July 15th, 2014
She got up every morning and performed heroic deeds, simply by doing what needed to be done. ~ Queenisms™
So do you, and so does every woman. We put our aches and pains and fears aside and we do what needs to be done. We go to a job, we put food on the table, we care for our families and for some of us, just getting out of bed is the same challenge as someone climbing a mountain. If doing what needs to be done each day seems easy for you, stop for a moment and think about just how much you do. We believe it’s an impressive feat and we honor you today, Queens. Bravo. Now give yourselves a hand.
Photo: National Archives – Women’s Land Army, WWII
July 14th, 2014
She woke up with anxiety but felt immediate relief when she remembered that she was in charge of how to react to people, places and things. She decided that today she would respond to everyone with understanding, love and a sense of fun – including herself. – Queenisms™
Why are we so quick to give love and understanding to others, but so slow to give it to ourselves. Look in the mirror today and repeat after us: “I understand you are doing the best you can, today. I admire you for that and I support and love you.”
Affirmations are powerful exercises where we imprint new thinking onto our brains and they really work. No matter how foolish you may feel at talking to yourself, please give this a try, and another try, and another. We can attest, personally, to the transformational qualities of retraining your brain to hear positive messages from you, about you and we offer this exercise to you.
July 12th, 2014
She realized she’d been her own harshest critic, and luckily, she could stop any old time she pleased. And so she did. The ensuing quiet was delicious.~ Queenisms™
Let’s quiet our minds for a moment and banish all those nit picky little judgments we all have running around in there. Here’s a little secret. Nobody is thinking those things about you, except you. And, nobody can kick those negative thoughts to the curb but you. So what are you waiting for? Time to clean your mental closet, isn’t it? Take that negative self talk to the trash bin where it belongs. Wave goodbye and don’t look back.
July 9th, 2014
She decided to stop trying to be who she wasn’t and just celebrate who she was. – Queenisms™
Can you imagine how much more enjoyable life would be if we could just drop our “what if” mentality and celebrate who we are rather than who we wish we were? Let’s take a step in that direction and give ourselves a good old fashion shout out today. Tell us something worth celebrating, about yourselves, today. Don’t be shy. We’ll start. We think we’re pretty darned creative and we’re giving ourselves three cheers. Your turn!
July 8th, 2014
She did not ask for permission to make her dreams come true, nor did she wait for others to share her confidence in the path she’d set for herself. She knew the right people would catch up eventually.
Don’t you just wonder what she saw with those big brown eyes? It does not matter if others see what you see. Your vision is unique to you and for you. You are the sum of your entire life experience, both the good and the bad. No one has that precise combination of experiences so how could they possibly see your path the way you see it? When we wait for permission or approval or support, sometimes we sit on the sidelines of our own lives. The only approval you really need is your own. And if you become practiced in asking yourself what you truly want to invest your time and heart in, then you’ll find your own navigation system works pretty darned well.
July 7th, 2014
She could be gentle, kind and loving but let no one be fooled – she was a Warrior Queen who had the strength and courage to conquer all that life tossed her way. – Queenisms™
A warrior queen is a woman who does not accept no for an answer when the answer is so important to her family, friends and to herself. She does battle when the stakes are high. She stands up for those who have no voice. She has found her own voice and uses it for good.
You know who you are. You do battle for your loved ones and for yourself on a daily basis. You stand up for what’s right, you push to make sure your concerns are heard and you work hard to right the wrongs, intentional or unintentional, that come up in life’s journey. You are our hero, today, Warrior Queen.
July 6th, 2014
She challenged the status quo by asking herself radical questions like “what once worked for me but no longer serves my needs and should be banished?” And, “what do I love about myself that I want to amplify and nurture?” The answers helped her make the decisions and take the actions that brought peace and joy into her life. She was a woman of great courage. ~ Queenisms™
These are questions we ask ourselves regularly. In part because the answers change with our desires, stage of life and our circumstances. But also because we develop amnesia. We forget that we have to choose what to keep and what to banish. We fall into the trap of letting life happen to us or living someone’s dream besides our own. Dare to ask yourself questions often. Then have the courage to sit quietly and wait for the answers, from you.
July 5th, 2014
She was quick to laugh, slow to criticize and a steadfast defender of those she loved. In return, she was deeply cherished. ~ Queenisms™
Cherished. What an incredibly powerful word. We want to be cherished, don’t you? We talk a great deal about being an agenda-free friend and here’s why. When we support those close to us but taint our support with advice that is good for us but may not be what’s best for them, then we’re, in essence, criticizing their lives. We must take our own best interests out of the equation and ask ourselves, what would be best for this person I love? We may wish they’d get a new haircut, wear less make up, talk more softly, eat less, not accept a job far away or whatever. But what’s right for them? Does sporting a quirky haircut make them feel adventurous? Does a lot of make up help them feel as though they stand out in the crowd? Are they loud because they fear no one can hear them?
Every person you meet is carrying a burden, seen or unseen. Do not add to that burden. Be a friend who is slow to criticize, quick to laugh and one who deeply cherishes and in return is deeply cherished by friends.
Photo: Pamela K. Weaver Tomasello’s sister-in-law, Mary
July 4th, 2014
Her negative voice had been jabbering at her for almost all her life. She knew it was time to put the kibosh on that old useless habit. So she decided that from this moment on she would only speak to herself in a kind and loving way. She knew it was going to take a bit of practice but she was worth the effort. – Queenisms™
Don’t you just love the word kibosh? It’s got clout. We’re suggesting you put the kibosh on anything and anyone who doesn’t speak to you in a loving way. You are worth the effort to hold people accountable for behaving in a supportive manner in your presence — including yourself. Negative voices jabber away in our heads and play old, outdated messages. It’s time to put the kibosh on those voice whether they come from within or from the outside. Words and messages become feelings and thoughts.
July 3rd, 2014
She wrote herself an encouraging note because one can always use the support of a good agenda-free friend. ~ Queenisms™
We find that writing ourselves notes is a terrific way to start a conversation and work through some questions and thoughts that haven’t surfaced but are still picking at us and robbing us of joy. Write yourself a love letter. Tell yourself thank you. Apologize to yourself. Tell yourself everything will be all right.
What would your note say?