October 24th, 2016
Being Queen of her own life didn’t mean she wanted to wear a crown all the time or thought she was better than anyone else. It meant she had made the decision to live her life to the fullest and knew she was woman enough to do it. – Queenisms™
Some women like to wear a nice sparkly tiara and some women don’t – either way it doesn’t mean they can’t make the choice to be the Queen of their own lives. Claiming your power and making positive choices about how to live your life doesn’t mean you think you’re better than anyone else it means you’re wise! We think you’re woman enough to make this choice. How about you?
October 21st, 2016
One day the realization hit her that life was a glorious adventure. She decided she was woman enough to enjoy it. – Queenisms™
We smacked ourselves on the side of our head and said, “Duh,” when we realized that we had a choice of how to look at the lives we were living. Then we took a moment to think back to the dreams we had as little girls about what kind of life we were going to live when we grew up. We chose adventure then and we choose it now. We’re not talking about living on the high seas and fighting with pirates. We’re talking about finding joy and challenge in our every day lives. We make going to the grocery store and buying a new kind of mustard an adventure. When you were little what kind of life did you think you were going to lead? Are you living it?
October 19th, 2016
She craved laughter and decided to give herself as much as she could get. She was delighted that it was calorie free. – Queenisms™
The very first time we talked about wanting to be the Queen of our own lives we talked about banishing our low self-esteem and keeping our sense of humor. We crave laughter like others might crave chocolate. Life is so much more pleasurable with a smile and a laugh. On a day of tension and anxiety there is nothing more healing than a big belly laugh. We find it where we can and have as much as we can hold and the fact that it’s good for you and calorie free is one of the small joys of life. Do you give yourself enough laughter?
October 18th, 2016
She wanted to be known as a woman who always had a ready smile, but also knew how to set a gentle but firm boundary. It was going to take practice but she was soooooo ready. – Queenisms™
Setting boundaries always seemed so scary and hard. When we finally couldn’t stand living in the resentment anymore we began to practice saying, “No.” At first we did it with a lot of apologizing cause we were worried that people wouldn’t like us anymore. And, some people were a bit miffed that we weren’t saying “Yes” all of the time. In time we stopped apologizing and simply ran a check on our feelings before we gave our answer. It took practice and we’re not perfect but the freedom and protection of being a good boundary setter is so worth it. Are you good at boundaries?
October 17th, 2016
She realized that the key to a joyful life is having the faith to hang on tightly to hope, even when the end doesn’t seem to be anywhere in sight. – Queenisms™
In the past we’ve been known to wallow in a bit of fear and despair. And, the truth is fear and despair are always lurking around the corner ready to jump out at us without a moments notice. We just choose to not wallow in it anymore because we would rather lead a joyful life. Making the choice to look at the positives in life is a way to build a sold base of hope so you have something to hang on to. Do you still wallow or do you only take a quick dip in despair and then grab for the hope?
October 14th, 2016
She wanted to live this day with joy, fun and no judgement of herself or others. Since it was her choice, and her choice alone, that’s exactly what she decided to do. – Queenisms™
Somebody was asking us the other day about how to let go of self-judgement. We told them that it was a choice that we made every day. And they said yes but how did you do it, when did you come to that point. The answer is when you can’t stand to live in the pain of self-judgement you make the choice to change. We didn’t want to judge ourselves anymore and we certainly didn’t want anyone else to judge us so we made the choice to change. It takes courage and practice but it was so much easier than we ever dreamed and we are worth it. We know that you are worth it as well.
October 13th, 2016
The only drama she was interested in these days was the kind she found when reading a good book. – Queenisms™
When we were younger we were fueled by the drama we created in our lives. It made us feel like we were interesting women who were leading exciting lives. The truth is nobody really likes spending time with a Drama Queen. It’s hard to listen to all of the blah, blah, blah drama and to watch someone waste so much time being over sensitive. We’ve decided that life’s not meant to be so hard. We knew we had a choice – Drama Queen or Positive role model for ourselves and others. We always choose drama free living, how about you?
October 12th, 2016
There was a light in her eyes that told the story of a life lived with courage, strength, humor and grace. She was beautiful inside and out. – Queenisms™
We spent years – wait who are we kidding – decades, thinking we weren’t pretty enough. We’ve finally come to believe that there is nothing more beautiful than the face of a woman who is enjoying the life she is leading. Don’t get us wrong cause we love face creams and cosmetics but there is a glow that a woman has when she’s given herself the gift of happiness. And, it comes from simply making a choice everyday to be happy – to look for the things to be grateful for rather than the negatives. Happiness is a practice that is the best beauty balm in the world. Don’t you agree?
October 11th, 2016
She had come so far and was really proud of how she had survived. She was thrilled by who she had become and the adventure she was on. She thought, “Ain’t life grand?” – Queenisms™
We decided that we never give ourselves enough credit for all of the things we’ve survived in our lives and that we did it all with our sense of humor intact! Death, divorce, illness and being fired are a few of the top painful events in life but don’t forget the difficulty of moving, loss of a friendship and letting go of a dream. All of the experiences that we have survived have made us the truly awesome women that we are right now. Remember if there was no grit in the oyster there would be no beautiful pearl!
October 10th, 2016
She was working on learning how to set a strong boundary. She wanted to be a woman of her word. Yes means yes and no means no. – Queenisms™
We have both resigned from the People Pleasing Club. We discovered that learning to set a strong boundary was easier than we thought. At first it was uncomfortable to say, “No,” to the people we had always said yes to. But we decided we would rather be a bit uncomfortable than live a life full of resentment because we were always agreeing to do things we really didn’t have the time for. We are just very clear and honest when we set a boundary. We have learned to say, “I’m sorry, I’m going to have to say ‘No” this time. I wish I could help you but I can’t.” We discovered that people appreciate the honesty and learn to respect our word. How are you at setting boundaries?