sense of humor. – Queenisms™
We crack ourselves up all the time and frankly we suspect you do too. Having a good chat with yourself on a regular basis, and allowing that sense of humor to uplift you, is a very good thing. Look for the humor in situations that are causing you distress. Notice those things you cannot control (most things) and find the silliness in them. Listen for things in every conversation that tickle you. Amplify that. You’ll be glad you did.
November 19th, 2015
“Choose the easy road,” they’d said. “Easy for whom?” she’d wondered. Then she went about the business of being fabulous. – Queenisms™
Here’s a little secret. There is no easy road. There will always be something that challenges us along the way; loss, sorrow, change, fear, even boredom. So if we want to choose the easy road, the best thing we can do is cultivate flexibility in our thinking. When we’re able to side step potholes, jump over rocks, sweep aside branches and other debris and keep on moving, that’s where we’ll find that “easy” road. The journey isn’t necessarily what makes you fabulous. The very fact that you choose, each day, to take the journey is what makes you fabulous.
November 18th, 2015
She wanted to be happy so she decided to just be herself. Can you say, “peace of mind?” – Queenisms™
There is no stress or worry when you are being yourself. There are no fibs to remember, no rules to break or bend and nothing that needs changing when you are you. We believe you are good women with good intentions who want the best for those around you, and for yourself. So we think that when you allow yourself to simply be yourself, rather than the person you think everyone wants you to be, then THAT woman is a very special person. Think of the peace of mind we’d all have if we were simply, purely, perfectly ourselves.
November 17th, 2015
Our newest book and desk calendar for 2016 are here and creating them for you brought us a great deal of joy. We hope they bring joy into your life all year long as well. You can find them at Barnes & Noble and Amazon.com and other fine retailers. Here are the links to help you:
The Gift Book at Amazon
The Gift Book at BN.com
The 2016 Calendar at Amazon
The 2016 Calendar at BN.com
And, if you’ve already purchased these, and loved them, might we be so bold as to ask you to leave a review on the sites to help other women find them and love them. Thank you so much.
November 17th, 2015
She decided to treat herself the way she would treat someone she loved. That simple decision took her breath away. – Queenisms™
We think of “friending” as something we do on Facebook and it amuses us that the noun “friend” can now be used as a verb. But that’s neither here nor there. What the Queens most want to say today is this. You are worthy of your own friendship. When you treat yourself with kindness and respect, you amplify the qualities that are most desirable to other as they look for friends. In addition, you model to the world at large exactly how you believe you should be treated. In other words, love yourself enough to expect good behavior from those around you, toward you and toward the world. If you find yourself in a situation where this is not the case, do everything in your power to speak up or move on. Won’t you “Friend” yourself today?
November 16th, 2015
A word could sting just as much as a slap. She decided to let no one speak ill towards her – not even herself. – Queenisms™
We would never let anyone speak to us the way we sometimes speak to ourselves. Abusive language from anyone is unacceptable and leaves a mark, unseen by felt. Don’t you think it’s time to step in an stop the abuse? Try this. It works for us. Every time we catch ourselves saying something hurtful to ourselves such as “I’m so stupid, or I’m so fat, or I’m not smart enough,” we stop and say this out loud. “That is not true. I’m not stupid (fill in the blank on your own self-talk here).” Then we rephrase with something more supportive. “I may have made a mistake, or I may not be at that weight I want to be,” or whatever the issue. Then we say “However, I am worthy of my own support and I will not hurt myself with words today. I will find at least one positive thing to say to myself right now.” And, then we do. Why is it that saying something positive to ourselves is so much harder than saying negative things? Let’s practice together. Can you tell us one positive thing about you right now?