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Queen of Your Own Life

Life is Too Short for Fiddle-Faddle

September 30th, 2014

Original quotes and digital art by Kathy Kinney and Cindy Ratzlaff. http://QueenofYourOwnLife.com

She was a woman of her word. She said yes when she meant yes and no when she meant no. Life was too short for fiddle- faddle. ~ Queenisms™

When we are clear about the words yes and no, we set ourselves up for less stress, more support and a cleaner, happier life. What do we mean? Think about the feeling in the pit of your stomach when you’ve agreed to do something you didn’t really want to do. The event approaches, you feel stress and ultimately you’re resentful of the person who asked you for the commitment. But your resentment is misplaced. You created the stress by not taking the time to fully ask yourself if this was something you could do, wanted to do and were willing to do. Don’t compound the time-crunching stress that affects us all by saying yes when you mean no and then holding others responsible for your anxiety. Practice saying no so that your yes has real value.

A misguided yes is fiddle-faddle.

Worthy of Our Own Support

September 30th, 2014

Kathy Kinney and Cindy Ratzlaff are authors and digital artists. Queenisms are original works and all rights are reserved via TM, but pinning is encouraged.

She vowed to remind herself, every day, that she was worth the effort it took to treat herself with respect. ~ Queenisms™

Will you take the vow? Most of us would say “well, of course I treat myself with respect.” But do we really? Do you find yourself uttering “I’m so clumsy, foolish, stupid, fat” or any other disparaging remark? Do you find yourself putting off important doctor visits because there is “just too much to do?” Do you put your own wishes at the end of a very long “to do” list? Treating ourselves with respect means caring for ourselves at least as well as we care for others. We often need a reminder that it’s not selfish to care for self. When we’re strong, healthy and fulfilled, we can be beacons of light and support for others. Vow to treat yourself well this week, won’t you? We’d love to hear what you’ll do to treat yourself with respect this week. We’ll start. We vow to make ourselves nourishing and healthy food that supports wellness. We’ll have that food in our refrigerators so that foods that don’t support wellness don’t call to us in the evenings. You?

Your Whole Life is Ahead of You – Always

September 29th, 2014

Kathy Kinney and Cindy Ratzlaff are authors and digital artists who create original, trademarked works daily, called Queenisms.

She knew she didn’t have to be 21 to have her whole life ahead of her. ~ Queenisms™

If you woke up today and are reading this now, your whole life is ahead of you. No matter your age, there are joyful adventures in your future. You are never done, until this life is over. Please do not put yourselves into a state of thinking where you believe the best is behind you. You can create happiness, even joy, at any point, simply by choosing to do so.

Woman at ages 60, 70, 80 and beyond have accomplished things we never dreamed possible. Every day, before your feet hit the ground, you choose how you’re going to approach the day. Practice adjusting your mental attitude. If your eyes pop open and you feel dread about the many things that are on your plate, pause. Don’t get out of bed until you can verbally list three things for which you are grateful. In the beginning, those things might be as basic as “I’m grateful I woke up, I’m grateful I had a bed to sleep in, I’m grateful for the desire to be grateful.” Soon you’ll find yourself going deeper into your gratitude list and willing and able to pause throughout the day to add to that list. Repeat this exercise at night. We guarantee you will begin to notice a shift in the way you view your options. Your whole life is ahead of you and we are looking forward to walking this part of your journey with you. What are you grateful for today?

 

Coming from a Place of Love

September 28th, 2014

Kathy Kinney and Cindy Ratzlaff are authors, bloggers, speakers and digital artists. Queenisms are trademarked works. All rights reserved. For permissions: info@queenofyourownlife.com

She decided to come from a place of love when dealing with herself and everyone else. Being a loving woman didn’t make her weak, it made her strong, resilient and wise. – Queenisms™

Why is it that kindest and loving behavior is sometimes viewed as weakness? Being a loving woman does not make you weak. Your behavior is a choice and therefore, you’re a woman who has a strong sense of self, is willing to be loving and is not prone to lashing out or reacting with anger. In our opinion, that makes you wise and wonderful. Setting strong boundaries, while being loving, is one way we demonstrate that kindness is a choice. Letting people know, nicely, what is and is not acceptable behavior toward you, is honest and loving. Removing yourself from relationships that do not uplift you and others, is loving. Speaking to others and yourself, with respect, is loving. You, dear Queens, are loving and wonderful.

