March 2nd, 2014
She put on her big girl bloomers and did what needed to be done. And nobody and no thing could stop her. ~ Queenisms™
A Queen does what needs to be done. You all know that there have been days, weeks, months and years when you’ve had to point your feet forward and just do what had to be done to survive. You didn’t ask yourself “is this fun?” You just did it. That strength is in you. That power is yours and no one can take it away from you. You can do anything you set your mind to do. If there is anything you long to try or do but have been telling yourself is not possible, we want you to stop right now and head over to the mirror. Look THAT woman in the eyes and tell her what we already know about you. “You are more than capable of doing whatever you want to do. I believe in you.”
Let no one stop you – especially yourself.
March 1st, 2014
She could not do a thing about what had never been, so she opened herself up instead to the possibilities of what could be.~ Queenisms™
We cannot change the past. We can get stuck trying. When we’re stuck in the past we are closed off to the present and the future. Let’s focus, instead on being willing to be willing to be willing to see a different option. Who’s with us?
February 28th, 2014
She would not accept the status quo. She found her voice and used it in service not just to herself, but to other women as well. She was a woman on fire. ~ Queenisms™
Thank you to every woman of every generation who found her voice and would not be silenced. We believe that everyone is capable of finding her voice and speaking up. Sometimes that means saying “I don’t find it funny when you make racist jokes.” Sometimes it means saying “No thank you. I don’t want to hear gossip.” Sometimes it means saying “my opinion matters.” Whatever it is in your life, we are standing and applauding you. Find your voice. Use it. Be a woman on fire.
Special thanks to Robin Stratton for sharing this picture of her Great Grandmother Georgia McRoberts.
February 27th, 2014
She decided to stop comparing herself to women she saw in film, TV and magazines. She was a real woman and the star of her own life. Her time to strut the red carpet was now. – Queenism™
Those women you see on TV and in magazines. They’ve got an entourage of people who help make them look confident and beautiful. They are no different from you except they have a very public job. They still pull the blinds each night and hop into bed and think about exactly what you think about. Am I loved? Is my family safe? How can I support those who need me?
Sure they have more money than we do – maybe. But the basic human concerns and needs are the same except that every step they take on that red carpet is documented – and so is every fall. You are the star of your own life. You shine brightly and deserve the spotlight in your own life. Let’s hold our heads high and find those moments when we’ve been red carpet worthy and take a bow.
February 26th, 2014
In the face of often overwhelming despair, she was the kind of woman who would see the tiniest speck of hope and lead everyone towards it. – Queenisms™
Bad stuff happens even to good people. Yet some people are able to find within themselves that speck of hope that helps them move forward through things that would bring most of us to our knees. So how do we find and nurture that speck within ourselves. We look for it in our everyday life and recognize it. When we are able to laugh over spilled milk, we thank ourselves. When we’re able to compose ourselves after a car accident and do what needs to be done to fix the car, deal with the insurance and take care of any clean up, we thank ourselves. When we get out of bed even when we’d like to stay there, we thank ourselves. And slowly but surely we teach ourselves to recognize the speck of hope within us is really a strong, burning ember of power. Have you found your ember?
Photo: Clare Marie’s Nana Elizabeth Patricia
February 25th, 2014
Instead of feeling overwhelmed by fear and anxiety, she decided to be overwhelmed by gratitude. ~ Queenisms™
Sometimes anxiety and stress and fear overwhelm us and we cannot see a path around the boulder in the road. If only we could turn our heads to the left or right and see a way around the obstacle we’d be able to move forward. We find that when this happens to us, if we can pause, breathe deeply and focus on what we’re grateful for, that we can allow the fear and anxiety to wash over us and move on. Like a meditation, we make a mental list of the things for which we’re grateful in our lives. Some days that list is small. Some days we can only think of one. We’re grateful for another chance to have a go at the day. But even that simple thought helps us get up and try again. Let’s try this here together. What are you grateful for today?
NOTE: For some, the anxiety is beyond reason, and those people deserve the guidance and support of a professional who can help them.
February 24th, 2014
She knew that in this world you get what you give so she gave love, kindness and forgiveness to everyone she met. It was her gift to them and herself. – Queenisms™
When we put love and goodness out into the world, we are creating a wave of love and goodness that affects other people. We don’t always get to see the results of our positive behavior but we must have faith that there are results. The same for our negative output. When we put out joy without expecting anything in return, we change the way our brains see the world. If we are hurt, cheated and injured by others (as we all are now and then) often we need to take a look at our boundaries. Do we invite people to cross our boundaries because we don’t speak up for ourselves? Let’s give ourselves the gift of kindness and forgiveness, as we would to others.
Photo: Patti Page White’s mother, Lula Day Page
February 23rd, 2014
There was an infinite amount of all things good in the universe and all she had to do to have more in her life was to accept that she was just as deserving as everyone else. ~ Queenisms™
Being able to receive love, affection, friendship and an abundance of goodness requires that we believe we deserve those things. But of course I do, you might be thinking. Ask yourself honestly if you’ve ever thought “I’m not lucky,” or “I’m never going to get that.” Those are the kinds of negative self talk thoughts that are rooted in a feeling that we don’t deserve good things. Here’s a secret we want to share with you. You do not have to do anything to deserve goodness and joy. Those are your birthrights. You are already worthy. All you have to do is believe it and allow yourself to receive. Now if it were that easy, everyone would do it. We grow up being told we need to be humble and in many cases humility is misinterpreted by us, as children, as not being deserving. Humility is about gratitude. Deserving is a loaded word and we need to relearn our interpretation of the word. We humbly pose this to you. You are worthy of your own affection. You deserve to be loved and cherished. To humbly accept that fact and those things, is a step toward being the person you are meant to be.
February 22nd, 2014
Everyone had an opinion about what she should and shouldn’t do in life. She thought most of those opinions were just a bunch of baloney. And, she thought baloney was for lunch. ~ Queenisms™
Everyone has an opinion about every little thing. We find ourselves asking friends and family for advice and sometimes we get that advice whether we asked for it or not. Nobody knows what’s in your heart. Nobody knows what you’re willing to do and how hard you are willing to work to make those heart-felt dreams come true. So really, nobody’s opinion matters – except your own.
Photo: Linda Pergola Grayson’s Mom Mary “Lorraine”
February 21st, 2014
She offered kindness and patience to everyone but herself. She decided to give herself the gift of treating herself as she would someone she loved very much. It was about time. – Queenisms™
Why is it so easy to make time for others and not for ourselves? Why is it so easy to give others the benefit of the doubt but not give ourselves that same kindness? Let’s imagine what it would be like if we spoke to ourselves the way we would a treasured friend. What would you say to “her?”
A special thank you to author Babbette Hines for permission to use this photo from her book, Photobooth, http://amzn.to/Nh1ZOb