Queen of Your Own Life by Kathy Kinney and Cindy Ratzlaff

Queen of Your Own Life is an attitude, a way of life and a call to action for grown up women everywhere.

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Queen of Your Own Life

Be Part of the Sollution

December 5th, 2016

She wanted to be part of the solution, not part of the problem. So she decided to do her best daily to treat every one with love, kindness and respect. - Queenisms™

She wanted to be part of the solution, not part of the problem. So she decided to do her best daily to treat every one with love, kindness and respect. – Queenisms™

We used to struggle with the question of how to make the world a better place when we were just ordinary women.  We found our solution when we realized that ordinary women could lead extraordinary lives.  We choose, on a daily basis,  to be part of the solution of healing the world by treating every one we meet with kindness, love and respect – even ourselves!  We like to think of ourselves as small pebbles tossed into a very big pond – that make some really far-reaching ripples.  How are you part of the solution?

Our Shameless Self Promotion

December 3rd, 2016

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Please allow us a moment of blatant bragging and pure commercialism. We’re just pleased as punch by our books and calendars and we think someone on your list might be too! Thank you for indulging us!

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Practicing Patience

December 2nd, 2016

She decided to practice being patient with family, friends, pets and especially herself. - Queenisms™

She decided to practice being patient with family, friends, pets and especially herself. – Queenisms™

With hectic lives and trying to get so much accomplished in a single day, our loved ones are easy targets for our frustration.  We decided to give ourselves and them a break by letting go of our perfectionism, slowing down and taking some much needed deep breaths.  We are all just trying to do the best we can and that has to be enough.  We realized that at the end of the day we didn’t want to be known as a woman who got everything done but instead we wanted to be remembered as a kind, caring and patient woman who treated others fairly.

Courge To Care For Yourself

November 30th, 2016

She decided to gently let go of the hurtful people in her life. She wasn't afraid to take care of herself. - Queenisms™

She decided to gently let go of the hurtful people in her life. She wasn’t afraid to take care of herself. – Queenisms™

We’ve both let go of people this year who were no longer a positive influence in our lives.  There was a time when we would keep friends who were harmful to us through the mistaken idea that loyalty was important – and it is – but being loyal to yourself is the top priority.  Keeping someone in your life who is a source of negativity and who doesn’t have your best interests at heart is just wrong for both of you.  It takes courage to let someone go and to do it gently is a great skill.  We have discovered that letting go of hurtful people opens your life to letting in positivity.  Have you noticed this as well?

Time For An Adventure?

November 29th, 2016

She thought, "When was the last time I did something for the first time?" It was time for an adventure. - Queenisms™

She thought, “When was the last time I did something for the first time?” It was time for an adventure. – Queenisms™

We made the decision several years ago that being life-long learners was the way to stay young.  Cindy’s life changed when her company laid off all the executives and she found herself jobless with her whole life gaping wide and empty ahead of her.  She treated it like an adventure, walking through her fear and, even though her brain ached at times, she took classes and did research to become a social media expert – which she ultimately did – all the while changing herself and her life for the better.  We think life is a series of adventures and it’s up to us to add the fun.  How about you?

How To Find Happiness

November 28th, 2016

She knew that all of the money and bling in the world wouldn't make her happy. Happiness was an inside job that required practice and patience. - Queenisms™

She knew that all of the money and bling in the world wouldn’t make her happy. Happiness was an inside job that required practice and patience. – Queenisms™

We always thought we’d finally be happy when we were richer, thinner, blonder or had better jobs.  Well, we became richer, thinner, blonder and got better jobs but we still weren’t happy.  Happiness is a choice and we make it daily.  Here’s how we look at it – would a smart woman choose to put off living her life until she was perfect OR accept herself for the unique and wonderful person she was and then head out on her adventure?  That’s what we thought – it’s nice to be on this adventure with you!

How To Get What You Need

November 25th, 2016

She was tired of not getting what she needed, yet she knew it was no one's fault but her own. So, she decided she would show the world how to treat her by loving herself completely and unconditionally. It would take practice but she was worth the work. - Queenisms™

She was tired of not getting what she needed, yet she knew it was no one’s fault but her own. So, she decided she would show the world how to treat her by loving herself completely and unconditionally. It would take practice but she was worth the work. – Queenisms™

We used to think people should just know what we wanted and needed and then should give it to us.  We don’t know where we got the idea that everyone should be a mind reader where our needs were concerned but we dropped that idea like a hot potato. We made the choice to make our needs known and to speak up for ourselves.  We deserve to be treated well and with love but first we have to give it to ourselves so the world knows what we expect.  Do you still believe in mind readers?

Perfectly Imperfect People

November 24th, 2016

She decided to spend the day embracing, with love, the perfectly imperfect people in her life - even herself. - Queenisms™

She decided to spend the day embracing, with love, the perfectly imperfect people in her life – even herself. – Queenisms™

We love this image and Queenism so we run it every year for Thanksgiving.  We’ve both had the experience of hosting a family and friend attended holiday party and found ourselves looking around the table and thinking, “Every one of these people are crazy and so am I!”  Then we laugh to ourselves, embrace them all with love and ask for more mashed potatoes.  Unconditional love is just that – loving someone no matter how imperfect they are – including ourselves.  It’s part of being human and something that makes the holidays a whole lot easier.  Do you have any secrets for getting through the holidays?

Whose Opinion Matters?

November 23rd, 2016

Sometimes she let herself be bothered by other people's unkind deeds or words. She promised to remember that the only opinion that mattered was her own. - Queenisms™

Sometimes she let herself be bothered by other people’s unkind deeds or words. She promised to remember that the only opinion that mattered was her own. – Queenisms™

We’ve both allowed ourselves to feel like victims of judgmental looks and words from strangers, family and friends.  We finally made the choice to not take the world so personally.  When we realized that no one could hurt our feelings unless we let them – we decided not to let them.  Ok, we know it’s harder than it sounds but not impossible.  It requires a bit of practice and an occasional phone call to a trusted and supportive friend but the freedom of letting go of other’s nastiness is so worth it.  Truly, the only opinion of you that should matter is your own.

Permission Granted

November 22nd, 2016

There were so many things she wanted to do but fear of failure always stopped her. She decided to give herself permission to take risks, fail, succeed and to enjoy every single minute of it. - Queenisms™

There were so many things she wanted to do but fear of failure always stopped her. She decided to give herself permission to take risks, fail, succeed and to enjoy every single minute of it. – Queenisms™

It has always been our belief that failure is not anywhere near as bad as never trying at all.  Getting over fear is not just black and white, it’s about giving yourself permission to take the risk and then letting yourself enjoy the process.  Life is about making mistakes, learning and then getting over them – we all do it. Success alway seems so much sweeter when you have failed a bit along the way.  Don’t you agree?