Give Yourself a Command to Have More Fun

September 27th, 2014

Kathy Kinney and Cindy Ratzlaff are digital artists, authors and speakers. http://QueenofYourOwnLife.com

She decided to give herself a royal command, “Relax, enjoy and have more fun!” She tuned into her Queen voice and started to listen. Queenisms™

Your true Queen voice always supports and uplifts you. That voice can be obscured by another voice that is not supportive. Sometimes the non-supportive voice is louder, not because it’s stronger or more authoritative, but because we’re out of practice. We want to encourage you to invite your Queen voice out to play. Get into the habit of listening for it. Ask yourself, does this idea, thought or voice support me? If the answer is yes, that’s your Queen voice. If the answer is no, that voice needs to be kicked to the curb. We do that by stopping in our tracks and saying out loud, “that is not true.” Then we rephrase whatever negative thought is coming through and make it a positive. For example” “I’m so stupid.” Pause and rephrase. “I’m not stupid. That is false. I made a mistake. I forgive myself. I make a new choice. I am a lifelong learner.”

What is your Queen voice saying today?

Give Yourself the Gift of Now

September 24th, 2014

Kathy Kinney and Cindy Ratzlaff create original Queenisms daily at QueenofYourOwnLife.com.

She didn’t want to miss a moment of her adventure worrying about things she couldn’t change. So she decided to let go of the past, stop being afraid of the future and give herself the gift of living in the NOW. – Queenisms™

The past can hold us captive, take our focus off the present and create new regrets. Don’t regret tomorrow what you did not do today because you were feeling bad about something that happened in the future.

Your Royal Medal of Honor

September 23rd, 2014

Cindy Ratzlaff and Kathy Kinney blog and write books about claiming happiness in midlife at http://QueenofYourOwnLife.com. All of their affirmations and digital art are original.

You are hereby awarded this medal of honor. For getting out of bed everyday and showing up for life with courage, humor and hope. – Queenisms™

Let’s pause for a second and thank ourselves for showing up in our lives. You do what must be done. You battle for survival. You seek solutions and you celebrate victories. We are in awe of your strength and courage. You deserve a medal. And, although you may not get one from anyone else, you’re getting one today from the Queens.

We believe most women deserve a medal to honor their courage, humor and the hope they demonstrate, every day simply by showing up and doing what must be done.

Queen Medal of Honor

September 23rd, 2014

Kathy Kinney and Cindy Ratzlaff are authors and digital artists who create Queenisms, original quotes and vintage images at http://QueenofYourOwnLife.com

You are hereby awarded this medal of honor. For getting out of bed everyday and showing up for life with courage, humor and hope. – Queenisms™

Every woman we know deserves a medal for the countless ways in which she displays courage in the face of danger, adversity, strife and fear. Bravo, Queens, bravo.  What would your medal be for? Let’s create a list we can read whenever we forget all the things we do and the courage we display in every day life.

No Time for Fiddle-Faddle

September 22nd, 2014

Cindy Ratzlaff and Kathy Kinney blog and write books about claiming happiness in midlife at http://QueenofYourOwnLife.com. All of their affirmations and digital art are original.She was a woman of her word. She said yes when she meant yes and no when she meant no. Life was too short for fiddle-faddle. ~ Queenisms™

Don’t you just love the word fiddle-faddle? And, we don’t mean the snack food.  Our lives are complicated beyond belief when we are not clear about our boundaries. When we train others to believe what we say, we create a calmer, happier life. Saying yes when you really want to say no, in most cases, creates resentment, regret and anxiety. When we say no to those things we are not able to do, we free the asker to find another solution. That’s honesty and don’t both we and our loved ones deserve complete honesty?

Setting boundaries by saying yes only when we are willing, able and desire to say yes is a form of rigorous honesty. Honesty sets us free from resentment. Freedom from resentment creates a calmer, happier life.

Release Your Queen Voice

September 21st, 2014

Cindy Ratzlaff and Kathy Kinney blog and write books about claiming happiness in midlife at http://QueenofYourOwnLife.com. All of their affirmations and digital art are original.

Once she found her Queen voice, she was never silent again. ~ Queenisms™

You have a voice that is strong and true. Your feelings, ideas, emotions, intentions and dreams are all important. When life’s challenges have left us believing that our opinions do not matter, there is work to be done. Think of your voice, your ideas and your actions as gifts you possess. They’re amplified when you share them. Now, we’re not talking about being a bossy boots. We’re talking about thoughtfully and with an open heart, sharing your gifts with the world. We’re talking about your right, and your obligation, to shine.

  • Ask yourself questions daily.
  • Listen to the answers.
  • Wonder aloud if you have something to say that would help others.
  • Question the status quo.
  • Dare to suggest a different point of view.

Have you found your Queen voice?