October 10th, 2015
All she had to say was if they didn’t expect you to dance in the grocery store aisles, why the heck did they play music? – Queenisms™
Come on! You know you’ve done it, or at least you’ve wanted to. That insanely catchy tune comes over the loud speaker just as you’re cruising the canned tuna aisle and first you bop your head to the beat. Then suddenly you realize you’re in full on dance mode and you might just be singing out loud. There’s a name for that. It’s called joy. We’d like to declare every day to be “National Dancing in the Grocery Aisles” day because sometimes it just feels awesome to let loose! Who’s with us?
October 9th, 2015
After a particularly hard kick in the pants by life she reassessed her priorities. She chose love, laughter, happiness and friendship. – Queenisms™
Life has a way of giving us a good swift kick in the pants, often when we’re least expecting it. Sometimes that wake up call is enough to get us to reassess our priorities and figure out what’s really important. Is it a status symbol car or a big house? Is the priority a sense of well being because you’ve given up a bad habit that has been ruling your life? Is it making amends with a cherished friend who drifted away because of a misunderstanding? Whatever it is, let’s not wait until life lays us low with some epic wake up call. Let’s give ourselves the gift of regular reassessments and the space to make small adjustments toward inviting more joy, love, laughter and happiness into our lives. Here’s what we do. Every morning we have disciplined ourselves to take a few minutes to list something we’re grateful for before we begin our day. Then throughout the day we ask ourselves, “does this make me happy?” We’re aiming to ask and answer that question often in order to be honest and clear with ourselves about what really does bring joy to our hearts. If you don’t ask, you can’t get. Just saying.
October 5th, 2015
She finally celebrated who she was – a hard working woman with good common sense and a great sense of humor. – Queenisms™
It still surprises us that common sense is, well, uncommon. But what surprises us even more is that a sense of humor seems to be something we lose at the first sign of trouble or difficulty. In looking at the darkest or hardest times we’ve gone through, a sense of humor has helped nudge us through to a lighter, more peaceful place. We value humor in our friends as one of our core values. We choose our partnerships based on having a great sense of humor. We feel we’d be lost without the ability to find the ironic, humorous or light moments in every day. To us, it’s just common sense. We’re meant for joy. Happiness is our natural state. Humor is so often a pathway to joy. Are you able to find the funny in even the darkest day?
October 4th, 2015
Some days there was so much to do she wished she could clone herself. Then she realized she was just one woman, doing the best she could. And, jeepers, that would have to be good enough. – Queenisms™
We’ve all felt this way. If only there were more of us, we could get it all done. But there aren’t more of us. And so, we have to decide to accept that what we can do just has to be good enough. That phrase, “Good Enough” has always felt like “not good enough” to us. It’s been used to indicate that someone (usually us speaking to ourselves) just couldn’t cut it and if we’d only worked harder we would have been not just good enough but superior. We’d like to propose that this deep fear that we’re not good enough may just be the root of the majority of our feeling of unease in the world. What if we all just decided, today, that we are good enough and whatever we’re able to accomplish in a day is just right? What would it feel like to go to bed satisfied and wake up refreshed and interested in the day rather than filled with shame about everything we didn’t accomplish? We don’t know. But we’d sure like to try. So we’re committing to you to make that goal a priority this week. How about you?
October 2nd, 2015
She was tickled pink when she realized that happiness was a choice she could make, no matter how life was treating her. – Queenisms™
We know that no one feels happy all the time. We also know that some struggle to access that feeling of happiness due to clinical depression and life circumstances. But all happiness is about choice. Not just the choice to look at life in a positive way – that’s a nice start. But the choices we make throughout our day, every day.
Do we allow anger because a driver wants to merge into our lane on the highway, or do we graciously give them space to join the road? Do we snarl at the coffee counter person because it takes too long for our order or do we breathe deeply and feel grateful they have a job and we will soon have coffee? Do we see the humanity in others or do we isolate ourselves against interactions for fear of needing to speak up for ourselves if the situation calls for it? We’re talking about being content in the world and feeling confident you have your own back. That’s the kind of happiness we can choose, with daily practice.
September 29th, 2015
Born to regular folks but raised to royalty by her own choice. She was the newly crowned Queen of her own life. – Queenisms™
If you’re like most of us, you were not born to royalty. You were born to regular folks. The whole concept behind Queen of Your Own Life is that we are, in fact, all royal. And we get to choose to treat ourselves as such. We believe you are worthy of your own self-care, self-respect and seeing yourself as valuable. That, to us, means you are royal.
September 21st, 2015
She had felt lost until she found her inner Queen voice and heard it say, “Don’t worry you’re going to be alright, no matter what.” – Queenisms™
Let’s not be subtle here. That voice is your voice. You’re the Queen of your own life and only you can reassure you that things are going to be ok. You will not let yourself down. You are a stronger, braver, kinder, more clever person than you imagined. How do we know? Because you’re here, now, reading this. That means you’re a seeker of inspiration and someone who wants to be surrounded by positive thought. That also tells us you’ve got everything you need to take care of business – no matter what. Everything will be alright because you’re in charge of your life.
September 20th, 2015
She needed someone to believe in her, so she looked in the mirror. – Queenisms™
We can tell you that we believe in you til the cows come home, but that won’t make you happier or more confident. Only you can tell you what you need to hear. Now don’t let that woman in the mirror down. Tell her today.
September 19th, 2015
She believed detours were simply unexpected sightseeing opportunities. So she became a very good traveler. – Queenisms™
Photo: An original B&W photo from the Flickr vintage collection of @MrWaterslide, re-imagined with permission, by the Queens.
We loved this woman’s face the moment we saw her. She spoke to us. She looked as though she’d seen a lot, done a lot, endured a lot and still kept on. She looked as though she had no time for nonsense and we adored that about her. Since her name and her real story are lost to history, all we have is our impression of her and the lesson it brings to mind for us. We think she’d say “Hey, stuff happens. Life’s path is not always smooth. But this is the only life we have so become a traveler who enjoys the journey.” What does she say to you?
Life is a sightseeing opportunity. Look around. Drink it in. Revel in the fact that you are a very good traveler.
September 18th, 2015
Her only regret was how much time she had wasted having regrets. Her life was a gift and she decided she was going to enjoy it. – Queenisms™
We have a confession to make. We are not regret free. But we’ve learned that dwelling on those regrets is a complete waste of time. It is not a platitude to remind ourselves each day that the present is the most important time of our lives. It is an essential step in claiming happiness. Regret is a thief of confidence, self-worth and joy. Instead let’s view those moments we might feel regret as simple reminders of our courage in making changes, our ability to learn from our mistakes and our resilience. Then memories of regrets can be reframed as memories of triumph over dark times. Hail the Queens, you are more powerful than you know and we adore you.